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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
Krunic is not typical/average/normal and his situation isn't either. I'm suggesting he take an atypical approach because of atypical situation.
Yeah he could spend time blasting first responses, swiping every girl, having some self reflection after he doesn't get responses, fix his mistakes, get responses, set up dates..... But that's where it ends. He needs to build confidence first and then proceed with the above;you aren't moving past a first date without confidence.
What do you mean "that's where it ends"? That's where what ends? I'm perfectly comfortable talking to women. All my friends are women. The thing I have the least anxiety/ most confidence about in terms of dating is talking to a woman on a date. I'm far more comfortable talking to women than men.
I have less confidence about my ability to get a woman to be initially attracted enough go on a date with me. I have zero confidence in my ability to get a woman to have an orgasm.
I have low self esteem and zero dating experience, but I do have some dignity. Your idea of me begging for pity sex on CL is idiotic and a little insulting. If the best I could do with that is get an overweight unattractive middle aged woman with god knows what kind of mental illnesses to feel sorry for me, take on a creepy pseudo-motherly role and have creepy pity sex with me, then that's a definite no.
The term "trigger" is thrown around a lot these days, but sometimes it's real and has a legit usage. This would be one of those times. The only vagina I've seen irl is my overweight middle-aged mother's, involuntarily, when I was a small child, as she explained to me the female genital anatomy and how sex works. Your idea is that I should essentially recreate the scenario that made me not want anything to do with sex for 30 years in order to cure my anxiety and boost confidence. This is probably the worst possible thing I could do.
Your mistake is assuming that because you knew some other guy(s) who hadn't had sex at age 30 or whatever, that I must be exactly like them and have not had sex for the exact same reasons. This is not a correct assumption. Sexual behavior was not suppressed in my home growing up, it was literally shoved in my face at an inapropriate age. The strategy for how the guys you knew should work through their anxiety issues is not going to be the same as for me, obviously.
Last edited by krunic; 12-14-2017 at 03:03 AM.