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Originally Posted by ClarkNasty
What’s the downside to asking?
It's awkward. If you know the cues you're looking for consent is easy when it's non verbal. I appreciate that it seems a lot of guys don't have a clue though so should find a way of getting consent that doesn't suck.
Unsurprisingly there's a slew of terrible advice online about 'sexy ways' to ask. I believe women in general want to **** guys who are confident enough that they already know she wants it. That doesn't stop other women from vomiting their appalling advice to guys about how they should approach consent.
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/ambe...b_9789458.html
Just because 'Amber Amour' is imagining Brad Pitt or selected heartthrob whispering the likes of
14. "Do you want me to stop?"
16. "Is it okay if I touch you down there?"
21. "Do you want me to wear a condom?"
to her and it's still sexy for her, doesn't mean it isn't a ridiculous thing for some average schmoe to phrase something to a woman in the bedroom.
There are some decent ones on that list to be fair. I say 'you like that?' all the time. But I would argue something like that is just part of effective dirty talk rather than crossing the semantic line into actively getting enthusiastic consent. If it's enough for me just to say 'You like that?' and get an answer in the affirmative then consent is all good by me, but I don't get the impression that's widely seen as good enough by today's standards.