Yes we're in the process of a divorce. Paperwork is filed and we have come to an agreement on how to split all the assets. There is just a three month cool down period in Colorado. Waiting on that now.

+1

It's glaringly boring and has an annoying number of exclamation marks. That she even responded at all signals remarkable politeness on her part.

glad I'm not the only one.

Well maybe not but since I am American I would bet that fewer than 5% of the population could identify the Buckingham Palace, so using that to start up a convo I thought would be interesting. Her profile mentions nothing about it or going overseas so I'm sure I would be in a very small minority that bring it up. Maybe I'm wrong though since she didn't seem eager to discuss it.

Thank you, this opened my eyes a little bit. I doubt she is asked very often about the trip since she doesn't mention it and the pic is buried, not her main pic but like her 6th... But the approach and style you used is certainly better than mine and something I will try to incorporate in future messages. Great post.

Ahh, Shes horny and wants to have sex with someone who she knows. You could of at least had her come over for some QT.

Ok can I get a profile review? I used some tips I found in this thread and elsewhere on the internet to greatly condense my profile and make it to the point. I've never been a good writer though and I feel like what I'm saying isn't as smooth as I want it to be. Any advice or edits would be welcome.

1) I always try to avoid negative words such as "don't" or "epic failure." Talking about learning is good. Talking about risks is not.

2) You tell me what you are like, but I didn't learn anything about you. You have to give examples. You did that a little with the part about volunteering in paragraph 2.

3) I usually never put what I'm looking for. It's usually obvious.

E,

Just like your message, that "profile" sounds completely boring, generic, sounds like a set of greeting card type cliches strung together, and sounds generally completely lame. The only specific thing it actually lets someone know about you is that you volunteer at an animal shelter, which is actually a pretty cool tidbit to include, but you screw that up too with a super lame followup phrase.

In summary, this is probably the worst attempt at a profile ever posted on here and I suggest starting over completely from scratch. Pick three of those cliched lines you use, and replace them with examples illustrating how they apply to you. That will at least be 100x better than that abomination you just posted.

LT22 is on point all the way here. But it needs to be made clear to this poster that lame-ass replies to carefully crafted messages are standard.

As ElD said, any reply at all indicates some level of interest.

Converting that interest into a meet is really challenging. That's why we're here.

Regarding 1, attempting to show a bit of humility on my part. Nobody is perfect, I'm willing to acknowledge that and also convey that it is no big deal

2, I read elsewhere that it is good to be vague, and that details, etc, are best clarified through messages and then meeting in person. Bad advice?

3, this was almost a copy/paste from a site filled with gold. She is supposed to read that and think "oh that's me!" Again it is vague and that is something should apply to almost everyone

Lol thanks for the hyperbole. This is an attempt at a reboot, my first one was critiqued elsewhere for being too specific, having too many details, etc. Their advice was to go vague and then to flesh out the details when messaging. They said most girls don't read the profile anyway unless they are already interested, so don't make a big deal of it and keep it short. Basically just make sure she doesn't look at it and get uncomfortable and think creep or whatever, so a greeting card style shouldn't have much downside, no?

E,

There was no hyperbole in my post.

My profile is vague and humorous, though important points that might be dealbreakers are clear.

I have two 'scenes' in there, that are actual moments from my life, where I've been alone at the time. The idea is, she can 'project' herself into that moment.

A high percentage of opening messages I get will mention one of these.

I think you're possibly getting confused. I'm not suggesting you spew your entire life story in the profile. I was trying to say that you need to stop saying "I blah blah blah" and instead say what you do.

1a) I enjoy traveling.....boring, cookie cutter
1b) Something about your most recent trip

Do you see how those two things are different?

Avoid lists and characteristics. Make it a narrative.

Exactly.

"I'll always remember how beautifully the sun warmed the sides of Machu Picchu... "

**** like that.

American bitches be lovin Machu Picchu.

I broke up with my Montreal girlfriend of about 16 months and will have to relocate somewhere in the USA. I grew up in Omaha and am now sick of cold weather so I prefer to move somewhere warm. Basically my main criteria are: warm, liberal, fairly walkable/active downtown core, and affordability (my budget is up to about $1100 for a studio and I don't want roommates).

One methodology I'm using to evaluate potential dating pool is searching on OKCupid and coming up with a ratio of good matches (85+%) to bad matches (50% or less). I made a streamlined profile with only 50 questions that are all politics/values/lifestyle based so questions like gay marriage? yes, marijuana? yes, believe in god? no, science or faith? science are rated as highest importance.

Anyway, some of my findings shocked me a bit so I'll just list them here. This is searching on OKC for women 25-31 interested in men (I'll be 31 soon so this is my prime demos):

New Orleans 3.00 (meaning that for every 3 85%+ matches there is 1 50% or less match)
San Francisco 2.90 (not affordable, just a data point)
Portland 2.74
Austin 1.86
San Diego 1.16
Miami 0.53
Tampa 0.49
Atlanta 0.48
St. Petersburg 0.33

Initially I was most interested in St. Petersburg, Austin, and San Diego, but it looks like the liberal dating pool in the Tampa area is very small and San Diego is kinda meh (Gaslamp is probably too expensive anyway).

The one that really shocked me is New Orleans. Is it really that liberal? I was expecting it to be close to Atlanta, but there are actually tons of single, liberal women there.

I will probably just end up in Austin, but now I'm really curious to spend a week or 2 in New Orleans.

Alright so I have a few situations. I have an inkling, but I thought I would see what the OOTers say.

Situation
I meet a girl off OKC and we go for coffee. Chat for 1.5 hrs and end with a hug. Conversation was flowing (but more being just, not necessarily flirty). I text her the next day noonish and she responds a day after. What do we make of this? What if she responds 3 days later but says "Sorry for responding so slow, I've been busy?"

Is there every any legitimate reason why someone could be texting back the next day without it being along the lines of "She isn't that interested?"

Also, I think tinder is crap. My theory is that it allows people to join with no effort at all. Thus these are girls who are single but you have to work really hard to meet them. Might as well just go to a club nearby. People who have joined haven't had to jump through any hoops. Also its sucks Because you can't filter by religion, height, body type, non-smoker, or kids/no kids.

I'd much rather a site like OKC where people are putting the effort to make a profile and thus will respond with a message than something very simple. If you are average or less good looking you have a much better chance of making an interesting profile that can be funny and playful and will catch the eye of the ladies. Rather with Tinder either you are attractive to them or not.

i find it difficult to understand why any guy wouldnt want a girl with traditional right wing social values, whose 100% into guys and not girls. and is willing to stay by u and love u no matter what because she feels divorce (in other words any type of termination of a relationship) is morally wrong. whod want a girl who would cheat on u or maybe set u up to be robbed?

You'll find what you want in SE Asia or S. America.

sorry i don't want a religious nut because i couldn't put up with them for more than 5 minutes without projectile vomiting. i understand there are guys that love that ****. why would i want a girl who would stay in a bad relationship no matter what b/c "god said so." are these comments real? i don't want a cheater either, but i also don't need someone who is loyal to their own demise.

Are you male or female? This is a carbon copy of pretty much every single woman's profile I see. The only things you're missing are "Live, Laugh, Love!" (seriously, what the **** is this, and why do they all say it?) and "I've been through some tough situations, but they've made me a stronger person!"

If you're a guy, you should honestly scrap the entire thing and start over. Leave in the animal shelter thing, but revamp what's around it, and definitely dump the entire first paragraph. It's really bad.

First of all, avoid coffee dates. If you have to do it, 1.5 hours is absolutely ludicrous. Either transition it into a drink or cut it early and ask her out for a drink next time.

She's not that interested, sorry.

But is he as comfortable curling up on the couch and watching Netflix on Friday nights as he is clubbing?

Why are we avoiding coffee dates? That means avoid grabbing any kind of drink dates, which is a line of thinking I don't agree with at all.