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Originally Posted by rickroll
so with three of the women i've been talking to the subject of how many partners one has had has come up
i'm surprised to find they all claimed single digits and at least two i have no doubt are being honest about it and the other who knows but wouldn't be shocked if she were being honest
i don't know my number but gave a range it's probably within and I they thought my number was high even if you broke it down into a ratio of partners/years being single seems pretty reasonable to me
the women have mostly said that most men they've had this conversation all gave single digit numbers as well
without trying to make this into too much of a derail, are single digits for single people nearing 40 the norm for the thread and their friends/partners?
for the females here, what is your "that's too many" line for men
I know a number of single guys near/40s who I'm fairly certain are low single digits. I was around there myself until I moved to a big city in mid-30s.
I've talked about this with some recent partners in that age range, one was in the 20s and with one I was her 3rd, but she's been a widow for 5 years. The former expressed surprise at my numbers for this year and 2019, but was less shocked when I explained these have been good years and you can't extrapolate. It only came up because this was a reconnection with someone from 6 years ago and she was interested in hearing about my adventures first, so I was happy to oblige.
Nobody should be lying about your numbers, that's a form of rape. If you don't want to, just say you don't want to answer or offer recent info if the concern is STDs (your last test date, partners since last test, etc.).