I think the # of legit options a lot of these girls have is lower than we think. Sure there are dozens of guys messaging, "hey ur sexy" or losers spamming "what are you doing now?" every day, but maybe not so many guys they're actually interested in. One of my good friends in Lyon is probably a 9 in looks and I saw her FB and text inbox once and it was basically just friends and family and I was wondering "how the **** is she not getting blown up like every 5 minutes??".
I have over 2000 matches now from swiping right non-stop in CDMX for a couple months and some swiping in Colombia/Peru, but after awhile, you don't even really care about the attention. For example, when I first got to CDMX and got 50 matches in a day I'd think "holy ****, this is amazing", but now if I get 50 matches and none are that interesting, it's the same as if I had gotten 0. If I get opened by 10 girls and none are attractive, I don't even care about the attention.
I can only speak for myself, but even when I'm chatting with 20 girls on the apps or in WhatsApp that I'm somewhat interested in, once I have an amazing date or 2 with a girl, then I start zoning in hard on that girl and start to forget about the others. So even though I'm getting attention, my mindset changes once I really like someone. I'm guessing it's probably similar for most girls. So I wouldn't be too discouraged by the fact that some girls might be chatting with a bunch of dudes b/c if you have a great date with her, then she'll give you her attention.
Also, I used to put a lot of pressure on myself on first dates, but each girl is different and the chemistry with each girl is different. So it's almost a bit of a crapshoot. Some girls I just meet and I feel great around them right away and the convo flows easy and everything is fun. Some girls, even ones where we seemed to have a ton in common messaging, it's just different once we meet up.
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Fossil what do you do for work or money?
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