To be fair, Clark kinda started this whole thing with his well-intentioned but incorrect criticism of Rexx's usage of "ragging."

Black Aces made the point that "stances like this are actually counterproductive because they are so absurd that they lead to people rejecting all language correction issues as equally silly." Which makes sense to me, and is not the same thing as "liberals made fun of me, which made me vote for Trump."

In any event, we then got that horrendous hot take from Mergin.

This whole derail has obviously gotten too political for this thread, but I wouldn't mind seeing it excised into its own thread and allow for some further discussion on it, if nothing else for the lols.

Great pics, Fossil. La Gruta looks fantastic, and I would enjoy that setting, although I can also see how "cool" places like that can lead to fake places like The Shed looking cool as well.

Re: 33-year old virgin, she probably just has a low sex drive. Some people have almost non-existent sex drives, and that does not necessarily correlate with affection. I've had a girlfriend when I was younger, who loved kissing and being affectionate all the time, but wasn't particularly into sex and didn't seem to enjoy it much more than making out. She wasn't bothered by that, she just enjoyed affection and didn't physically need sex as much. She similarly never masturbated and was surprised that people do that. Judging by both her physical and verbal responses, and by girls I was with before and after her, none of this was due to me or my performance or lack thereof, but I could be wrong, of course. But imo, some girls are just like that.

She’s might just be afraid also.

Women need testosterone for sex drive also.

..and just like men, if its on the lower side the sex drive just isn't there - or at least the "omg I want to f right now and last hour and in two hours" drive

Maybe she should be treated like a real person, and not a thing to be analyzed. Jeez you people.

I don't think analysis of compatible sex drive is a bad thing in whether or not to date someone.

So what's the read on Russian women?

All people need to be analyzed to make sure they’re a real person or not. Then further analyzed to figure out exact amount of “realness”.

My experience (small-ish sample size) has been that they love money more than any other ethnicity. Would be interested to hear if others agree or disagree.

Too much representation in massage porn

I don't pretend to know the answer to that. My default position when it comes to people who take objectively and demonstrably false positions is to ignore them. I was recommending that everyone else do the same.

Is there a point at which ignoring them is dangerous? I guess so, but I don't think a thread on an internet forum is going to rise to that level.

Hopefully someone starts a containment thread where people can be offended on behalf of others and what not so that it doesn't infect other threads.

IME growing up in a city with a large Russian/Ukranian population that came there right after the USSR dissolved, women I've dated/been friends with of that sect were always very honest, very forward, and very loyal. Unsurprisingly, a few I still know are all-aboard the Trump train

I was hanging out at the monument to the revolution when the girl with Portuguese bf messaged me seeing if I wanted to hang out. I told her she should come meet me there and she agreed.

She looked really great when she showed up. Less is definitely more with this girl when it comes to makeup/lipstick. She also seemed to ramble on less and just enjoy the silence from time to time. We spent 3-4 hours together and I actually had a really great time with her. We did a lot of making out, groping, she laid in my lap for awhile.

Sounds like the situation with her bf is still in limbo. She hasn't made a definitive decision either way, but sounds like they have a deadline of April to decide whether or not to stay together. We talked about sex for awhile and I think she has the (correct) assumption that it would be really good with me and I think I might have convinced her to give it a try over the weekend. I don't know if it's a good idea though. If she sleeps with me, loves it, then breaks up with the bf, she'll probably expect that we'll be pretty serious when I return to Mexico, and I'm not yet sure if I want to take that plunge. She's so cute though I'm not sure if I can resist.

Who cares what her expectations are? I’m sure her Portuguese boyfriend (if he exists) expected her not to make out with a gringo as much as she did, and look at what that did for him (if he exists).

You can always become her bf when you come back and then break up with her 2 weeks later.

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Tou'che

+1 to mostly ignoring. The Clark ragging should have stopped after these posts:

After those posts, any further "+1" or "lol Clark" posts were only derailing the thread, and folks should have only responded further if they had something truly insightful or a sick burn (i.e. better than THAY3R's). Clark subsequently only responded to the lowest hanging and laziest rebuttals (e.g. posts from MerginHosOn24s), so nothing was really accomplished.

+1 to mostly ignoring.

Alright less politarding, more stories:


I'd been seeing a great girl since early December. For various reasons (e.g. she definitely wants kids and I'm leaning nope) we're not compatible long term, so we established a FWB status pretty quickly (she was very insistent on this after the first time we slept together, and in retrospect, I'm super appreciative of this).


A few weeks ago I text her to hang out, and she responds "It's been awesome spending time with you, but I want to be honest, this isn't working for me anymore". I kinda saw this coming, though it still felt like a f*cking kick in the stomach. Whoops, I may have developed some feels. I had been out drinking at the time (Eagles parade), so I text her "No sweat, I understand - let's f*ck one last time and then say goodbye?" She says "I hate the idea of one last time, how about we check in every few months?" Hmm yea I'm probably not interested in that, but I guess we'll see if I feel differently/horny in 2-3 months. Props to her for being straightforward though.


Reason I chose to vent/post this is that the phrase "I want to be honest", when used in this context (and many similar contexts) drives me unnecessarily nuts (almost posted this in the "things that shouldn't piss you off" thread). I get it - I used to use it too, and it's obviously used to make oneself feel better about doing something unpleasant. You're never going to get me to say "hey thanks for being honest; if you hadn't prefaced it that way, it would've been worse for me." And as if we weren't previously being honest with each other? Again, I still give her props for being straightforward.

Maybe she’s finally being honest with herself and then “now is able to be with you”. We may never know.

FWB never last unless both parties are emotionally dead.

It helps if both parties are also f*cking other people. I've been kinda lazy on the dating front and busy with other stuff for the past ~3 months, so I wasn't seeing anyone else at the time. Eh, so it goes.

They are real people.

I've have had several FWB over the years, although we never called it that, it was just booty call.

Most of the time we never discussed the particulars, which was bad on my part, cause many of the women were married or in some sort of relationship.

Maybe that's not FWB, maybe that's just cheating hoes.

But anyway, most worked out for me, probably because they were getting their emotional needs met elsewhere.

**Humble brag** I still know a few and probably could open that can again ,but I have a better moral compass and they got OLD.

For me, always seems to work best with girls who are otherwise taken (bf, husband, open relationship). Otherwise, it seems like you're often having to deal with convos like "I'm not sure if this working", "I'd like to meet in public with you at times", and the like.