You fall somewhere between traditional courting and The Matrix.

POF shows me 30 photos and I always click on the one I find hottest, so assuming everyone does that, everyone who visits my profile finds me hotter than at least 29 other people so. Small miracles.

This sounds like thinking too much. You think the women you're talking to really care about visits this much?

Yes. They're women.

Hmmm, women are weird.

Oh yeah, I've got the dirt on a lot of you guys now!

It's sad that some of you will actually take comfort in hearing that I have not clicked on a single male who has viewed my profile (and there are a few-dozen of you sickos).

Had a first date tonight, and as I was driving over there to meet her, the "Suspect in custody" news broke out of Watertown. I must've looked like **** when I arrived, as I'd been crying the whole drive over. We had a few drinks and a pleasant, nonstop conversation for three hours, but then she hit the wall because she'd been up since 5 AM. Not even a goodnight kiss for me, which surprised me a little, but again, she was zonked, so I won't hold it against her. And she seemed completely relaxed throughout the evening, but got nervous/tense at the slightest attempt at physical contact. But other than that, she seemed pretty into me. Curious to see where this goes. Final thoughts: she's a little older than me, late 40s, she's probably a 5 or a 6, and looks like she may have been a 7 or 8 in her younger days...which makes her the hottest girl I've ever been out with. Yeah, I've had a sad fattie life.

Another girl I'd been chatting up this week asked me where I was from, after one of my messages mentioned that I've only lived in this area for a couple of years. You guys saw my profile. I mean, Jeez, how many Red Sox shirts does a guy need to wear??? To her credit, when told to go back and look for clues, she got it immediately; to her further credit, despite her insistence in every paragraph of her profile that she's not interested in casual hookups and FWB, etc, it is her, not me, who keeps steering the conversation to joking references about the sex we're going to have.

In other, interesting news: I didn't even reach out online this week, both these girls reached out to me. So mock my style if you like (looking at you, El Diablo), but that profile is doing its job.

Oh yeah, our last phone conversation before meeting tonight included this little gem:

ME: Oh, one more thing! I don't know if you've looked at my profile lately, but if you hadn't, you should know before trying to find me in a crowded bar that I shaved off my facial hair. I posted an updated pic.

HER: Oh, I saw that! You look just like that actor...did anyone ever tell you that?

ME: Oh yeah? Who's that?

HER: Oh, that guy...what's his name? He's on that show...Everybody Loves Raymond!...

ME: (thinking to myself) She can't mean Ray Romano or Peter Boyle...Oh God, don't say "the brother".

HER: The brother!

ME:

Probably a top5 post in this thread, well done!

And being compelled to deride an anonymous text field in some dating thread on a poker forum is what?

Second date with biter is tonight. She proposed Sunday to which I tacitly complied. A day later, mainly to see where I stand and what I could get away, I upped the stakes by countering with Friday or Saturday. We're doing something more traditionally date-y than a cemetery this time, near my place. I'm seriously considering a last second suggestion that we stay in and watch a movie instead.

Hi all,

I've got this one girl (http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Carquita?cf=regular) that has just created her account and since she's new I believe it's easier to chat with her.

She wants to meet but she's telling me that she's more into girls lately, is it worth giving it a shot?

Not bad looking, don't see why you shouldn't at least try.

YTF,

At least she didn't say "that guy from the hilarious sitcom Til' Death! Can't believe that got cancelled!' Then you'd be more than justified in ending the conversation right there. Also, Brad Garrett comparison for a guy your age probably isn't bad: he is pretty tall/masculine-looking/funny

you do what you want but I live in NY and just emailed her

Well let's see who'll be the winner if there's one

I think there's some sort of inverse proportion, comparing the amount of details in her profile v. how hot she is. Also, this:

I'm not religious, and I tend to use that section as a litmus test. I'm not sure if that's a massive mistake or what, though.

I'm not sure what you mean by inverse proportion

Relation, whatever. If you're hot, your profile can contain no details and you're still gonna get slammed with messages.

All these profiles start to look alike after a while anyway.

Yeh obviously, the hotter a girl is, the less she needs to make an effort to complete the profile since she's gonna get so many messages anyway.

By the way, do you really believe there's a correlation between being serious about a religion and NOT being an easy girl ?
If you think about it, Brazil has a lot of people being religious, still they are very dtf.

Damn, she looks amazing in pic 1 and drops a half point with each additional pic posted.

Same here, I'm not gonna seriously date a girl long-term who is "somewhat serious" or "serious" about any religion, but for this girl I'd still e-mail her anyways and try and meet up a couple times.

It's a different country/culture and thus not very relevant. I have no clue for sure, but I'd guess the non-religious Brazilian girls are super DTF.

In America, I'd say an atheist liberal is definitely gonna be more DTF on average than a religious conservative.

I had a second date with a woman yesterday. We met at an oyster bar at 4:30. She showed up already lit up. She's like 120 pounds and she must have already had 3-4 drinks in her. Later after we were both pretty drunk, she told he she started drinking at home before coming to meet me. Too bad b/c she was one of the few women I've met online that I really felt I liked.

Not the greatest sign, but I wouldn't necessarily say a dealbreaker. Maybe she was just super nervous b/c she likes you and meant to have a drink or 2 to loosen up a bit and got carried away.

I mean, I'm pretty sure she's an alcoholic. When we got together on Wednesday she finished her first beer before I had gotten a quarter way through mine. We then spent the next 9 hours drinking. I mean she's an absolute animal.

Alcoholic can't be judged by one drinking session. Once you have a couple, you naturally drink faster. Maybe you were nursing your drink too much because you were so busy watching her drink

It wasn't the one drinking session. In fact, I kind of admired her for not caring. I did notice it though. It was really her showing up for our second date half in the bag that alarmed me. I mean showing up for a second date half in the bag I'm guessing that person is an alcoholic the vast majority of times.