Keeping your phone somewhat charged is the right play. If a girl ever glances at your fully charged phone, she'll subconsciously think, "Wow this guy has a lot of time on his hands if he can afford to obsessively charge his phone. Must not have a lot going on in his life." Conversely, a low-battery phone communicates that you might not have easy access to a charging dock and thus are likely homeless, or far more damningly, a manlet who can't reach up to wall outlets. A half-charged phone conveys just the right mix of security and danger and >5'11-ness.

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hm.... A lot of frustration in the thread....

I don't think that women on average have too high standards. I also don't think that men on average have to high expectations on women's appearance. At least it is not my experience. But I think that both sides have pretty high expectations for feelings. Everyone wants to fall in love.

The interesting thing is that majority is frustrated because not enough fall in love with them, but is looking not for someone who would fall in love with them, but for someone who would make them fall in love.

I'm in agreement with BJ on the messages and think that there's something off. Like I would assume that that's not real, and stop responding. fwiw, my gf of a year messaged me first on tinder and also appeared very eager, but in a different way.

She’s real, she snapped me on the spot. Probably an unstable nutcase though.

Tons of men think this way too. Im really not sure which gender is worse at it.

samuri's girl is on the spectrum and thirsty; the one drink you're at the bar for before going home to smash is probably gonna be awkward as all hell LOL.

Yeah, I am fully subbed to this Samuri saga, this could go in any number of directions.

Pretty sure he meant that she's possibly not even using Bumble anymore, but they still have her profile active because she didn't bother to remove it. Seems unlikely that would be true after 5 years, but it is a possibility.

I’ll post a couple more weird text convos later. I think wax is on to something though.

As a dude once you have the plans set you aren't that interested in talking. Nothing to gain and could **** it up before the date even starts. Also leaves you with less to talk about on the date. Some peoples don't see it like that. She makes it clear she wants more conversing "can we talk MORE tomorrow?" when you tell her goodnight. Then after not getting much back "Is everything okay?" She just has some idea in her head of how much you should be texting/interested in her before the date - and to her it seems like you are being short/uninterested.

Went on a coffee date today and she brought her own mug to the cafe. wtf

Also wore a jacket the whole time. In Oakland. Indoors. Turns out I do have standards.

Was it like some “cute” or “clever” mug? Maybe she was trying to show you how “witty” she is by having some quirky coffee mug. Or she could be a complete lunatic. Not that those things are mutually exclusive.

I'm replying to you to throw some shade at others, and disagreeing with you a little tiny bit. The men complaining that women "have too high standards" are silly. Basically, the average (5) dude is, "I think I'm a 8, so why aren't the 7s, 8s and (at least some desperate) 9s jumping at the chance to date me?!?" Dude, you are, on your best day, a 6. You are reaching for the stars if you think you can land a 7. Maybe you can get an 8 if you are willing to take an 8 that has lost more than 2 limbs in a shark attack.

I think you (specifically you) might benefit from being funny and nice. That tends to attract men who aren't super silly. I expect that you are (in face-to-face situations) at least interesting to talk to.

This is pretty much spot on, I think. Doesn't describe me well,* but seems to be endemic.

*I fall for any woman who laughs at my jokes and brags to her friends about my penis. I'm more simple (simpleton, if you will) than most men.

She can't fail to notice that it is an iPhone and that he is on the ATT network and has no access to the WiFi connection in his vicinity. 56% is about 3 minutes of iPhone life. He is clearly living life on the edge.

Also, my money is on her being a kid who stole his older sister's account and is just ****ing around or a female graduate student.

Oh boy..lots of fail to go around..

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cbs...new-york-city/

That's true, I think we all need to be more realistic about our looks. Maybe you could tell him where to meet those 4/10 and 5/10 single women?

Outside. They generally cannot be found behind your couch.

Well obviously, but where outside? haha

This makes me want to bail haha. I’m definitely going to snap her tonight or tomorrow and possibly even call her. No way I can get punked that badly in front of OOT, I may never recover.

Meh. As is everything, it will be, at worst, a good story. Go. Enjoy.

Pretty clearly this. Your responses definitely seem fairly cool and short, especially to someone who likes a lot of chatting before meetup.

Nah it's not a punk.

Update on your thing.

Bringing a mug sounds like a fairly standard bougie "environmentalist" Bay Area thing to do. I don't do it and rarely have seen it done, but it wouldn't shock me. (Can't imagine how inconvenient it must be trying to rid yourself of those last couple drops of coffee and the smell if you don't have immediate access to a kitchen sink. Can imagine some ****ing morons putting the "empty" mug into their canvas shopping bag and dripping coffee all over the new books they just bought [yea new books, they ain't that woke].)

First date being potentially set up for Friday; she mentioned she's performing at an open mic event at 7 PM so would afterwards work?

Am I supposed to express interest in going to see the performance; is that what she wants? (Is this another of those scams?!) I'd almost want to try it as a different and suboptimal first date experience just to get practice in an unfamiliar scenario (you never know when it could pop up in a situation I'm really excited about).

However, honestly, with this scam thing that just came out I don't think there's any way I can do that. Hadn't even thought of it when I started writing this post.

Thoughts?

I just do things at random so I'd say (*) go for it.