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Originally Posted by Fabian
lapka,
We did experiment a bit with that yeah, though not too much since we haven't seen each other for super long. I don't think we'll keep seeing each other either (for unrelated reasons), so there probably won't be an opportunity to figure it out I'm afraid!
Rexx,
I do what I can!
So this girl (who's also mentioned in the middle paragraph in the post below, I just realized) and I did end up breaking things off the day after this post was made. She was pretty cool in a lot of ways so I was a bit bummed out about it, especially as I felt I hadn't presented the best version of myself due to being quite down and struggling mentally in the ~6 weeks we had known each other.
Anyway, yesterday afternoon I went on a tinder date which, going into, I thought had more potential than with any other online lady I've met so far. Mostly because she was very much my type physically, seemed to be just the type of girl I tend to like in terms of personality, and she also seemed quite keen on me because (partly) she thought we would be very compatible sexually (long story short, she had seen me and become interested in me previously, on a Swedish online community focusing on bdsm. Pretty random!) So on paper it seemed like a quite interesting girl and I was quite keen to meet her. The date went reasonably poorly though, and I mostly felt it was my fault, again because I didn't present a particularly fun version of myself. For this reason, I was feeling super down with myself yesterday evening as I tried to analyze what I had done wrong and what I need to change in order to become more fun to hang out with and seem more attractive to high quality ladies.
From feeling really down, things changed rather rapidly though. I went back on tinder and swiped a bit out of boredom/anxiety, and matched with a very cute asian musician, who I talked to for an hour and who seemed pretty cool, and we set up a date for tomorrow evening. Helped raise my spirits slightly. Then today, I met up with the classmate mentioned in the post below for an extremely awkward, out of the blue, "talk" about us that she wanted to have. It ended up being quite amusing though, as we sat and laughed about the situation being really weird and how strange it was of her to write and suggesting to meet (nothing has happened between us since that night mentioned below, apart from some very light flirting on messenger). It ended well though, with some kissing and deciding to "see where things go", and she's coming over to have dinner and watch a movie at my place in a few hours. Also helped raise my spirits.
In addition, finally, the girl from the afternoon date yesterday wrote to me during this strange talk with the classmate, thanking me for a lovely time yesterday. Very surprising, as I wasn't expecting to hear from her ever again (and wasn't planning on writing to her more). Also helped raise my spirits!
What a difference 24 hours makes! I had already decided today would be the day this horrible spring took a turn for the better, with new classes starting etc etc, so I'm putting all of this down as a good first step in that direction.
Hope you're enjoying my lady troubles blog
Since I'm updating, I should also mention that I've met the "Wednesday girl" from below once after breaking up for some netflix and chill type situation, and we've tentatively agreed to do that again after easter break when she's back in town. Not sure that will end up happening if things are going on with other girls though.
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Originally Posted by Fabian
The Wednesday girl in the post above and I ended up seeing each other for two months, which was pretty nice even though we weren't super compatible long term. She was very inexperienced romantically/sexually, but was a very nice and sweet girl and I enjoyed hanging out with her. Ended things this morning, and she took it quite well which was a huge relief as I expected her to be more sad and I was feeling quite anxious leading up to that talk.
Part of the reason why I realized we weren't going to make it long-term (and that was the only goal for her, not the type to date casually) was I started talking to another girl online (non-tinder) a few weeks ago who I'm quite excited about. We've met twice so far and it's been really nice, looking forward to seeing her again on Monday.
Overall it's good to be back, no matter what ends up happening with that girl (or with my classmate I went home with last weekend, oops) I'll be sure to update once things crash and burn and I'm feeling down!