How does this one rate on my dumb ideas scale:

I want to go to Guatapé on Tuesday with someone, but the few girls I've already met either have to work or are out of town. So I asked this girl off Tinder who I added on WhatsApp a couple days ago. It's a 2 hour bus ride each way and probably another 3-4 hours at the place. That's a lot of time with someone you've never met.

Obviously a killer bod and she claims to be a model in her profile but I wouldn't say she's that attractive.

That’s just showing your ignorance.

Meh, 2 hour bus ride is prolly the break even point for me. 1 hour is snap accept and 3 is lol no.

You dodged a bullet. What a ridiculous thing to say.

I was planning to propose this past July, so I definitely feel like it was good to have all this come out first.

Poker,


Just checking to make sure my racist profiling radar is still on target!

LOL - to be fair "Aw hell no" is not exactly a white thing to say.

I like you FK, but If you're describing the girl pictured in that post as chubby, you're either losing your grasp of reality or the English language.

Translation?

Hahaha. Tbh, I remembered her being heavier than that photo. I think maybe irl she was a bit chubby, but looks ok in that photo.

I really like skinny girls though, so when a girl has 10-20 extra lbs. it is more noticeable for me. So yah, you're probably right that my perception is pretty warped.

Give it to me papi!

Work on changing your preferences, or get ready for a life of inferior sex with skinny women.

Probably worth introducing a bit of variety into my game, but you're forgetting that I meet a lot of ultra flexible yoga types and that's a lot of fun too.

I'd say there's higher variance with skinny girls. You can get some duds, but sometimes it's out of this world, and there's also more visual attraction for me. I think chubbier girls have a higher floor, you know it will at least be decent.

Higher floor?

On average, the ****iest sex with a fatty will be more enjoyable than the ****iest sex with a waif.

So I've been officially single for about 3 weeks and I jumped back into Tinder just for kicks this weekend and immediate matched 3 that I had good conversations with with one being light-years ahead of the other two in compatibility and looks, but she has a 3 year old kid that the dad has custody of. Super duper weird and flags are all over the place but after 3 conversations this weekend she seems DTF and we share a lot of common interests. Shes Spanish/Italian and her grandmother is from an area I visited in Spain last year. We hit it off on a lot of topics and I'm conflicted. I'm too soon out of a relationship to really push things ahead with this one. I don't want the recent break up to cloud my judgement. But if she's going to be down for something casual, I guess I can't miss the blessing right?

TL;Dr version.... She's too hot and I'm scared lol

Finally I'm not the one in the thread hanging out with the craziest girls!

I say go for it!

Get your head out of "too hot" imo

There's decent, good enough, and meh.

You are awesome and she's just another chick.

glgl

foatie - it's absolutely ok to just meet up w/ her (for a drink or whatever your preferred "first meetup place" is) and simply see where it goes. Props for recognizing that you might not be in the best headspace to evaluate things (including, potentially, whether she's clearly DTF, unless you've been super explicit). GL.

Dad has custody + crazy eyes = don’t let her know where you live. If she’s DTF go back to her place.

This so much.

She's definitely rebound material, quit trying to make every girl you meet into relationship material.

dad having custody must be the biggest red flag imaginable. if she's not really crazy, she has a crippling drug problem or a criminal history. or, she just doesn't care at all about her child which is probably even worse.

This. Dad has custody plus crazy eyes = keep it casual and protect your private space

no way she's too hot....

Yes. When fat chicks lay on their back they're higher off the floor.

Dad has custody of the kid!! That is more than a red flag, you should run away fast and cut off contact immediately. You are about to get robbed, stabbed, or stalked.....prolly all three.

Foatie,

Not talking about this particular woman, but in my experience, in 1-10 looks terms you can generally get about a +1.5 with a single mom vs an otherwise similar profile single woman.