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Originally Posted by Triangulate
Greetings guys, long time lurker of this site and this thread actually. I was wondering what do you do or how you text to keep up attraction. Say you have a dinner planned for the weekend and its Tuesday. How do you keep the interest or attraction going until you meet. I understand this is a very broad question and the answer to the question is that I stink at social interaction or flirting/msging but maybe some pointers would help? or examples of what you successful people talk about or text out of the blue when trying to get a date or whathaveyou?
Ideally you already had a relatively fun and flirty interaction on the app (or irl) and then briefly via text. Set a definite time and place, do not say "we'll figure something out on Saturday". Many women have said to me that setting something up quickly and definitively ("Saturday at 6 PM at [fancy cocktail bar]?") is a rare (???) and attractive trait.
So if this is Tuesday, confirm that you're all set and, if applicable for like a fancy cocktail bar, that you made a reservation.
If date is Saturday, skip Wednesday-Thursday. Make light chatter if she texts you. Even if you're super hitting it off via text, try not to put too much time into it because neither of you knows how things will go in person.
On Friday afternoon I would do something like "Official 24 hour flake check!! Still on for tomorrow?" So it's "funny", you're confirming to her that you're still in (because she's been flaked on too) and setting her and your minds at ease.
I got savaged in this thread for that advice ("she'll think you get flaked on a lot"), but I'm pretty sure they're all wrong so don't listen to them.