Also added a what the critics are saying today, and already got a message about how hilarious it is. Thanks phatpots

I don't think I have either. But I've also sent messages at like 4am that instantly get the read notification when the person is definitely asleep and not on match so it kinda makes me question it.

"When emailing a real profile, a man can expect a reply about 30% of the time. We've conducted extensive research on this, and you can read more about it our other posts. Let's couple this 30% reply rate with the fact that only 1 in every 30 profiles on a pay site is a viable profile. We get:

3/10 × 1/30 = 1/100

That is, a man can expect a reply to 1 in every 100 messages he sends to a random profile on a pay site. The sites of course don't show you completely random profiles, but as we've seen they have an incentive to show you nonsubscribers. Even if they do heavy filtering and just 2 of 3 profiles they show you are ghosts, you're still looking at a paltry 10% reply rate."

http://static.izs.me/why-you-should-...ne-dating.html

Don't believe everything you read?

IMO, I'm actually MORE likely to email a subscriber because they're going to be active on the site. I don't message people who aren't active and I don't mass message.

I have taken a girl i met on Tinder out twice, both times for dinner and both times i paid and she put no resistance up. Got on well both times, although the first date was better.

She is now playing it v.cool - it's always me messaging her, she takes ages to reply, etc.

So is it rude to just start ignoring someone who has picked up the tab on both dates? Haven't you earned a "thanks, but no thanks" by this point??

She's trying to be subtle

I managed to figure that bit out

I agree it's an annoying practice, but she's been taught (by others or through her own experience) to believe rejecting you is going to cause her problems. Me personally, I would rather have the girl say no so I don't have to sit there and wonder.

She could also be on the fence about you versus another guy. In which case, I still think it's best to stop talking to her. If she's playing the you vs him game she's never going to be happy with her decision.

You're owed nothing. She's told you clearly enough. Move on

Yeah.
And thinking that picking up the check entitles you to anything is a rather slippery slope.
Just stick to drinks anyway.

Why do people insist on going out for dinner, paying then complaining when the girls isn't really interested. Go for drinks, then you drop 20 instead of a hundo.

I don't eat where things cost $40/person.

I don't complain when they aren't interested but I don't drink so that's not an option for me

so nothing related to the article or my point. cool.

It's completely related. The article is extrapolating a reply rate on a pay site based on percentage of non-subscribers. When, in fact, I'm not messaging these non subscribers so the percentage is skewed as is the expected reply rate on a pay site.

I realize you hate pay sites, but step back and take a logical look at what I'm saying and why the article is just another example of lol statistics.

Edit: Let me put it another way...90 some percent are non-subscribers. The vast majority of these people don't login and I sort based on recent activity date. I only message people that are recently active in the last week. You can say the same thing about OKC. I'm not going to get a reply if I message people that are never online. Duh!

This. Just because you picked up the tab isn't a reason for her to like you. Nor does it mean she owes you anything in terms of an explanation. It was 2 dates, if she wants to see you again then she would. After attempting to set up a date twice with no interest just move on. No reason to get hung up on her not saying anything.

^ Agree. When I first started dating I perceived the money, time and effort I expended as something that ought to warrant a "sorry, not interested" text. The reality is women tend to avoid conflict in situations such as this and her tepid responses are likely just that, avoiding the possibility of an exchange where you call her out for taking handouts while she's not really interested. Learn to accept the delayed and / or lukewarm responses as "closure," and move on.

Yes. No dinner or even alcohol on the first date. Stick with going to a coffee shop- 2 drinks: $6-$8 at most.

And also stay within your zip code or office- That way you're not consuming so much time in case they flaked or not interested.

I'm kinda curious about the coffee for a 1st date idea. I guess it works pretty well to just meet someone quick, find out if there's any attraction/chemistry, and get out. You're just investing 15-30 minutes and then can grab drinks on the 2nd date knowing that there is a high level of interest. OTOH, if you really hit it off then it's difficult to keep the date going.

why would this be the case?

This character just used the Meet Me function.

What the over/under on it being a spotty teenage male that set the profile up?

I think that's more likely to be real. I would think most fakes are really hot people and/or really weird fetishes in profile.

Boring. Can't imagine this being fun for the girl. The environment on a date is important part of building attraction IME.

her ethnicity is pisces?

Ill start off by saying, I've got no game.

I decided to mass message a chat up line on a dating app I have on my phone to around 15 women. 2 replies, one claiming 'worst line in history' and another: 'haha smooth'



I don't know wether I should reply to the 'aha smooth' girl... Or even what to say..



I remember I used to do this kinda thing a lot, when I had short, tough to respond replies I would just not reply. I hate the rejection of being the last one to send the message