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Fossil,
It seems like you don't actually want a comitted relationship and would rather keep dating around, and maybe are afraid of confronting this girl and finding out that she is in fact seeing other guys. In any case you clearly don't trust her and are bothered by her actions.
Do you have any friends in Mexico that you can just hang out with, who aren't women that you've ****ed or wanted to ****?
Did you in France?
Because maybe you're trying to find a girl to fill two distinct relationship roles:
1) the no strings attached **** buddy
2) a normal friend you can chill with but then go do your own thing when done hanging out - like a typical guy friend that most straight males hang with.
And that probably won't work.
My last post came before reading this one, but I'll respond anyway.
I think I was just confused about the OKC thing, but now I'm over it, I don't care and will stop thinking about it. If she gives a more concrete reason to doubt her intentions, then I'll confront her about it.
In Mexico, I've basically only met girls, but I've started messaging a couple guys from ConversationExchange with similar interests and I'm planning to meet 2 of them next week to grab a beer and hang out. I do understand the need to have a handful of male friends which is why I recently changed my focus from datings apps to looking for avenues to make male friends.
In France, I had several. Mostly through my language class and one guy I met via poker. It wasn't as easy to get dates with very attractive women there so usually I'd go on a date about once a week and hang out with friends once a week.
It's a valid question though as I've basically only mentioned meeting girls off dating apps since I've been in Mexico. But it's something I have realized myself and have started to remedy.
I am not trying to find a relationship partner to fill all those roles at once as I think it would be extremely unreasonable to expect one person to be all that at once and would likely be doomed to failure from the get go.