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Originally Posted by SandraXII
I'm not saying people shouldn't ask for feedback, but IME the advice I get back when I ask isn't much use and is nearly always along the lines of 'I just didn't feel that long term connection'.
I would expect the majority of responses would just say it's something intangible. 'something not quite there' with the romantic bond that the girl can't put her finger on and almost pointless to try and delve into. The next most popular reason for me is probably 'not enough in common'.
If I imagine all the girls I've dumped I would probably say the same thing to them rather than there being specific, tangible reasons, but that might be just me. If I get to multiple dates with someone, I won't have a problem with how she looks or even how she acts, I just won't see a long term future.
I've only used this tactic/strategy or whatever you wanna call it on girls that agreed to go out with me then stopped responding when I asked them for their phone number. It happened to me 4 times in a row on tinder in Austin before i started using hinge after making my first post in this thread ~2 months ago.
It did rattle me enough at the time to have 4 or so girls agree to go out with me and then not respond when I asked the for their number that I did some googling of my own and came across a great post that at least helped me in the feedback department. I ended up finding this link:
https://www.tinderseduction.com/send...nge-your-life/ and I copy pasted the message they told me to send. I use original messages for my openers but I used that on the girls that stopped talking to me and 3/4 gave me long, detailed responses which were very helpful. I think the article goes into enough detail that I don't need to expand on anything and I haven't tried asking girls for feedback that I met in person but will try to somehow deploy that strategy if I need to and report back to you guys. I tried searching my phone for screenshots to show you guys but came up short
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As far as updates go, I found a an online meet up tonight from meetup.com that had over 80 people confirmed to meet at a bar and be social etc., The guy to girl ratio was probably 4 to 1 but there were def some cute girls there. I asked one girl for her number that just moved to Austin 5 days ago and she shut me down which stung a bit. I ended up meeting a very cute girl from where I'm from and we spent a good most of the night with each other which included quite a bit of making out. Around 12:45 I told her I was tired and asked her to come home with me and she turned me down. I'm hoping to see her again this week but it at least feels good to take some attention for myself off the chick I've been obsessed with that got back with her ex and move forward.
Apologies if my post makes no sense and I'm too drunk for 2p2. ya'll can ban me.