As long as there's decent food, alcohol, ambiance, or conversation, I'm enjoying myself.

I loathe Zoom dates, coffee dates, and socially distanced walking dates, which is why I cut back on dating quite a bit during COVID (and will cover more in another article). I think they have their merits, it's just that I get enough Zoom time at work as is, and I'd rather drink coffee or go for a walk myself (as both are ways I decompress/think quietly during)

LOL. It’s better than it sounds. We are like the same person with way different interests. We think the same things often

Just started online dating again a few months ago using Hinge. Went out with a chick for drinks 3 weeks ago and we didn't quite hit it off but I thought she was gorgeous and seemed like someone I'd be interested in dating long term so I asked her out to dinner 2 weeks ago. We went out and it was pretty similar vibes to the first date. Haven't texted her since (we weren't really texting much in between). She works a lot with weird hours and seems to have a somewhat busy schedule. Kinda don't wanna lay this hand down but not really sure what my next move could be. She starts work at 5:00-6:00 AM during the week so most evening activities are out during the week and seems like her weekends are typically filled up, but maybe I can sneak something in then. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences?

Speaking from experience: move on to the next one.

How did you leave it with her after your dinner date 2 weeks ago?

Outstanding post Burd!

This is accurate. "Didn't quite hit it off" and "interested in dating long term" shouldn't go together. Go out on a few more dates, get a better feel for what's out there, and you'll forget all about this girl.

Yeah, its obvious he's trying to keep dating her cause she's hot.

Which is fine for a ons, not to have a relationship.

That's kinda where I see myself now, no real expectation of finding a long term partner, not even going to try.





whatever

I'm pretty much over it too. Just felt kind of weird to let something like that go and felt like maybe should be giving it another shot for us to do something more fun and maybe she would come out of her shell more. We just met for drinks and then dinner so really only spent 4ish hours together. She had worked super long days, was very tired and had to do the same thing the following day. There were no flags or turnoffs for me and the conversation was ok, just nothing super fun and exciting.


I think its kind of a weird expectation that people should just have to immediately hit it off. I've got involved with friends/acquaintances/coworkers in the past where we initially didn't like each other and even had some small tiffs then eventually things kind of fell into place.

I ended it with a chick like 6 months ago that I thought was hotter but didn't think at all would have been a good match for me long term. This is definitely more than me just being hung up on her looks as everything else seemed pretty aligned with what I'm looking for.


other random news: I met a chick this week at a bar and ended up getting her number. This weekend I noticed that she had already matched with me on hinge but I hadn't matched with her yet. small world haha

What's the deal with Coffee Meets Bagel's "X days left" when starting a convo?

If this person is part of your life and you're going to see them whether you're compatible dating partners or not, sure, you keep seeing them as friends/coworkers/whatever and relationships can change and develop. Could happen with this girl too if you both want to force dates where you're not hitting it off for as long as it takes. But most online daters don't want to do that, and you shouldn't either, cause it's not the optimal way to be dating. You can move on to the next and you're much more likely to find someone who's a better fit.

It can be a bit depressing at first thinking you're passing on so much potential without really giving it a chance, but you need to realize there are plenty of other women out there who will check similar boxes plus more. The game is to find one of them, not the only one. Go for a second date in rare cases, if it's not easy by then it's not ever worth a third.

Good points d10. Guess I just have to lay it down. First time I've been in a situation like this so just wanted to run it by some people.

Just read this. Very well done! Thanks for sharing.

So the past couple of weeks I’ve been getting considerably fewer matches than normal for weekend swiping on bumble. I just put it down to the myriad of factors that can be responsible for pretty much any variance in online dating. But then a girl pointed out that she gets along great with Cancers (I’m an Aries) and I checked my profile and somehow it had changed my star sign and (a lot more worryingly) my kids status to ‘Have and want more’.

The girl immediately took the opportunity to ask if I want kids lol

Pretty fuming that I’ve lost a couple of weekends of matches due to the app screwing up.

Moral of the story periodically check your profile because it obv wasn’t me who did this.

Might be worth deleting your profile and starting fresh, no?

im back to online dating, time to connect then maybe get lucky

It's been a long time since I've been on a movie date, but writing this list reminded me why they're not great options (at least early on)

Ranking My Bottom 10 Worst Movie Dates Of All-Time

Not really a date but went to the movies with two restaurant co-workers. Think we were all just out of High School. One worked there for a while, and she dated several guys from the place who were friends of mine, so I just considered her a friend. The other was her friend of hers who had just started and I wanted to get to know better. We used to go out as a large group after work, but this time it somehow became just the three of us. Either there weren't a lot of decent choices, or we had already seen them all. So we wound up seeing 1984. WORST ****ING CHOICE EVER. The movie was so long and tedious and we drove pretty far to the theater, so I just drove them back to their cars afterward. We walked out most of the way through the movie, but it killed any possibility of hanging out afterward or even having good conversation on the ride back. The new girl lasted another week or so and quit suddenly. Never saw her again.

You all should just see the lines at the Moscow nightclubs, long lines of women none fat or brown all at least an 8!!
Leave them pinko coalburners , I am going to Siberia!

This is the consequences of mixo cheap labor over the boarder the whole standard of living and life itself becomes a blue ghetto. The woman problem is political and genetic.

Is this blatant racist going to be permitted to post here unfettered? No mod action?

Did you report the post?

There is a lot of casual racism that is thrown around and accepted in this thread that's a whole lot more subtle (but arguably more damaging) than the above post. As a minority who both reads and used to participate in this thread, it is sad that the vast majority of it seems to be accepted, and at times even openly encouraged/flaunted. I'm sure if I went back and read my old posts in this thread I'm a perpetrator of it as well but it's a little disappointing to see that it's still alive and kicking.

That being said, MrHrafn's post is obviously bad and should be reported.

That's the whole of 2p2, honestly. Goes double for sexism.

I would agree. It's actually the primary reason I largely stopped posting in this thread or 2+2 in general. I just thought the comments were particularly egregious.

Well I went ahead and reported it, because apparently no one else is willing or able.