I lol'd too, yet it's true. It's not just the view, though. It's the amenities at my place such as a full, separate bath tub, ease to make drinks or tea, access to content on TV and, most importantly, everything there is to do within walking distance.

You take baths so often you wont bang elsewhere lolz

It’s how we make sure her butt is clean and ready to party.

I cannot tell you how many times this opening line has lead to me banging a chick and opening the door in a non creepy way to sexual chatter (if this is your goal)

First Message: "Do you like getting dominated?"

Disclaimer: Do not use on okcupid as there are too many people who will report you and get your account closed. Works pretty well on bumble and tinder though.

What part of that is non-creepy?

if you follow rules 1 and 2 sure

but this may be tough for the other 98% of us idk

I knew a guy in college who worked for a sex talk 900 number. That was his main line, asking any woman (or man) who called in, "You like to be dominated?"

I really think this is a thing for many woman. Since jumping in online recently, I would guess that almost 50% of the women I have talked with love this. Even if they don't, many seem intrigued. It seems much more common with women under 40.

I wouldn't be surprised if that tactic can work. Previously I thought you have to be top 10% to get easy sex off the site, but then I tried fishing for FWBs and found it was easier than I thought to get decent looking women to agree to come to my place.

My tactic was a message like "hey just wanted to be up front that I'm only looking for a FWB. I study tantric sex and am looking for someone open-minded who wants to explore". Obviously different end of the spectrum from asking if they like to be dominated, but I think the key is that you appeal to certain niches and aren't just asking "hey, let's ****" like probably 90% of dudes who are looking for sex, so you seem more interesting.

With decoop's line, he'll pique interest in a certain segment of the population and then if he can follow it up by showing he knows what he's talking about and he's a trustworthy dude, then I could see some women going through with it.

BTW, Omaha Tinder is ****ing trash. I'm not even that selective, but only swiping right on about 1 of 15 women. On top of that, there are a ridiculous # of single mothers in this city once you hit 25+. That's the nice thing about CDMX, at least in the group that I usually match with, it's hard to find women with kids. I got a couple matches, but probably won't pursue anything. I was more curious about seeing how it compared.

I too have had success by telling women within the first 3 lines or so of the convo that I'm only looking for a FWB. But the "F" is key, "I just don't hook up with anyone, I want to see if I like you first". I've had many non-responses, but even when they seem to "reject the idea" they still keep the conversation going.

Another opener of mine is "What makes you unique?" And I leave it at that. I do like the "Dominated" question. 50 shades of grey was huge and the audience for that is pretty much all women. Millennials have no problem exploring/opening up to their kinks early if you ask them about it.

The key to these sites for me, is I don't pretend to want something that I don't. I also don't pretend like I want to make a deep connection. It saves my time, lowers expectations of both parties, and rarely does it leave me in a clinger situation.

My weekend was pretty dry. My new FWB didn't want to come over because she still lives with her parents and wanted to have a good mother's day weekend before she went away. I did get 3 great matches on CmB and I'm starting to like that app a lot. It seems like there's a ton more "professional career" types which is perfect for FWB situations. These women work so much and are so devoted to their career/projects that they compartmentalize their sexual needs and seem to be more open to hookups.

The most responsive girl I'm talking to now is pretty laid back and humourous. She's kind of plain Jane looking, but I've noticed a lot of times on these apps that most of the time they're 1-2 points better looking in person. She's originally from TX so her family doesn't live here locally. I used the "Do you like to be dominated?" Last night to pivot the convo as we were spending too much time talking about our careers and the conversation took off like a rocket from there. Even with a little dirty talk last night and a few good morning texts back and forth today.

We're going to try to meet tonight or sometime soon this week.

I’ve found that the girls are usually 1-2 points worse in person...or 20-50 lbs more...which never looks better. Where I’ve been told that I look better in person than my pics, which is always nice to hear but also makes me feel that I should have better pics because those would open more doors. Oh well.

Anytime I've bit the bullet and went for an older woman, 40+ I've noticed that they're clearly lying about their age in their profiles and they will tend to always be heavier than their pics. I've been sticking to the 26-32 range and my results have been much better this year in regards to looks.

I did have some major dental work done in January and a much more "fashionable" haircut so I'm most likely attracting better looking women than in the past.

I'm not a fan of a question like that makes women do work in the early stages. They'll probably just move on to an easier conversation.

Dominated could have some potential though I think "Do you like to be dominated?" needs some more polish. I'm too vanilla to back it up myself.

I'd say most women tend to look worse if they don't look like their pics. Especially older and >150 lb women. Career focused women on the thin side who are too busy to be super into social media(and don't use it as part of their job) could look better because they don't put as much effort into the profile and don't spend as much time thinking about their best pics to post on IG.

LMAO. So good. The struggle is real my man.

My experience is similar, 50% seem into being dominated as a regular thing [whether boyfriends only or randoms too], 25% have tried it 1-2x and are open, 25% are curious about it.

Obvs not for women who identify as dommes, but I don't message them.

Not a single woman has ever responded that it's creepy. The college girls are always always up for it. B, D or B&D. 50 shades took it mainstream. College girls pretty much all watch porn if they're on dating sites.

I've met at least 2 girls, one in college and one 27 that wanted to submit to me in ways I was not comfortable with having that kind of power.

edit - it is more usual for me to describe myself as dominant, and ask them if they're into light bondage.

Yeah they won’t respond if they think it’s creepy. It’s either there in or out, which is probably exactly what you want anyways.

LOL the last girl I hooked up with stalks my LinkedIn profile every day. I can't see her name but it says "Business Analyst at Deutsche viewed your profile" and I only know one person who matches that description. Don't do this bros, switch to the completely private mode if you're gonna stalk.

BRAG or BEAT?

Neither? It's just amusing.

majority of vegans motivations for being vegan are selfless, how is this a bad thing?

It's nice that she means well, but I was referring to the lifestyle clashes that her being a vegan and me not will invariably cause, particularly since I enjoy food so much.

I had a coffee/walking date this afternoon with the girl from CmB. I'll probably never talk to her again, I made sure to convey that as politely as possible at the end of the date. The typical "D.C. chick" can be extremely overbearing for my personality type. Imagine the shallowness of the Los Angeles/Hollywood types, but with political motivations instead of Hollywood aspirations. Within the first 5-10 minutes of our walk along the water she turned the conversation political. She was name dropping local politicians that she works with in the same light that a sports fan talks about their favorite athlete. I could barely finish a sentence without her interjecting and shifting the convo.

Either she was really hopped up on coffee or maybe Adderall, possibly xanax. It was 30 mins of eardrum torture. She was pretty cute, but nowhere cute enough to put up with that type of personality.

On the bright side, after we parted ways, my MMJ delivery service arrived with a much needed package.

Why did you put up with that for more than 5 minutes? If you can't steer the convo, tell her you need to bounce. Those girls are the nut low, politics especially.

True, but I'd say 60% respond to that line in my personal experience. And that is exactly what you want, strong feelings one way or the other.

Also met some interesting girls that way who were on fetlife so got lots of info and usually great photos there also.

'Maybe' means Never.

No the nut low is when they don't know what they are talking about, you try to inform them, they ignore you and treat you like you're the idiot.

And got flat tiddies/azz.