Some backstory: i've had tinder installed for a few years (I'm in the Netherlands). Total haul: one decent but boring date that led nowhere and hundreds of absolutely dead/nothing conversations.
I checked this thread a few days ago and found the "ultimate guide to tinder dating" through some link that was posted itt, as well as some stuff about tinder being dead and bumble being all that. I checked my tinder chats and it really is dead so i uninstalled tinder, installed bumble, and went to work with those 'tactics' from the guide.
First match (she has some pics of her on an outside terrace of a bar, in a boat in Venice or w/e, up in a tree, and in the wilderness somewhere), conversation:
her: hey
me: somethingsometing in Dutch:
her: my Dutch isn't that good, if you don't mind
me (i said the following in Dutch in opening message): hey [name], great pictures! though for a first date we should go chill on a terrace, not have any boat trips just yet. or climb trees of course!
her: haha
her: i really enjoy spending time in nature
Her: sitting in terrace is good
me: perfect, i've never been to eindhoven (her location, city not far from mine) yet! I can picture us at your favorite terrace (you'll have to have one!) with a tasty drink in the late summer sun
her: good idea
i have a few favorite spots
me: awesome! there is one little disaster though, i am going on holiday to berlin for a week+ this saturday and visiting some friends out of town the weekend after that. what's your number so we can work something out for after that?
her: sure
her: [number]
Me being gone for holiday next both weekends and unavailable the weekend after that are true.
Anyway i responded:
me: i'll call you around that time sometime. in the meantime you could tell me where you are from i'm wondering?
Now how do i keep this alive for ~ 3 weeks? Bad timing with the holidays, or i would have said to call her tomorrow to set something up for this weekend which would have seemed perfect. now what though? how do i keep this alive?