plenty of fish currently being bombarded by spam accounts right now, anyone else seeing this?

Cuffing season is upon us! Let's see if the apps pick up, or if it's time to join Hinge.

A friend of mine told me about cuffin season a few years ago, he lives in Minnesota.

We have decided that summer is cuffin season in Las Vegas. It's so hot that you can't do anything outdoors, which I prefer to do on the first date or two. And even when I drive somewhere, I'm angry by the time I get there from baking in my oven vehicle (even with working a/c). Plus I'm too grumpy to put up with dealing with new date BS, so I've stuck with mostly dating someone I know is not long term compatible. Looking forward to the cooler weather soon.

Wow, I'd never heard of cuffing season before, but that seems to be exactly what has happened to me. About half my single girl friends suddenly have men, my apps have picked up and I have two dates this week, and about half a dozen guys I haven't heard from for ages have gotten back in touch. I'd assumed that it was because everyone was done with summer travel and was back to making dating a priority.

So, I'm about to get back into online dating and want to check in on how the landscape has changed over the past five years. My five-year relationship born from OKCupid is ending. She's moving out this week. That was my first venture into online dating, and I did so in an effort to find a woman who matched with a couple life choices that are difficult to find -- not wanting to have kids and not being religious. I was only on the site a couple months, as I met the ex on my sixth date. But I really liked the way OKCupid was back then. With the questions and all that, I was able identify women who matched with my long-term wants for a partner. So what sites out there today are best to filter out that long-term match potential on specific life choices? I'm in Los Angeles, if that matters.

And what's the best hookup site? Tinder was just starting to take off when I met the ex. It could be good for me to try some casual dates before getting back into the serious search. Is Tinder still the best Tinder? Are people concerned about bringing random women back to their place? I'm a little worried that my stuff is too nice to be bringing in Tinder hookups. A woman could easily fill a big with $10k worth of stuff and walk out.

Another thing I've been wondering, even though this seems ridiculous for a man to be considering, is if I should lie about my age. I just turned 40. I'm fit and live in a downtown highrise with that downtown sort of lifestyle, so they're not going to care about my age. I don't want to lie about it so much as I'm thinking about the age range search. I'm looking to meet a woman in her early 30s (ex is 30). Is it worth putting that I'm 38 just to have my profile seen by women who put an age range to 39? I don't mind putting my real age in the content of my profile, or telling women on the first date. It's just a matter of them seeing my profile.

Yikes lots to unpack here huh.

TBH if you want hookups say you're 35, make your main profile picture shirtless in front of your (a) BMW. Its awful, but it works and has been shown to work on stuff like the OKC blog.

Had to lookup cuffing season on urban dictionary. Here in chicago there's a high of 89*F tomorrow and summer generally goes through about mid-october, so I don't think it would take effect for at least a few weeks, assuming it's a real thing and not just some cognitive bias that became a popular thing to repeat.

It's definitely real to my semi- homeless friend in Minnesota. Last winter he found a cute younger woman to shack up with for the winter.

I think it must be a real thing. Hardly a brag but I’ve started getting a bunch of likes per day on hinge lately despite not being active for a while now. I was wondering what was going on

Well, until I get a sudden influx of matches I'm going to act like everyone else is making this up.

LOL

It's even worse if you're a 6 out of 10 like me!

Five is average. Nothing wrong with that. Just put on your profile that you are more or less human-shaped and something that you are happy about yourself. For instance, "my eyes look generally in the same direction-ish."

Thinking that you are somewhere around average is a good sign. Now you just need to develop some skills.

lol - I imagine this is true. I am NOT looking for hookups and so any shirtless pic immediately goes in the reject pile.

I'm not so fit to pull that off. I'm skinny, pale and hairy. I'm fit compared to typical 40 year olds who have been focused on raising a family and such. But when I ask about putting that I'm 38, I mean for the sites where I'm looking for someone to match with long term. For a hookup site, there's hundreds of thousands of women out there, and I'm confident some will find me attractive and want to come hang out in my highrise with a view of Staples Center and the downtown skyline. In looking for a long-term match, my options are really limited by wanting someone with no kids or desire to have kids. So, with so few women to go through, I think that maybe putting 38 instead of 40 could make visible that 32-year-old who is perfect for me but put 30-39 as her age range.

So you want to be with someone who specifically doesn't want to be with you? Why? Maybe she's perfect for you, but you're obviously not perfect for her if she wants to be with someone aged 30-39.

I know women do this sometimes, but I would never want to date one of them. I'd feel like she lied to me before I even met her.

I’m 37 and don’t want kids and god doesn’t exist and I hate animals. I only omit one of these facts from any online dating profile I have. Lying about any of them just isn’t worth it. If you are looking for some sort of relationship, just don’t lie and be as forthright as is reasonable in your profile.

If you are just looking to hook up, no one will hate some degree of chicanery, and no one says that you need to be up front about that you arentt looking fir something long term, but don’t lie. Just not worth it.

Sounds like we might be a match! Do you have tits? I actually really like cats and dogs, I just don't allow them in my home. I don't want them destroying my high-end furniture. And I also don't want to take care of them or have to plan around them. I did not mention pets in my last profile, and she had a cat when we met. Luckily, by the time we moved in together, she had already gotten rid of it for allergy reasons. I'm guessing this is the one you don't mention? I actually am planning to mention in my long-term relationship seeking profile this time what I just wrote above about pets. I'm purposefully upfront with everything in trying to find a match. My last profile even led with venturing into online dating in order to find a woman who shares two life choices that are difficult to identify in someone you randomly meet around town -- not wanting kids and not being religious. I don't even mind being upfront in my profile that I am 40. I just don't want to miss anyone who put their range as 30-39. Chillrob, I'm guessing anyone who would have found me perfect for her a couple months ago wouldn't feel differently now.

If their range is 30-39, what make you think they want a 40 year old?
Anyway, just post pics of your high end furniture and the skyline view out of your high rise above Staples center, and I'm sure you'll slay em.

Having a profile that bluntly says all those things will come of poorly. Although you will probably match with a particular crowd.

I read it as sarcasm.

It's not even a question that someone who would like me at 39 would like me at 40. My concern is I won't even see their profiles to have a chance to slay them. That's the only reason I would fudge my age.

Now I'm wondering if a profile would exclude more women by stating you don't like cats and dogs, or (explicitly stating) that you're only looking for casual sex. Feel like both would kick out 90+% of women

I'm surprised you have to even mention not being religious when dating in LA. Feels like that'd be totally standard and assumed.

You could put 38 and then list in the bio that you're actually 40. I've seen that on girls with some silly excuse about making a Facebook profile at too young of an age, usually to make themselves a little older.

Not sure if this is a good idea, or what the best way to do this would be.