Have a little situation. Five dates - the 4th was just at her place, not "all the way" because she had to drive a couple of hours late that night.
Going into the 5th there was little doubt there would also be a 6th. Dinner, good, new place dessert, good, new place another drink, still good. Talking and physically affectionately acting like I'm her bae. No question we're good.
Then she wants to take a selfie together in the restaurant we were drinking at. I'll do this type of thing sometimes, but wasn't crazy about it at a nicer quiet place. Still, I attempted it. I'm not photogenic and am bad at posing properly in photos, and so we didn't really get a good one. I was kinda tired of trying to get a perfect one after a few minutes and figured that would be the end of it, but she was very put off. I pressed her on her attitude and she said I'm a "buzzkill" (presumably referring to things such as she dances and I don't, she likes to club and I don't, she'll make a scene with selfies and I'm less likely to, etc.).
It was basically a near-complete shutdown by her after that. I walked her home a few blocks, there was some kissing etc. but not the way it had been (we'd had excellent physical chemistry before, like about as good as it gets IME, and she did verbally confirm the chemistry).
I think a "regular" long-term monogamous relationship is not in the cards due to our differences (though you never know), but there are certainly other arrangements that could be made and/or I'd like to continue dating her casually.
No contact since I got in the Lyft Thursday night.
What's the play? I considered sending her 1-3 of the selfies which imo came out ok (the original plan was I would send her them), but have not done so and lean against now. I think it's going to be no contact on my end until at least Wednesday (so about 6 days from the date), then perhaps I'll give it a shot (though I think if it goes that long w/o her reaching out, it's probably over). Leaving it alone IME can be extremely effective, and I wouldn't be surprised to get a v friendly text from her out of the blue in the next few days if I stand pat.
I'm also interested in how you people would handicap me seeing her romantically again. Like, late on the 5th date it was 80-90%. Does it really go down to 30% based on one bad 30 minute stretch, or am I overreacting? It's possible she was just exhausted and had to pee (she said she did) and so she wasn't as affectionate for 30 minutes.
I guess gun to my head I say I see her again and it's like 55%. It's really close.
(I've also had multiple instances with this one where I thought I was DOA for whatever reason but was totally fine.)
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Originally Posted by El Diablo
The Bourne Identity movies are awesome! But that one without Matt Damon sucked. I'm thinking about reading the books, have you read them?
I read the first one and it's terrible. It's totally different from the film, dialogue sucks (especially the lolromance), and it takes like 8 pages to describe what's happening in his head with the amnesiac skills, which in the film takes approximately 5 seconds of screen time and does a better job of conveying it.
The Talented Mr. Ripley is a better option for books-that-were-adapted-into-Damon-films. (I wound up reading all 5.)