I got two dates out of jswipe last week, both on the same day (unintentional, thankfully did not double book the times). I arranged both these before I met girl 3

1) She only had headshot pics, chatting was going well so we set a date at the planetarium in the afternoon after talking about the water discovery on mars. I meet her, shes not really my type (read heavier than me), we watch the two shows and I drop her off at her car right after the date. No intention of pursuing her.

2) This one only had full body shots and no clear headshot. We set a date to go to a bar near her place. She tells me to leave my car by her house and we'll walk to the bar. I was at my friends place watching a hockey game and called her to set up the specifics on speaker. He hears this and throws me a pack of condoms and says even I coulnt mess this one up. My thoughts when i see her: shes also not my type (butterface) but totally doable after a few drinks. We get to the bar and she orders coffee, doesnt want to drink, not vibing at all. Walk her home after like 30-45 mins. Dont intend on talking to her again.

3) I met a girl in class, was chatting her up and discussing the group assignment and other school stuff. Italian girl sitting on the other side keeps trying to chat me up. Next week when i get in class the italian waves me over to sit with her. Im surfing instagram and see a gun I own with some crazy silencer, so im really taking a long look at this picture. She sees it and asks me if i like guns, tell her i own that one, she immediately says her roommate and her would love to try shooting (i live in canada, these girls coulnt just go to a gun range on their own). After class we go to her apt to pick up her roommate, this gorgeous petite latina, precisely my type. We go shoot and the latina invites me over for dinner on Friday. That goes well, i help italian with some school work and she makes us rissoto. I dont make a move on either and my head is spinning as to which one to ask out (they are both very good looking). I decide on the latina, set up a date for the following week. Took her last night to the museum followed by dinner, I didnt do much escalating and did not go for the kiss at the end of the night. Will call her tomorrow to set another date.

omg a girl who dont drink? how rare, women never accept me, because i dont drink, and thats all most women want to do. otherwise, they think a guy is "too serious and no fun". u should fix me up with her.

go into any casino, where are the women? clearly not at the poker table, unless they are gay or ur mothers age. instead, they are at the BAR

She's the one who suggested going to a bar at night for the first date not me btw sorry that wasnt clear. Idk it struck me as weird but maybe its not?
I jumped to the conclusion we were going to have a few drinks if shes telling me to leave the car in front of her place. I obviously read too much into that. It was a cold night too, like 8 Celsius, and the bar was a good 5 blocks away.

Sounds like she was down for something but changed her mind.Maybe it was you,maybe not,at this point,don't worry about it.

Worry about that hot roommate thing ,I hope it works out,I always pick the wrong ones and end up alienating both of them.

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I had a date last night. We met at a bar near where I work in the FiDi. She texted me 10 minutes early that she was already sitting there and waiting at the bar. I get there and she looks a little bit older than she did in her pics. She is 39. I am 40. And I prefer women near my age. So not a big deal for me. She had a seat saved for me at the bar. I had originally planned on getting a table but the place was packed and we had a nice spot at the bar. She had ordered a Manhattan. I order a gin and tonic. She was very engaging and easy to talk to. We talked about work (she works in finance) and our families and growing up in NYC. But it didn't feel like an interview but like a natural relaxed conversation. I could tell from her facial expressions and body language that she was into me. She kept touching and holding on to my arm in conversation. I was not so into her at first but she smelled really nice and had a great ass and her attraction to me, frankly turned me on.

I made a bold move and ordered some apps while she went to the bathroom without asking her. I ordered some tuna tartare mini tacos and spinach empanadas. We both loved the tuna but the empanadas came with a very garlicky chimichurri dipping sauce that was probably not ideal for a first date. She only had one empanada and told me to have the extra one. We ordered a second round of drinks and the conversation was really relaxed and I was picking up really good vibes like she was into me. I was enjoying the conversation and I could tell that she was too.

We left the bar and walked a couple of blocks to the subway. We were both leaving from the same train station but taking different lines. I told her that she looked really nice. I grabbed her arm and went for the kiss and she reciprocated. She wasn't the best kisser but she had a very sexy body. And I was into her. We kissed again right before we got on the subway. When I get home she had already texted me and thanked me for a nice evening. I texted her back and we both agreed we would like to meet again.

I have a second date tonight with this writer chick that I went out with like 3 weeks ago. She isn't that hot but I really like her. I genuinely like talking to her. She is very smart and we've had great text conversations. We are meeting at a pub in the Village tonight. She lives in the Village, so we'll see what happens.

I also have a coffee and Central Park date for Saturday with a girl that comes off very sweet in her texts. She lists backgammon and gambling as hobbies. I think she might be of Greek origin, so that could explain the backgammon. Could be a dangerous combo for me.

So far it's been a good week. Much better than last. Oh, and I texted the girl from the other night. The no kiss date. I thought she would blow me off but she texted back that she would like to meet again.

Things are looking up, imo.

Sorry for the tl;dr. Good luck out there folks!

Nice rebounding from a few weeks ago and GL

And don't forget to bring a band aid and gauze, just in case things get really physical

Ya, never leave home without a good First Date Kit.

As I and others have said, it's a numbers game bro. On top of it, you'll get more comfortable with dating again, and it looks like you already have. GL and I'm glad you didn't quit so easily.

Nice one, movieman. I don't think I'll ever live than one down. I'm all recovered and ready to take my chances.

Thanks for the encouragement, capone. You are totally right. Great advice, man.

I dated a woman who we always had a slice of pizza loaded with garlic when we were out. If you both eat garlic, it cancels!

Sounds good man. I hear a lot of internet folks whine about dating in NYC. Keep ballin

I'm having this deja vu moment where I've read this (nearly) exact post from Chip before. Too tired to search right now, but I feel like this garlic story and dating in NYC has been brought up previously.

Rejected at the end of the date. Brutal. But I thought about it and I was way more upset that I got rejected in general than that I'm missing out on this girl in particular. It's like the job search when that ****ty temp job you didn't really want tells you they picked someone else - if you're not sitting with any offers, you still feel like ****. Don't even have enough passion/attraction for the usual vengence whack. Probably means I'm some kind of whiny needy bitch. I holding out hope that she'll be my new female gay best friend since my other one may have moved on

Dammit, was about to post that Bobbo and I had great date 1/2s in a row and it was moviemans turn now.

Mine is Romanian girl in town for a month on business. Matched on CMB on Tuesday, # on Wednesday, date just now where we shared a bottle of wine, explored Harvard Square, great conversation, made out while she waited for her Uber, seeing her next weekend when both our schedules match

The latest online dating trend I've stumbled across is that women are trying on expensive clothes they cannot afford and taking dressing room selfies. Said photos are then used as part of profile photos. Hilarious.

Odd, there was a huge influx of about 50 prosti-bots on Tinder in my area. All between the ages of 23-27, with 4 pics (usually selfies), and from the same distance away. This after seeing only 1 or 2 in the previous week. It's really hampering my swipe right to all strategy.

I've super liked quite a few girls on accident. Literally the WOAT feature, and not sure why they make it so easy to do if it's a really limited feature. There's no reason that anything but hitting the actual button should do it.

Wow, the Clooney yacht line posted in here awhile back for girls that go dark after having exchanged a couple messages actually worked.

She was genuinely apologetic and said she doesn't check OKC often and thought she had already responded to me. Ended up adding her on FB and in the process of setting up a date.

Does anyone still do a phone call after you get a number? I did like 3 years ago but I feel like times have changed. Am I wrong?

call isn't necessary

you know, the last few weeks ive had a lot of interesting dating experiences but none really related to online dating

closest is that i matched with a girl on tinder about a month ago at this point, and shes cancelled/flaked on a first date like 5 times now. im not terribly invested or stopping from going out otherwise, and she still eagerly texts me (all the excuses are work related, and i dont think shes lying) every other day, so at this point the ball is completely in her court.

weird days are upon us. i blame the blood moon.

I'm suffering from dating exhaustion. It has begun to take so much effort just to set some of the dates up. A lot of the time I am not that excited to even meet with some of them. Also I've had a few flake on me before a first date which I find super annoying. My evenings the past few weeks have been super busy with either a social event, meeting a friend, or a date.

I might take a break for a bit. I keep saying to myself I am going to be super picky and then sometimes I match with a girl who is a 6 and I figure, I should just take a shot.

FossilKid, what is the clooney yacht line?

Of all the things this process has taught me, it's that dating should be purely a supplement to your life, not a focus.

I have 2-3 nights a week I can actively date with comedy/public speaking/lifting/day to myself taking up my time. Happy that I'm not trying to squeeze in dates and sacrifice the above just for the sake of someone I'm not super excited or nervous about anymore.

The stars have aligned for my inaugural two dates in one evening play. Girl only has an hour on Thursday and other girl can only meet later.

I have 56s on the button and ahead of me is a light opener with two old nit callers. SQUEEEEZE

wtf is "public speaking"?

I'm in Boston too fwiw