Aren't FWB actual friends...with benefits?

Booty calls are just booty calls, and girls you dated a few times, and now simply see in order to hook up occasionally, are basically just booty calls also.

I always thought that FWB were IRL friends on an ongoing basis, but I see people using the term to mean any situation where you have sex but no committed romantic relationship.

Beat me to it.

I currently have a FWB. We go out, do stuff, then hook up. No strings. This is not the same as a BC. So far, so good. We'll see how long it lasts.

Having sex with married/committed women seems terrible on almost all levels.

It’s A. Scummy

And B. A non zero percent chance her husband is an mma fighter or seal team 6 member.

I agree. A married women having sex behind her husband's back is a no go for me. However, I've had solid luck finding women in committed open relationships seeking sex on the side. For some reason I seem to fit the profile they're looking for, or maybe just short-term positive variance. They also seem to be more common in other countries than the USA (Mexico I doubt though).

Even the girl with the boyfriend abroad I don't feel quite right about seeing, but I think she wants to try having sex this weekend and I'll probably go through with it.

I saw girl with Portuguese bf for the 4th time today. She asked me at about 4PM if I had plans tonight, and I didn't so I agreed to meet her at a nearby park at 7PM. We walked around for about 90 minutes then I took her back to my place and we both ended up naked in my bed, but didn't have sex.

In the end, she couldn't go through with it, and I didn't want to force the issue too much. Her self control is quite admirable b/c she was really turned on, but didn't feel right about it.

I'm starting to fall for this girl a bit more. I really enjoy just walking around with her and chatting, she looks incredible naked, and our sexual chemistry (well, everything we tried) seems extremely high. It's a shame about the boyfriend situation and seeing me behind his back b/c it's giving me reservations about the girl. If we had met normally (i.e. she was actually single), then I'd be really into her right now.

I'm sure you would have

As he posts?! 😮

i think online dating has basically ruined my chances of ever seeing monogamy as something sustainable. i slept with this girl at her place last night, she cooked me a beautiful meal, she's cute, relatively normal, has her own place, has things together, good company. yet i just wouldn't care if i didn't see her again.

i've become so conditioned to 'onto the next one' that i can't even imagine now what the profile of a long-term partner would look like, even an idealistic one. Anyone else?

I would think that it has to start with your own desire for something more than sex with different people. Most people eventually want a long-term partner. But who knows, you might just be Will Ferrell from Wedding Crashers.

This rings true. I mean I still feel like my 19 year old self sometimes when I'm with a new girl; perhaps I'll grow out of that mindset, perhaps not.

Personally I'm still trying to discover and find out what I want in life, much less a romantic (or even merely sexual) partner. Some folks are lucky to have (mostly) figured this out in their 20s, and some never will. Though for the previous 2-3 years I've been making sure to enjoy that process of discovery (and embrace all the emotions and variance that come with that process).

IMO, thats the exact same stuff all my slutty friends say(male and female) to justify their **** with no strings attached style of life lol

isn't it really just about the sex? i know it sounds bad when you say that but imo its better than the cliche lines about discovery etc.

In general, I consider myself an exceptional arm chair psychologist(helps in poker tremendously) and imo it really boils down to this:

there's people who enjoy and get off on the thrill of the chase and straight up ****ing a stranger/person they shouldnt more than other people....they tend to be life long serial-cheaters and/or non committal depending on circumstances of life. i've seen people in seemingly great relationships, perfectly happy with a super attractive partner/SO throw everything away all because they couldn't pass up on smashing a MUCH less attractive/successful person. lol @ being married to a near perfect dime, but still going after people as low as like 4 or 5 lmao!

I've also discovered an abnormally high ratio of narcissism comes into play here....as people on the opposite end of narcissism spectrum tend to have high levels of empathy; finding it harder to **** without getting attached IMO and vice versa.

[QUOTE=Fossilkid93;53537132]I agree. A married women having sex behind her husband's back is a no go for me. However, I've had solid luck finding women in committed open relationships seeking sex on the side. For some reason I seem to fit the profile they're looking for, or maybe just short-term positive variance. be [\QUOTE]


Lol, you might have had sex with a married woman behind her husband’s back. Just because she told you they were in an open relationship doesn’t mean they were.

If you’re banging a married chick, are you the bad guy here? You’re not cheating. What if, like possibly Fossil, you didn’t know they were in a committed relationship? What if you didn’t even know she was married? Discuss.

If you didn't know about the other dick
Then you must acquit!

LOLOLOL

Patron you are killing it. You sir are a grate poaster.

And you are a great forum asset. Every forum needs an AIML.

/circlejerk

Here you go mate

https://trumpsingles.com

This is a really strange situation:

So I've met 3x with "sunglasses girl", the one I first posted about matching with about 2 weeks. We just completed our 3rd date tonight.

The first date was a short coffee date with dark lighting, and I thought she looked cute, but didn't get a super close look or anything, and we didn't kiss.

2nd date, we walked in the park for a bit, then went to a short IMAX documentary. This is when I noticed that she wears a LOT of makeup. I also noticed a slight odor coming from her. Not like BO or anything, but maybe like sulfur. We kissed a few times, and she's kind of an awkward kisser. She wouldn't go for any open mouth kissing at all, it was just like quick closed mouth pecks.

3rd date, we went to a short piano concert at the Bellas Artes Palace then hung out at a bar for 2-3 hours. Again I noticed the smell and again she wore a ton of makeup. It was the same style of making out, she won't progress beyond closed mouth kissing. A couple times I tried kissing her neck or cheek and she would just immediately turn her face towards mine so I would be kissing her mouth instead. She was fine with me touching her thighs, stomach, neck, etc. She seems to really like me and has expressed interest in a bunch of different activities, wants to travel with me, learn poker, etc.

I would have liked to invite her back to my place, but the progression in kissing isn't there b/c she refuses to go beyond basic kissing. I'm wondering if she has some kind of skin condition and possibly the odor is related so she's hesitant to get too intimate with me.

I didn't notice anything anywhere else on her body that would be evidence of some type of skin condition. Actually she has a killer body, and what could be a cute face sans some makeup.

Normally I would have deemed her behavior towards kissing too strange and just moved on, but she's a great fit personality wise and I really like hanging out with her.

I checked her Facebook and most of her pics look very good, but filtered. Her last 2 boyfriends were pretty attractive. She has some pics from 2010 and she looks very different.

She also mentioned she goes to the sauna like 5-7x a week, could be related to the skin thing somehow I guess.

Anyway, this post is kinda scattered, but I really like the girl a lot and am wondering wtf the deal is with the weird kissing, the odor, and painting on the makeup.

I had a work colleague who once told me she had vaginal discharge that smelt like sulfur. I wasn't really sure how to respond so I just smiled and nodded. I tend to have people I don't know very well tell me quite intimate details regarding their life.

Rexx,

I read your first sentence and audibly lol'ed.

You must be one super-approachable seeming person.

Fossil,

I have no idea. If it is indeed a skin condition, perhaps form of psoriasis that she covers with a topical cream? Or maybe simply smelly makeup, but she thinks she needs the makeup?

/shotsinthedark

You deserve to be ragged on for posts like this.

Leprosy.

Howard,

I notice that you called out Clark's post, and it's not entirely without merit, but you ignored the context. What do you think about Mergin's post that started it all, is it acceptable, and is it okay to criticize him or call him out for it?

This one:

Come on guys, please drop the off topic language discussion.

Patron,

I know! It's horribly awkward and I have been told some of the most amazingly intimate personal stories by people it's somewhat disturbing.

Chillrob,

Thanks for actually understanding what I was saying in regards to the dog joke.

Fossil, just ask her about the kissing. If she has an answer or starts responding better then awesome, if she gets all upset and is still awful and awkward with it, then you can use your time more wisely finding a better fit.