b.s. V-Day is like the Super Bowl for girls. Of course she knew when it was two weeks before, one week before, 3 days before, the day before, the day of.

Not arguing with you. That's why I phrased it the way I did in the parentheses.

got it.

While this may be true, no reason to not enjoy the ride and indulge the spark while it lasts. And who knows, the spark could last a good 6 months or so if you're lucky enough to be very sexually compatible and if you're smart about planning not-boring dates.

That just made me think what if the NFL started a week later. SB would be on V-Day about every 6 years. Hilarity would definitely ensue.

Going on dates is not going to keep the spark. If anything, it diminishes it, especially if you are putting forth effort.

I knew it would be polarizing, and wanted that after realizing it was. I'm somewhat wild, and if she was too uptight and gave me sht for it off the rip I woulda paid and left.

Did not get catfished. Nice girl but seems a bit boring to me. She hit me up after / this morning. Variance obgyn.

That wasn't what I was suggesting. Key word was "not-boring". Obviously the spark (if it exists) diminishes as time increases; no one's arguing against that. You can slow the rate of diminishing the spark by making sure that the dates you do spend together don't suck (e.g. replace and/or spice up the usual "going out to eat" stuff with more active stuff).

Set a date on Weds for Saturday at a general place with a lot of restaurants/pubs, time/date agreed to. Texted her Friday afternoon with the specific restaurant, ended the text with "Cool?" 0 response.

Do I bother showing up? Feels like I have to show up, but I'm guessing I've got like 20-1 odds of her being there.

Call her maybe ?

Lol, she just texted "we still on?"

First time I've heard of a text legit not being received.

might be legit, might be that she received it but didn't want to confirm yesterday so she could keep her options open. without knowing the situation i'd lean toward the latter.

She could have had something else set up and when that failed you were the backup

I've had a pretty good number of texts missed over the years, confirmed with screenshots from friends (not people trying to deceive me).

Yes I've not gotten texts on occasion from people I know would have no reason to lie about sending them.

I miss texts often, as well as people missing mine, and one friend occasionally gets mine garbled. Very frustrating. Sometimes they arrive hours to days later, sometimes never.

You were plan B. Who cares. Go out and see how it goes.

Went out with a girl for coffee today - felt like we had good chemistry and she was keen...

But she also mentioned a few guys she went out with a few times that were still in love with her (but not vice versa), including a guy she's planning on moving in with (as friends because she wants to live closer to the city and not alone)...

that sounds like the setup to a cbs midseason sitcom

Women like that are the nut low. I went out with an older chick a while ago and she kept talking about how lots of guys were in love with her. She was so full of herself and it was really unbecoming.

Agree. I obviously don't know the context of the conversation but comments like this are generally a red flag.

Hey guys, long time reader first time poster.

I've been chatting with a girl for the past few days and things are flowing and she's pretty responsive, but then after about an hour or so, she stops being responsive. I asked her last night why and she says she was playing League. I knew she was a gamer but I found this to be a bit annoying, a little heads up would be nice. So now I'm wondering what I should do about this. I'm thinking either option 1: talk to her about in the lines of hey, I really enjoy chatting with you and I understand the need for gaming, but I'd really appreciate an hour of your time to chat and then you can play League. Or option 2: Basically stop talking to her as it seems she's not very interested in me and if she chats me up and ask how I've been and/or why I haven't chatted with her say something like I didn't want to disturb you from League. Any other suggestions/recommendations?

generic,

Neither option is good, but 2 is better than 1. Don't do 1. Only crazy people do 1.

Try to wean yourself off of caring about her response times and you'll reduce your anxiety by a lot. There's too much to do nowadays than worry about text response time on non-urgent matters.

I usually wouldn't, but to do this in the middle of a chat conversation is what concerns me, or is that normal these days?