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Originally Posted by PowerfulRogan
Can someone give this thread some advice? It seems that all the trip reports go like this...
1.Send a few messages
2.agree to meet up
3. get drinks
4.have a fun time with no awkwardness
5. no physical contact
6. text that I got home safely and hope to see again
7. girl doesn't respond or responds that there is no chemistry
What the hell is going on here? And let's please get to the bottom of this..
How do the guys think it went well only to never see the girl again?
Is this just part of the numbers game or are there mistakes being made?
There was a thread I found here two days ago about online dating and the guy banged like 30 hot girls. Was he lying? Is it supposed to be this tough? I would think these girls would be easier than in person.
OK I'll share a TR from about a month ago with a girl who is currently a FWB. I'm leaving my current city (Omaha, NE) in 2 months so mainly I was just looking for a casual relationship vis OKCupid.
Anyway, I checked out the girl's profile and she was cute, but uninteresting so in that scenario I just sent out my canned message b/c I don't feel like putting in much effort unless I'm attracted to the girl AND she seems interesting. Here's my canned message, it's adapted from one that a 2+2er posted awhile ago, not sure if it's good or not:
"I have to admit that this internet dating experience has at least been good for a few laughs. I have gotten some pretty crazy messages so far. I can only imagine what it must be like for you.
I have some pretty amusing stories so far. How about you? Anything yet that made you laugh or are you just getting the standard, "Your really hot" messages (of course they use the wrong "your")?
Make it a great day!
(name)"
She writes one message about liking my positivity and my "Make it a great day" line, then an hour later (before I had even read the 1st message) writes another message that is super long and mentions several things in my profile. I don't think we really have much in common and her crazy potential seems like a 9/10, but I'm not looking for anything serious and am leaving town soon anyway so I figure I'll just use a super bold strategy and don't really care too much about the results.
So I noticed she was online and decide to IM her. After about 5 minutes of small talk I direct the convo to sex talk and specifically mention I've been reading a couple of tantric books. She's very intrigued and we talk about sex for an hour or two. Eventually she asks for my number, immediately calls me, and I suggest we meet up at a sex shop in a couple days (a Sunday night).
Sunday night, we meet up in a Target parking lot and she gets in my car and we go to the sex shop. We're both obviously pretty turned on so we start physical contact in the shop quickly, buy a few cheap items, get back to my car and start fooling around in the back seat. We decide to head to her place, she gets her car, and I spend the night at her place and have sex.
She's definitely pretty crazy, she would be texting me long messages several times a day and wanting to talk on the phone several times a day, but I let her know that I didn't see anything long-term developing, but would like to see her in a casual capacity to which she agreed.
Probably not a standard online TR by any means, but I guess it kinda goes along with what another poster said earlier that you can get away with directing the convo towards sex a lot easier online. I will probably continue using this tactic with girls I'd like to hook up with, but see little long-term prospects with.
Last edited by Fossilkid93; 01-28-2013 at 11:27 PM.