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Originally Posted by vhawk01
Think I was at that meetup? Georgia Avenue was there? Rocket bar?
I'd be down for one of these whenever. Online dating is taking a backseat to my real life **** for right now, so I actually have more time than I normally do. LOL rocket bar tho.
So I believe I let girl #1 (feminist chick, for those of you that have been following my saga) down. She wanted to hang out this weekend, and I told her I was out of town this weekend, next week, and the weekend after that (all true). She asked if I still wanted to see her, and I responded that I was sorry but that I'm just really busy right now and I have no time for other stuff and I'd let her know if my schedule opened up any time soon (mostly true). She responded "Can't wait for your free night
". Oh well, hopefully she was just trying to save face.
Girl #2 is still going, and I think now that I'm toning down the rest of my activities, it won't be so stressful to go out with her (I was just tired all the time early on in the evenings).
I now have a (non online dating) quandary that I could use a line check on. I'm on a coed softball team, and there's a really cute redhead that I've been talking to. We've only seen each other at softball games so far, but it's pretty clear that I'm the person that she enjoys hanging out with the most on the team.
As an example, after our games tonight, we were planning on meeting up at another bar- myself and a different girl accidentally went to the wrong bar. We had a beer and then went over to the bar where the rest of the team was (about 45 minutes later). Redhead had saved a seat for me next to her the entire time and apparently (according to the team) hadn't let anyone else take it. We also sat in her car and drank before this game, and she knows that I'm actively dating other girls (she has commented on whenever I get texts, it's from certain people, and we've discussed it). At the bar today, she asked for my # and then said "I'm sure I'll talk to you before then" when I said I'd see her at next week's game as we were leaving. (side question- is this a throwaway comment? I would normally think it was, but it doesn't seem like something you randomly throw in while saying goodbye to someone you just play softball with)
My issue is that I actually like this girl as a person (in addition to being interested in her), and if she's not interested in me, I feel like she is a good person that I could become friends with and have her introduce me to other girls- thus I can't take the same approach I normally do.
So, a few questions:
-from my random TR, does it seem like she might be interested? feel free to ask other questions to get info
-is there a way I can ask out this girl where if she's not interested, we can still remain on amicable terms, but at the same time i can not come off as a pussy while doing it?
-i know it's generally not a bad idea to have girls know you're dating other girls- but is it a bad idea to talk about them casually/discuss whether you like them or not? assume you're not doing it in an awkward way at all and that it was something she brought up.