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Originally Posted by JoeC2012
Got a tough decision to make-- would welcome OOT's input!
I have a bumble date set up for tomorrow night in NYC (side note-- bumble scene here is about 5x better than the Bay Area). Of note, I've been very upfront with her that I'm only in town for a few weeks. So I feel like this has a different dynamic than your usual first date; I think it's quite likely this girl wants to meet up, have a few drinks, then go have sex if things go smoothly. And your boy hasn't been laid since June so this would be cool.
On the other hand, my buddies want to go to Yankees/Red Sox tomorrow night and I think this would be incredibly fun. I love baseball, and it's not every day I get to go to any playoff game, let alone a Yankees/Red Sox one.
What do we think? Should I cancel/reschedule on this girl?
Update-- I completely misread this situation. I noted in my profile that I was moving to London in a few weeks, it turns out this girl goes to London for work a lot, so she in fact was looking more than just easy sex. We didn't end up hooking up until the 3rd date.
(Side note, I've struggled really hard to meet girls only looking for short term relationships; Fossil I'm really impressed you pull this off. It's ok though, from here on out I'm only living in places I plan to stay or am at least open to staying in, so it's not a skill I really need to build.)
We hung out a bunch during my time here. She's a very sweet girl but I don't think we had quite enough in common to turn this into a going concern.
We said goodbye tonight and she actually cried, which was surprising to me. I used to worry a lot about **** like this and feel bad that I couldn't give them the relationship they want, but I'm trying to remind myself that I'm not responsible for others' emotions. It's just funny though, with some girls it feels like great chemistry and they ghost you after two dates, with others they get hooked early and I have no idea why. I assume I never will.