^ I just don't think this kind of thing will actually weed anyone out. These are things nobody wants, and everyone knows that already. I mean really, is anyone going to think "yeah, I do turn into a prick after drinking, so I think I'll write the next lady instead, because she might not mind that at all".

There is something to be said for setting expectations. That profile isn't doing it right since it isn't describing positive behaviors, but describing what you are looking for is a great idea.

She says that but....

Describing what you want is great if it's not something that absolutely everyone would want.

I agree to a point. As an example, if you want (or don't want) children, then it's fine to mention this as it's going to be an absolute deal breaker for some people.

I personally felt a bit cold by women who made lists of what they wanted. Height is just about okay so they make it clear that if it's something you lie about, don't be surprised to get lemon law'd.

This is pretty accurate.
It's even funny when it's some out of shape girl with 4 kids and a dead and job ranting and raving about how she deserves some rich tall guy in great shape who will treat her like a princess blah blah blah.
Or how when they says stuff like" serious relationships only!I'm sick of fwbs one nighters etc."Pure entertainment.

this

It'll weed out the conscientious PUA.

Do guys really care if the girl has a dead end job or just more that she is fat and out of shape?

I make decent money with a good career and I feel like that has zero influence in regards to a guys interest.

Just from a woman's perspective, this is what seems to matter to guys:

Body(not being fat): 85%
Pretty face: 5%
Not a ***** with an okay personality: 5%
Has kids: 5%
Smart: 0%
Funny: 0%
Height: 0%
Income: 0%
Career: 0%

What matters to women:
Height: 30%
Body: 20%
Face: 20%
Smart: 20%
Funny: 10%

Income: depends on the girl
Career: depends on the girl

Yeah that’s not true at all for men.

I do not want crazy. I want attractive—but that really depends on preferences. Some guys prefer fat. I don’t like smokers, crazy religious women or ones that are insanely on the right of the political spectrum. I want a woman with career who can be independent and has friends and interests besides me.

Height doesn’t matter that much but not midget short or WNBA tall. Smart and funny are pluses, my wife is smart and not too funny. I’d prefer no kids but it isn’t a super deal breaker in the past. I don’t want an insane amount of baggage. I have a preference for my dates not to live too far away since I live in the city.

There are a ton of other factors and it depends if I’m looking short or long term for the relationship.

So according to a woman, women still make 70% of their decisions based on looks.

I think the percentage for men is similar. Kids are much higher than 5%, more like 20% imo.

I agree men are not that bothered about a sense of humor - in my experience, it's pretty rare for me to find a girl's jokes laugh out loud funny.

She didn't even mention dick size or dick angle, so we know that's an incomplete list at best.

doh you beat me.

That's easily like 35-40% if not more for her.

Get cut get butt my man

That's included in the height and body percentages as boobs and hips are in the the body percentage for the men's list.

Which one of dick size and dick angle is included under height?

Men clearly care about funny, smart and personality stuff. Just way, way less when it comes to short term hook ups. Mly misses the mark, as usual.

So, surprisingly I have gotten a few messages on Bumble in the last few days, without even putting up new pictures. I wonder if anything particular is causing that.

Also have noticed that my newer matches, I guess because they are new members, have a section showing in their profile with all these tiny pictures with a word or next to them; it shows if they smoke, drink, height, religion, etc. My old matches don't have a section like that so it must be a new thing. It would be nice to add that part to my profile, but I can't figure out how to do so; has anyone else figured this out and could explain?

Have you had new picture taken yet?

No, VeryJosie said her friend here. was feeling sick but that maybe I'd meet her soon. Last I heard she had sent my old picture to her friend. Haven't heard from the friend yet though, and haven't heard from Josie since last Friday. Hope I don't get ghosted on 2+2!

No guy wants to see an absurd list of demands from a woman who shouldn't be making them.It's also funny to see their list of demands while they offer nothing but "deserve to be treated like a princess."

Yes men are looking for hot women first.

As far as a job- unless you're filthy rich and don't mind supporting someone, if you want a relationship you likely want the woman to at least have a good one as well.But that doesn't mean some tall super in shape guy with no kids and a great job would want an out of shape woman with a bunch of kids just bc she has a great job .

If you just want to hook up then no a job is not important.


I also think your percentages are way off.
For most men body is probably more important than face but it's not 85/5 or anywhere close to that.

I'd take smarty funny interesting down to earth 7 over a brain dead ***** of a woman who is drop dead gorgeous in a relationship. For a one night stand different story.

I’m friends with a woman on Facebook who is this + the profile preki shared to a T.

-She post 5 times a day about how she knows what she deserves, what her worth is, loving her for her blah blah blah.
- Then some 35 year old black dude working at jack n the box brings her a couple free meals and says a weeks worth of what she wants to hear. She lets him smush and then spends 2 weeks on Facebook calling him, bae, boo, love of her life.
-Fast forward a week or two and new “Bae” has spent the week reconciling with his baby mama and trying to knock her up again. Facebook friend goes full drama supernova.
-Breaks up with this guy and spends 2-4 weeks making all the female empowerment post and how that guy was trash and a POS and a loser blah blah blah.
-Lather, rinse and repeat.

Part of me feels bad for her but part of me feels like her actions and behaviors befit her attitude and efforts.

ETA: she’s bigger than thick but would describe herself as “curvy” although she is pretty. But she’s a self-defeatist who will declare that being pretty doesn’t matter in getting a good guy because she’s curvy. When its pointed out that plenty of pretty but bigger girls find attractive partners she then declares only blah blah blah and the cycle perpetuates itself. It probably also doesn’t help that she has half of her social media friends who tell her to not change a thing at all she’s perfect and the other half are mostly thirsty-ass broke-ass dudes trying to get an easy hook up

You need an iphone. Andorid doesnt have this yet

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I agree with the list, they read as so cringy.

That's just my perspective on what I think guys consider, I of course really have no idea and don't really have a lot of boyfriend experience to go off of and most interactions are with the intent of just a hook up.

What are the percentages for a guy looking for a LTR?.....I know it will be just an estimation as it's slightly different for everyone, but it would be helpful.

LTRs are not all or nothing for 95% of people. Most guys would be down for a LTR if a dope girl came along. Probably 70% of guys are primairly interested in getting laid tho on mobile dating apps. Probably lower in over 30 crowd. Probably higher when you got a kid



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