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Originally Posted by Malucci
I haven’t been online dating over the past couple months, but I too plan on “getting out there more”, dating is going back to a secondary focus for me...anyway, Eeyore do you have any strategies? What kind of places are you planning on meeting more compatible women? Are you comfortable just approaching women you’re attracted to? What is (are) the plan(s) of attack?
I think I've actually missed possible connections by focusing on the dating sites to get dates rather than pay more attention to my surroundings.
It's like I go to social gatherings to enjoy a specific activity,( watch a game, play cards, meet up with old friends, etc) rather than be more open to what else happens to go on.
Sometimes its pointed out to me by my friends that someone paid more than casual attention to me and I ignored it or was oblivious to it at the time.
I occasionally reminisce and realize the possibility was there but I didn't pursue it, choosing to focus on the specific activity I was there for.
That's the type of stuff that makes me realize I was putting emphasis on trying to find online what was possibly around me in real life.
So I plan to be more aware, be more forward when the opportunity presents itself rather than passive.
I say this hoping it's true that opportunities will happen, and not just to keep my ego.
I've said it before, I seem to be the type of person who isn't a great first impression but becomes more likeable if given a chance.
Strangely since I've gotten to middle age,(Just turned 50) I don't seem to connect with women around my own age.
I seem to connect with the 30-40 age group, and unfortunately, with women who are married or in a relationship, for some reason.
I don't try to find these types, it just seems alot of taken women want someone on the side, it's jaded my view on relationships noticeably.
As for a specific plan of attack, I really dont have one yet, I am still in the process of weaning myself from depending on the internet to find companionship.
And to be honest, finding someone isn't a big deal right now.
It would be nice, but not a priority.