Seems like the way it is for me as well. Most people are flaky...

They won't be flaky if they really like you

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AINEC

Neat theory, but I wouldn't apply it to other cultures. I was flaked on a 2nd date by a girl who said everything but "I love you" on and after the 1st date. We were supposed to meet up at 6PM on Friday. At 4PM I tried to set up a meeting place and she says "hey, I might be a little late b/c of work, I'll let you know". Then I didn't hear from her again the rest of the night.

I met her last night and she stayed over and left this morning her. Her explanation was that work got crazy and then she finally left at 10:30PM and didn't want to message me b/c I might be sleeping (pretty sure I've told her I usually go to bed at 1AM at least 3x).

I'm sure in her mind she knew she'd be busy, but wanted to hold my plans hostage on the off chance she could be done by 7 or something. I think it's just a different culture and they don't consider how their actions might affect someone else's time and schedule.

Women in America do the same thing

I was going to say something similar. That just sounds like being an ******* to me, and there are *******s everywhere, any gender/country/culture.

Women everywhere do the same thing, however there may be some cultural difference that makes it worse in some locations compared to others.

Women see first dates as an event. Men see first dates as a chance. Easier to skip out on an "event" than a "chance".

Yah that was my point. Never had something similar happen in USA, Quebec, France, New Zealand, even Mexico. I'd say on 1st dates I only get like 1 flake out of 10 on average in the other places. In Colombia I've had 3 in 6 dates. Pretty much all the other threads/forums I've read where dating in Colombia is discussed echo the same thing.

Could it simply be you are now faced with a group of people who might not like you to nearly the same degree as those other groups?

I don't think the argument falls apart. If they like you, they won't flake.

You've had success in the past which is great and I'm envious. But like the financial adage says...past results do not indicate future performance.

I mean, the one girl would probably say yes if I proposed to her on a 3rd date. Only slightly exaggerating. Even she flaked without so much as a heads up.

I’d concede that maybe my sample isn’t so meaningful but it’s backed up by pretty much everyone I've read or talked to who has dated in multiple areas including Colombia.

Not trying to run down Colombian girls, they are amazing in some ways too. For example, my salsa teacher saw I had a few dishes in the sink and just randomly started washing all of them after our class ended. I just find the cultural differences really intriguing, which is why I continue to travel so much.

A week after signing up for OKC/Hinge/Bumble, my first date was from Bumble. Hinge customer service is nonexistent. I’ve emailed three times trying to get them to cancel and refund the preferred membership that doesn’t provide the preferred preferences it purports. Have not received a response.

This is not necessarily true and is quite a silly statement imo.

Keep plugging along, Fossil. You're just running bad.

Doesn't sound like he's running that bad.

Yah it's been fine. I went in expecting a couple flakes here and there. Made a good friend, have a really cute quasi-FWB for the moment, and a couple dates lined up for the next week. It's live poker where I'm getting the brunt of the run bad imo. 4 losing sessions out of 4 at tables that aren't particularly tough.

Cancel the CC payment and tell your CC company what happened. They'll give Hinge a certain amount of time to respond to your allegations with evidence. If they don't, you get your money back.

I'm the one running bad, because your Bogota babe didn't connect with me on Bumble. You meet her out there?

If you're still talking about flaking this is objectively nonsense. Women don't get flaked on as much AINEC.

Could be a trans vs cis thing.

Yeah I sensed that. I imagine trans women must get it a ton. Ppl chickening out / not treating them decently.

Much like poker, there's almost no universal truths/plays that are correct 100% of the time, but I generally find it to be true.

I went out with someone last night that had her flight home delayed several hours, got back at 4:30am, slept an hour, went to work for 6:30am and worked until 5pm, but still didn't want to cancel on me. She nearly nodded off 10 minutes into the date, and eventually we called it night 30 min in (she wanted to take a Lyft back together, though). In the car, she emailed her boss to call out for tomorrow and texted her friends in a group chat that she was canceling on going out with them the next night

She seems like she's looking for something a bit more serious so she probably wasn't even swiping in LA.

We have a date set up for Saturday afternoon.

That is a very good point, which I stupidly did not even consider. I'd say I get flaked on about 50% of the time, which may not even be that much, I dunno.

I had a fairly eventful weekend. In fact, I've had a pretty solid run as of late. The new boobs might conceivably have something to do with it.

I was out partying on Saturday night. Started chatting with a cute guy in a nightclub. We shared a smoke, and he seemed to know a ton of people at the club and was introducing me to them. Then we checked out the art in an upstairs gallery and had a little make-out session. He was oblivious and I managed to keep his hands from wandering. He took my number before I left.

Then I had a date with an OKC guy on Sunday evening. This was hard because I'd only gotten home at 2:30 am and had to get up to take my daughter mountain biking at 7 am. But the date seemed to go really well. We chatted minimally about me being trans and spent most of the date talking about music, what we liked doing, what we did for work, and growing up in a different culture (he's Puerto Rican).

He's quite handsome and struck me as a really solid, straightforward guy. However, he didn't really have any game, and so I started thinking to myself, maybe he's a bit boring. And then I got really angry with myself, because I thought of the guy from the previous night, and reminded myself that I don't want a guy with game - I'm actually looking for a straightforward, solid guy. I'm the first trans woman he's dated, but I think he's been attracted to us for a long time.

Anyway, we have a second date planned for Friday. He's taking me to see some Latin Jazz and I'm looking forward to it

Oh and despite the previous decolletage advice, I decided to flaunt it. I decided that as a trans woman it was important to take every opportunity to push my femininity. (Which is also one of the things guys like about us).

oblivious to what?