If you can't do the day then just say that. I don't think she's doing any mind games, I'd bet she forgot/wasn't listening. If you have this kind of banter to make fun of her for it, then do that and say like you'll owe me a drink since you keep forgetting what I tell you

Ehhh...probably not. Women don't just "forget" about men they're interested in. She's either losing interest in him, has lost it, or is a total hobag and is seeing eight other men at the same time. In any event, if a woman starts acting flaky in the beginning, just cut it off. There's so many other fish in the sea and you really don't need to waste your time on her bull****.

Ya you seem to be over thinking it. If you want to go just go. If she does somehow remember and asks you about the plans you originally had just say they fell through.

She said she wanted to see him since she recommended going for a walk, she just seems to have forgotten that he said the afternoon wasn't good for him, which without knowing how he said it and all that context isn't that big a deal imo. She might be flaky but she's not blowing him off

Yeah for FFS you want to see her and she's giving you the opportunity. Don't tried to use some third level power play, just go out with her.

+1

If he wants to go for a walk, that is fine. Maybe he didn't want to go for a walk?

I didn't really want to go for a walk for a second date, no. Not used to that at all. No alcohol, potential for awkwardness. Meal is always way better. Walks are for after you've slept together IMO.

ROFL...you're doing it ALL wrong, man.

Just out of curiosity - What age group are you in?

I mean dates that are exclusively walks and during the day, not like 'let's go for a walk' after a dinner date or whatever. It's a preference thing. But clearly you're quite the stud and can pull it off obv

By the way she just texted me saying we're on for a dinner date midweek.

No, I was legitimately asking what age group you're talking about here.

Is it a secret?

I'm 31, she's 24. I'm going for the 24-28 ish bracket

I don't think age has any bearing on it, but walks are great first/second dates for a lot of reasons. You're missing out if you are not having walks as a date option pre-coitus.

You're 30+ and you're looking for women under 25?

I'm 33. I can't remember the last time I went for a "walk" with an adult woman. I can't even remember the last time one suggested it. I've never gone for a walk with a woman I was trying to sleep with, man. That's just ...not the way I learned how to do it where I'm from.

If it works for you though, by all means keep doing it.

You're trying to argue you with him and you guys basically have the same view. It's funny.

Yeah I was trying to work out wtf he was talking about, pretty sure he disagrees with me though and was trying to be sarcastic/ironic or something

Ya. I'm not following that either.

+1 walking dates are fantastic depending on what city you're in for early dates. If it's going well it's great to then walk to a bar/place to eat and if it's not going well you can just run away.

Welp, spoke too soon. Bailed on same-day again. Here's all the texts between us from getting number up to when she bailed:

(Friday)

Me: Meg! It's (Burdz) from OKC. Let me know when you're free for drinks by the way, I'm open Sunday evening and from Wednesday on

Meg: Hey! Sorry I just saw this. Any of those days works for me so far. Looking forward to it!

Me: Meet me at Whiskys, 7, Sunday. Wear your best drinking shoes.

Meg: On Boylston?

Me: Absolutely

Meg: See you then

Me: Can't wait to see you, will dutifully check out Manos, Hands of Fate (her favorite bad movie) in preparation for then

Meg: haha enjoy!

(Saturday)

Me: Well, that was 68 minutes of my life I'm not getting back haha. Definitely looking forward to seeing you tomorrow night at Whiskys.

Meg: Hahaha sorry...but I NEVER said it was any good! Awesomely terrible, maybe...see you tomorrow!

(Sunday)

Meg: Hi (Burdz). I'm not going to be able to meet you tonight. I'm sorry. I'm going through a divorce and I'm kind of a mess and I don't want to subject anyone to that! You seem like a great guy. Best of luck, an equally great girl is out there looking for you!

She then deactivated her account. Seems more like unluckiness than me ****ing up, but maybe I'm completely wrong, so bring on the criticism. 4 times in 10 days, though.

Maybe you should change your target audience.

Last text on Friday and the text on Saturday come off as kinda needy imo.

That's the only thing I can see but if that is the case then it is very slight. Very slight.

Only comment is ask her out for Sunday right away.

The cancellation + account deactivated just seems like bad luck. Bitches be crazy

Yeah this too. Not a fan of offering your availability unprompted.

Burdz,

More texting than I think is optimal between setting date and meeting, but I think your core issue is before then in the process.

If you want our help fixing this, send the communication start to finish.

What you're experiencing is absolutely nowhere near normal. I suspect you're setting up "whatever" dates where the women are like eh sure whatever I guess I'll maybe have a drink with this guy if I'm bored and have nothing better to do, instead of having some kind of connection/interest developed that gets them excited to meet you.