I mean, she is a lock to be far less insufferable than you.

Poorly worded, but I think he seems to be saying that whites and blacks don't seem to like him, while Asians and hispanics do.

That 23 yo Asian girl actually seems pretty cool, maybe a little over the top, and looks good naked. I'd definitely be meeting her.

No, it's more joking that I don't seem to be a black-or-white kind of guy. I find myself more in a gray, or brown, area. Though Asian women definitely seem to be more interested in me.

How do you go about setting up these casual meetings and keeping them casual when in the US?

Gaddy,

Just meet up with them and tell them you’re not interested in anything serious right now.

Really?

I just get a pretentious vibe from her.

From all the artsy photos and no "normal" type photos shown, id expect her to be vegan and the type to tell you how edgy she is.

And perfectly willing to point out all the things you are doing wrong in life.

Eeyore, you're probably right, but it'd still be worth it for me on the off chance she was pleasant irl. Seems like my type of girl.

LOL I'm assuming I'm out of touch as I don't do IG or anything like that but my first impression was she's a crazy.

My first impression was also that she is crazy lol.
Also, this....

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I don't think posting folks' IG accounts here is cool.

Fossil (and others) posting individual pics (in some cases w/ covered faces) seems fine. Obv the true psychos can find one from the other, I dunno

/derail

Considering she puts her IG on her Tinder profile, I don’t think she is concerned with keeping it a secret. I’m sure she’d welcome the followers.

I think it would likely be a good exercise for you to acknowledge what you said as a mistake. I feel that given what you said that trying to diffuse the situation with humor is both an inadequate and inappropriate way to deal with the situation and shows a real lack of awareness. I'd be careful of this seeping into reality as you seem to be new to dating and you're aiming to date girls that seem to be younger than you are. There's no way the girl you just showed, or anyone like her would deal with labeling someone by race (which you always default to here, but that's somewhat understandable) or the kind of casual haha internet racism you just exhibited.

I am also quite bothered by this if it wasn't clear

I still don't get what he meant by the comment. But on a kind of related tangent, I don't think it means one is racist if he is more attracted to members of his own race.

I remember once complaining here about a lack of matches on Tinder and Bumble, noting that I'm hardly choosy, as I probably swipe right on 90% of the profiles. Then later I realized, I really only swipe right on that many (or fairly close to it) of the profiles of women of my own race. I don't swipe right on nearly as high a proportion of women of other races. I do on some of them, and I have been on dates with women of pretty much every race and ethnicity at some point, but I'm more attracted to the average woman of my own race than I am am to any other, and the other ethnicities would not be ranked evenly either if I were to gauge my attraction to the average member. I don't think that this in shows that I am racist in an significant way. Of course on some level pretty much everyone is racist, as has been shown by some pretty interesting experimental psychology.

It wasn't a mistake.

But I'm saying the opposite. I'm observing that since I got back into it I seem to be dating/looking to set up dates with women who are Indian, Asian, Hispanic -- everyone but my own race, though still not blacks. So I joked that I seem to be racist against my own race, and also blacks.

Rob,

He was making a joke about the fact that he’s more into other ethnicities than whites, but lol, of course not blacks.

“She’s crazy” people,

Lol wtf. She’s just a totally standard issue young hipster chick.

Yeah, I see that now after his explanation. I had thought he meant that those others were who was more into him, not vice versa.

Still curious what others think about my post on the subject though.

I for one wasn't remotely surprised by Gaddy's post.

It's not really a surprise that he's having trouble with younger women. He seems to be about as far out of touch with millennials as it is possible to be.

What a surprise that the guy who came in here with the eureka idea of paying for tinder so he could lie about his age is something less than a cool person.

I haven't met any younger women to have trouble with. Well, technically, I'm only meeting younger women. But I haven't been meeting women in their 20s.

Eureka idea? I came in here for opinions if I should put my real age or not for search purposes, not on Tinder but on more relationship-based sites/apps. I always stated I wanted to be upfront about my age, but was concerned about the search parameters excluding me from seeing the already limited number of women who don't want kids if they put 30-39 as their range. Ultimately, with the feedback here, I opted to put my real age, as it probably wouldn't be an issue and it just seemed lame not to. I don't think it has been an issue. I then did mention recently that I noticed on Tinder that some women didn't have an age listed, and that apparently you can remove your age if you pay for premium. Given that I hadn't been getting the interest from 20-somethings that I had five years ago, I wondered if the 40 was making the difference.

You guys are blowing this out of proportion. I'm just making fun of myself for seeming to have a proclivity toward the middle of the color spectrum. I'm willing to date all women no matter race or ethnicity. I don't even put race or ethnicity in my searches or preferences, yet so far I find myself pursuing dates only with Asians, Latinas and Indians. That's all I'm saying.

I think the girl's IG looks pretty cool. Most 23 year olds are posting 85% selfies, she seems much more interesting than those girls.