@ the guy's profile.

Approve of this post.

Not sure why so much vitriol against overweight people, are we back in like 2007?

I mean that's the bell curve idea from before

I love how he spells Serengeti correctly but abobos half the rest of the words

Had one of the best second dates of my life the other night. Hot, grounded, confident, ambitious, tons in common, real chemistry, enjoyed the food and cocktails, texting me sweet messages afterwards.

Let's see how it goes wrong!

FWIW, swiping right on everyone is a pragmatic play as a man. Shouldn't be seen any other way. Most really don't get many (sometimes any) matches, why waste your time filtering before there's even a chance to contact? It makes no sense. I know there is "something-something the algorithm favors you less" with this method, but I don't buy into it much, you'll be seen eventually. Though if you're on Tinder in NYC (or similar high population area), probably worth filtering if you don't want to pay for premium, because you're not gonna run out of people to swipe, makes sense to be selective in that case so you don't burn your swipe limit on people you have no interest in.

There is no vitriol it's the fact that they don't be honest with themselves and others about their body style.

The only time I really small talk is the times we happen to be messaging at the same time, them I'll send it a few in a row.

Holy hell @ that profile, Jo. Truly remarkable.

LOLGADDY. Carry on....

I went on a date a couple of weeks ago and had the 'oh she's fat' moment when she came over. Online it was one of those borderline ones where there's one sort of full body shot but not really, like there's a strategically placed bar on one side and a friend concealing her arm flab on another, and you think, 'ok, prob fat but the chat was good so I'll take the chance', and then BOOM, always fat when you're not sure.

So one more time with feeling guys, if it's borderline, she's fat.

The old 'Maybe if I get him on a date he'll like me for the person I am!' is still going strong maybe.

need a pre-coffee sip warning on this line.

There's no small talk, only small people. Or maybe that's just for actors.

Full Body to me means unobstructed. Ideally multiple poses - front, back, maybe side. Sitting etc.

I agree with you, if there's even the slightest hint. If she's never up close in the photos. If there's any "graininess" at all...just unacceptable in 2018 and is a sign something is being hidden.

You should definitely say you are 5'9" at least. Unless you are -really- tall, most girls will assume a guy is at least slightly exaggerating their height. So if you put 5'8", many will assume you are 5'6".

Sure, women get more attention, but the vast majority of that attention is from guys they’re not interested in, which is something they probably couldn’t tell until they had met a couple of times. I mean, most dudes are awful, but they can keep it together for at least a short while. I guess if you understand that there’s more to people than looks then it makes sense. Would you like a world where you got lots of attention from girls you’re attracted to, but 99+% turned around and let you know that if you’re not going to buy them lots of **** then they’re going to disappear? I do think that on some level a lot of women bring it on themselves by only swiping on the top of their range, they’re basically destined to only interact with awful dudes. But can you blame them? Most of us are only going to swipe on the top of our ranges as well, it’s just that the top of our range happens to be filled with women who are genuine and not just shallow and only looking to use us.

they are? are all top range attractiveness dudes awful or just most of them?

I think he means that if a more attractive man goes out with a less attractive woman, he's usually doing it just for easy sex and doesn't want a relationship.

Jo, you need to go on a date with this gentleman and publish a detailed trip report here.

Then invite us to the wedding.

Make it early spring, June weddings are soooo 2017

That's true, but you can sort of see why they do it. They're probably not going to get as high of a quality guy messaging them if they say they're fat.

A bit like guys who are 5'8-5'11 just rounding up to 6 foot. There are plenty of women (and some of them have even admitted to me) who will completely disregard you if you're not at least 6 foot tall on these dating sites. People lie or exaggerate not because they want to, but because they have to.

Howard, there's no way I could ever go on a date with a Huskies fan.

I was wondering what turned you off from his profile

How many guys have ever been won over by someone lying about their weight? On the other hand, how many women have been okay with a guy being 4" shorter than they said?

I do feel the guys have the worst of this argument. I appreciate there are some genetic influences in being overweight, but for the most part it's a lifestyle choice.

Short guys have no such redress.

Good point regarding short guys not able to change their height. Weight can be changed in all cases, barring some extremely rare exceptions of genuine genetic disorders. Feminists get angry for men discriminating against fat girls, when they are perfectly ok with discriminating against short guys. This is one of the many reasons I will never be able to take feminism seriously.

I have genuinely never heard of this, and I have dated mostly fat women for 25 years.

Just try Tinder, it's still easily your best shot. Could try Happn, more serious minded girls on there.

One month is nothing as well. It's like poker, you're gonna have dry spells and then all of a sudden go on a heater and have three quality dates in a week.