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Well, you are right in that the odds are not likely in my favor. In aggregate, I asked a stupid question and got a stupid answer. However, is this situation not considered a freeroll?

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11-21-2015 , 07:32 PM

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El Diablo

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Muffled,

"I bet it looks great with your juicy sweatpants"

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11-21-2015 , 08:49 PM

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jt217

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So this happened when she went silent after sending seven or so messages each:

Me:
Well, I have to assume one of two things happened. Either you're on George Clooney's yacht somewhere or I got buried beneath a pile of dudes doing the duckface in the mirror. One of those things I can do something about... the other, well... I don't blame you.

Her:
And how would you plan to do something about that one? lol

I don't know where to go from here.

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11-21-2015 , 08:56 PM

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wesrwood

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Get her number and make plans asap

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11-21-2015 , 09:55 PM

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ninetynine99

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Depends if she's The One®.

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11-21-2015 , 11:53 PM

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jt217

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Originally Posted by wesrwood

Get her number and make plans asap

Sent her my number and she called me like an hour later. We haven't talked because who does that anymore. We've texted back and forth and will meet up on Monday. I don't understand this stuff at all, but a more aggressive approach is working.

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11-22-2015 , 12:03 AM

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wesrwood

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You are welcome

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11-22-2015 , 12:26 AM

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MuffledFumes

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Originally Posted by MuffledFumes

[1]
My first msg:
Is that a michael kors watch? Well, the fat ass gold watch look is nice. =)

[2]
Her response 10 secs later:
No. It's juicy couture

[3]
I bet it looks great with your juicy sweatpants

Thanks El Diablo.

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11-22-2015 , 06:59 PM

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SiMor29

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Hey ladies and gents, as a newly inducted member of the fraternity, is meeting for coffee of a saturday afternoon a good shout? It probably is but should it lead to dinner if all goes well or?

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11-22-2015 , 07:08 PM

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capone0

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good sign?

I normally like to keep my first dates a little short especially if you are starting early. You could transition it to dinner, but I wouldn't expect it.

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11-22-2015 , 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by SiMor29

Hey ladies and gents, as a newly inducted member of the fraternity, is meeting for coffee of a saturday afternoon a good shout? It probably is but should it lead to dinner if all goes well or?

Yeah should be if late afternoon,say four'ish,you can meet her and segue into dinner.
I wouldn't try to do it earlier and get the same results,that's a long day.
Anything over four to six hours on a first meeting is kinda tricky to keep the interest up.

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11-22-2015 , 07:25 PM

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SiMor29

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I left the timing up to her as I decided on Saturday. God I feel old but she has a 13 year old son so she needs to plan around him but said she can arrange a babysitter around our date.

I reckon if she's arranging a sitter and wants to meet around 4 that probably means we can go for dinner right? Christ man it's been a decade since i've been in the game so i'm pretty rusty! She's early 30s, same as me.

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11-22-2015 , 07:27 PM

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SiMor29

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Originally Posted by capone0

good sign?

I normally like to keep my first dates a little short especially if you are starting early. You could transition it to dinner, but I wouldn't expect it.

Haha no I meant good shout, as in is that a good idea or not? My choice.

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11-22-2015 , 07:31 PM

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Who knows. She might have the sitter just for that short period of time. Her schedule is going to be pretty inflexible with the kid. Expect the date to be pretty short. Sorry I haven't heard the term good shout before.

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11-22-2015 , 07:51 PM

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SiMor29

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No worries it's probably a scottish term?

So should i suggest dinner or not? that's the thing that i'm curious about currently as obviously she has made arrangements around me but i take it she won't be expecting to go for dinner? Or will she? Go with the flow?

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11-22-2015 , 07:56 PM

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capone0

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If it's going well and if she has time (she'll probably tell you during the date in how free she is after it), then ask. Don't worry about it too much.

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11-22-2015 , 08:05 PM

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SiMor29

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I think this is the easiest "in" if you like, she has an easy out so to speak so it should be easy to tell if she's into it or not. Was wondering where to take her for coffee but thinking a place next to a restaurant seems natural. That way i can just blurt it out if all going well?

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11-22-2015 , 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by SiMor29

Go with the flow.Wait to ask about dinner after a while of talking,don't lock it down before coffee.

But think of things to talk about before you get there.Concentrate on things she might like to talk about,let her talk as much as possible.

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11-22-2015 , 08:44 PM

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SiMor29

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That part is ok, I think, I'm quite a chatty person and the conversation has been flowing already. I know I can get her to talk about her job, her kid, her job... and her kid... haha nah that bit will be fine.

No way would I suggest dinner before coffees are done, not yet anyway.

As seasoned pros what do you think she's coming into this thinking? 32 year old single mother of a 13 year old, who apparently doesnt drink much and has only been online dating for a couple of weeks? (don't worry Im healthily spectipcal of the aforementioned, but that's ok.)

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11-22-2015 , 09:09 PM

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Eeyorefora

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Originally Posted by SiMor29

Depends on how long she's been single,IMO.
Really for a year or two after a long marriage,she's not be ready for another serious relationship.
But some are looking to get remarried right away to have security.(be leery of these)
So just let her talk,most times people will let you know what's going on if you let them talk enough.

No offense,but it seems you are trying too hard.
I know after getting out of a serious relationship,you may be "rusty",but don't over think it,just take it easy.

Don't make issues where none are present .They'll show up soon enough.

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11-23-2015 , 04:06 AM

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Turns out deaf girl is nothing but a whore. She tells me i dont feel a connection and cancels date #3. I tell her omg i liked you, blah blah blah. She then responds with "i just want yo **** you". So i guess il meet her up this week for sex. I asked her what she liked or to send me some hot pics. She said its better to tell me in person.

My read on her was way off. I thought she was some uptight chick. At least i should get some sex out of this.

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11-23-2015 , 04:10 AM

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El Diablo

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Ps,

That's how those rich corporate women always are!

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11-23-2015 , 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Burdzthewurd

Everyone ITT that's happily dating has taken plenty of lumps before they got to where they are today

no kidding. but i wouldn't have had it any other way.

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Originally Posted by DontDoItPls

Thanks.

Yeah, nothing ever came of it. It was definitely a rough patch and I did come very close to breaking up with her, but ever since then it has been smooth sailing.

Awesome to hear. Haha yep, definitely want try to time a good moment for that.

Well she said yesterday 'I think I'm falling in love with you' of course I blurted back 'I love you too!' and then said, 'wait, you did just say you love me?' and she was like 'not exactly but i do love you and have been thinking about saying it for a while' i said me too, we laughed about it and everything was great again.

the end.

Last edited by SandraXII; 11-23-2015 at 05:46 AM.