Foatie

Can you post the first 12-14 msgs total of your overall communication? you can edit out anythign specific or vaguely detailed.

Please respond to me whether or not this request is attainable

I was gonna say this too.

Prob very location dependent. All my friends in NYC are doing way better in their 30s than they did in their 20s.

That's gonna be a no from me.

Bingo!

NH foatie.

The pleasure, are you as creepy with women as you are with the guys in this thread?

You seem desperate to understand other people's dating experiences as if they have any bearing on your own ones whatsoever.

I'm sorry to break this to you, but you can't just learn how to date successfully by studying obsessively what other people do, like you can with poker. I mean there are some elements that you can take away, but at the end of the day you are your own person. Be your own man. Otherwise you're going to be coming across on dates trying to be someone you're not, and unless you know what you're doing women can see through that a mile away.

I think he’s just a gamer kid caught up in his own head/the internet and is trying wayyyyyyyy too hard.

The pleasure, focus on being yourself and being a fun person to talk to and interact with. The ones that connect well with you will find - the rest will work itself out. Just don’t get too caught up in your own head and don’t put “the pussy up on a pedestal” as Romany Malco says in “The 40 year old virgin”

I've been pretty much dating non whites only. It wasn't intentional, I just noticed it over the months. Here in the Bay Area white, middle-aged, single guys are either clueless or ****ed up. Depression, anxiety, substance abuse etc. Horrible generalization I know, but that seems to be what has skewed my dating pool.

I'm still trying to get a read on the Bay Area dating scene-- just moved back and the vast majority of the time I spent here earlier was in a relationship. It does seem like a place that's less social than most American cities, which makes sense given that the economy revolves around tech. I figure I'll give it a spin for 6-12 months and if I'm not making many new friends or going on a lot of dates I can always move back east.

Should I try to experience a little bit of the Fossil lifestyle in Los Angeles? I see a 29-year-old on Tinder listed as being a mile away with the following profile: "I'm from Medellin Colombia. I speak Spanish, German and little English. I am very friendly and I am angry with lies."

You should do whatever the hell you want.

Solid life advice.

Probably a decent chance she’s a hooker. A lot of Colombians and Venezuelans in CDMX seem to be, but if she’s legit then go for it.

I wouldn't pass up a good deal though.

Gaddy: look at that USDA prime beef marbling!

Fossil: yea but the meat is probably spoiled tho, most meat at those prices in my area for that quality, is spoiled.

Foatie: I wouldn’t pass up a good deal, though!

I was too lazy to meme this, so just imagine it in a Morph style meme

Went on a little trip with this girl I've mentioned a couple times ITT. We'd met 3 times before and she spent the night each time. I've been wanting to go to San Miguel de Allende and Guanajuato for a long time so I figured I'd invite her along since she seems fun and is amazing in the sack.

Trip ended up being a great time. San Miguel gets all the press (it was named Travel & Leisure's best city in the world for the last 2 years), but it was actually Guanajuato that I was really in love with. Add another to the list of places that I can't believe exist so close to the USA, but basically noone knows about. It's a city of about 180k people, but it feels livelier b/c of a 30k student population. There were tons of cute girls running around, it'd be a great place for a younger white guy. I should've swiped a bit on Tinder just to see how it went.

Had a great time with the girl. Her sex drive is every bit the equal of mine, so when we weren't exploring, eating, or sleeping, we were ****ing. It's still amazing with her even after a couple dozen times sleeping together. She's also a great travel partner, lots of fun, and we talked about a wide range of topics, and I liked most of her opinions. We never once had even a minor dispute, which is pretty impressive for 5 full days together. I don't think I had a single mini-trip with my ex without her arguing over something silly.

I'm not sure what to make of this girl. Her attitude is almost like one of the guys, just laid back and never bringing drama. Up to this point, she doesn't even really message me unless we're making plans and then she sends a couple messages of excitement and then doesn't bother me again. We even talked about how sometimes people are super insecure and needing to message all the time to keep tabs on a partner, and she hates that. Our last night together, she started a convo with "I need to ask you something...". I figured she'd ask to take the next step in a relationship or ask me not to sleep with other girls, but instead she just wanted to make sure I'd be using protection if I was sleeping around.

So I guess I'll continue dating around a bit. I figure if this girl wants to go exclusive, she'll bring it up within a month or 2, I probably wouldn't be opposed. So far, everything's been going really well with her. The only negative is that she makes very little money. On this trip, she didn't offer to pay for anything. Just a token gesture like paying for a couple $1 ice creams would have been nice. I think my ex was probably in the same salary range, and she'd usually throw in $2-3 if we had a $15-20 meal, which seemed fair considering our salaries. It's not a big deal when we're hanging out in CDMX or traveling in Mexico b/c everything is really cheap, but I feel like it would severely limit my ability to travel to Europe or South America in the future if I'm gonna have to foot the whole bill most/all of the time. I probably wouldn't let it be the reason not to keep dating her as long as everything else continues to go well, but it was nice dating some of the girls on better salaries who could chip in more.

San Miguel de Allende:


Guanajuato:


The girl:

If Fossil is happy, I'm happy! And she's cute. I really have to get to Mexico. The culture and easy going nature of the majority of your matches would mesh so well with my tastes.

As expected, my date from last week isn't responding to my texts, but I haven't been in full pursuit. It's a chill weekend for me.

As I'm sure you know any girl who says/posts this doesn't have a 'best.'

Maybe move to a bigger city as the current generation of college grads love older guys imho. I certainly screen out all girls not in shape and all moms. Crazy is harder to screen for but you can usually figure it out in person. 'Not over' is harder but if you just want to date and fwb does it really matter? Lots of people aren't over their ex- until they meet someone better.

Maybe focus on having a specific niche and you can find younger and hotter women to date. Be a social connector and meet all the girls in that niche and then you'll get to meet their friends and siblings and so on and so on.

If you have doubts if they girl you're on a date with wants a kiss at the end of the night, you should always give her the benefit of the doubt.

YaySports may not have been the hero that we asked for, but he's the hero that we needed.

From Bumble wrt the Global Connector Bee application:

I think this is where I gracefully bow out. I'm sure they already have their candidate in mind and this all seems like a ploy to get free advertising from hundreds of people. No thanks.

Excellent read.

I got messaged from a girl who current is in a work-release prison nearby, so she has to sleep there during the week but gets weekends off and just has to be wanded back in weeknights, so she can go out after 'work'. I wonder what she did. Cute and definitely seems a little crazy from her texts. As long as her offense wasn't violent or drug-related I'm tempted to have a drink with her - says her term is over soon. 24, says she really loves sex. It's always the crazy ones amirite?

Maybe focus on a specific niche so you can avoid the crazies and ex-cons. Also move to a bigger city, FTW.

Hey guys, just curious how it normally goes when you drop poker/gambling as a lifestyle or income generation?

I've found it usually turns them off right away and if it doesn't, it's just a matter of time before the facade drops.