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Originally Posted by knivesout
Definitely wait. On a similar note, is it ever ok to send two messages on a row in the introductory phase? I sent first message, got a response, sent a second, nothing. That was Sunday. Sending another message is desperate 100% of the time right? On the other hand, what do I have to lose? This is a solid 9 we're talking about.
Also considering "hey if you just want to skip this dating stuff and bang out i'm down". Again, nothing to lose.
I've had some success online, and I have to say this.
Responses like these singlehandedly ruin online dating. You think you have nothing to lose but the reality is you will ruin online dating for this one girl.
It really only takes one or two messages of "take my c@#$ you bi#$@!!" before the girl feels forever alienated, and will likely try other avenues or just totally cherry pick the best of the best (aka not go out with you).
But its more than that. On a personal level, its about not dipping to that level and being a genuinely interested and interesting person... dating material. Call it a meta- long term decision whatever. Because poker people unfortunately have the skillset to rationalize doing something hail mary dumb and creepy like this...
Just the act alone of typing and sending a message like this reinforces a negative an undesirable part of your personality. And it will ultimately shine through. Without a doubt, honesty and being genuine are the 2nd most important parts of online dating. Physical attraction and masculinity being the first of course.
In general my advice for dating is just to become dating material. People get caught up on what to say or what to do but they don't realize that they are just some flabby boring unmotivated loser trying to cheat their way into being an attractive/interesting person. The dating world is actually pretty set in stone. Hot girls only date good looking/interesting/successful driven people. Very very rare for an actual hot girl (8+) to be slumming because she simply has had so many offers in her lifetime (especially online) and can easily tell the ones that are losers.
It's not easy becoming a better person... but until then, stop acting like a douche bag online and messaging her to **** just to creep her out... its ruining it for the rest of the world. Thanks.
Last edited by MurderbyNumbers234; 04-22-2013 at 03:12 AM.