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Going on my first Tinder first date tomorrow night. Because I was frustrated I wasn't getting any matches early on, I tried casting a wider net, so her pictures aren't super hot, but whatever.
Overall, I thought it went pretty well, yet my game clearly has room for improvement.
I arrived ten minutes early, she arrived right on time, and I thought she looks better than her pictures. She's no smokeshow, but definitely an acceptable level of hotness and not out of my league, if that's a thing.
Conversation flowed very naturally, we have a lot in common. Talked about people we know in common, books, movies, music, podcasts, TV, etc. I told some funny stories about a Vegas bachelor party (at the risk of looking like a degen, but she was laughing). Great eye contact throughout. She drank a total of 1 cider, I drank a total of 2 IPA's, the date lasted 1:45 hours. I offered to go to the bar next door to continue the evening, but she said she has an early morning, and it is a weeknight after all.
Something I feel like I could improve is what the PUA community calls kino, flirtatious touching... I didn't touch her hardly at all. We were seated at the bar and there was space between us, so I thought it would be awkward to dive across no man's land and go for it to put an arm around her or something.
We both have early mornings tomorrow and this is a Wednesday night after all, so we called it a night at 9:45. I got her number, walked her to her car, and got a good night hug (but not a kiss). I didn't attempt to get a kiss, and if there's been no physical or flirtatious foreplay going on, I don't think diving in for a peck out of the blue is a good play.
I know Clark says you should basically always go for kisses even before they seem ready to take it to that stage, no ragrets, etc. I dunno. We both hadn't drank enough to be even tipsy, so I feel like going for it would just seem contrived.
So I guess I text her tomorrow about the good time I had, and try to set plans to see her again soon?
Comments on all streets appreciated.