Guys she gave me four days advance notice but I feel like I still should have gayed her in order to prove I'm alpha. Whatcha'll think? Do I still have a chance or is it over with this girl? If I came with a voicemail screaming "god hates ****. Homosexuality caused 9/11!!!" would that redeem me in her eyes?

I don't understand Wu. That convo looks fine and it seems to be going in a good direction.

Also Wu, it seems Wednesday is a good night to look ahead to.

I won't be in her city Wednesday so it's a horrible night to look forward to.

I was just making fun of the "gay" line

Need a good alpha response.

"gay"

thx. I know.

Also, liking every girl on OKCupid has led to great success. Getting a lot of cold messages.

Doing it on POF and Tinder led to none at all.

Something to consider if you only using the latter two currently.

winner

You sound uptight and stuffy. Too late.

This is incredibly common. Dumpy, lazy, bitter dude wishes women would ignore the fact that he's lazy and dumpy so they can hole away together and act out years of pent up porn fantasies. Women don't want this and they deserve better.

"give the blond my number"

Thanks


Too bad. How about tomorrow instead?

Lol

Yeah adding in the "with a day's notice" does make him seem pretty uptight.

I like how she says she'll give him plenty of notice, referring to the next time she does the same thing.

Most women don't but I guarantee you they exist.

It's not a great goal but there are plenty of disgusting women out there.

He obviously needs to target the massively obese crowd. That is key and should go without saying.

Bro, sorry about calling you a troll but a guy who just pops up with no previous posts on the site like this, with this particular set of circumstances and seems literate and intelligent…troll until proven otherwise IMO.

Of course I'd like to be proved wrong and for you to get the help you're looking for.

Anyway, I'll bite. Firstly, what's your diet like? Along with personal hygiene this is your first priority IMO. You said you don't like vegetables. Do you just sit in all evening playing video games and eating doritos and donuts and drinking coke?

What are the parts of your diet you would be willing to sacrifice? Are you willing to try new foods?

TypicalBro,

What are you actually willing to do?

Also Bro feel free to PM if you want me to look at/critique your profile when it's done.

Oh. Well, this should actually help me, then, as most people seem to be able to get sex at least occasionally, so there must be women willing to put up with all that.

Do you mean the fatness equivalent of myself (50-60 lbs. overweight), or the 300+lb. Rascal girls? My shallowness is popping up here; there's a huge difference in how I judge girls in these groups.

It's cool.

My diet is extremely poor. My doctor recommended that I lose 20 lbs. in 3 months, so I have some kind of health imperative, too.

I get fast food/delivery (including Chipotle/Subway type places) for most every meal. That's part of how I lost 500k over time, that **** adds up. I don't know how much I'm willing to sacrifice in this area -- it's all I know -- but I'm aware that has to change, just for my own benefit if nothing else.

Do I sit around eating bad food and playing video games? Yes, every day.


I'm not sure. I've never attempted to date anybody, and nobody has been interested in me in that way, afaik, so I have no clue what is required!

But it is something I really want, and the feeling only grows as time passes, so I guess I'm willing to TRY just about anything.

This is a scam profile right?

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=77947922

I will, but I'm still stuck on the decision to write either a typical profile, or one that "bares my soul", as somebody recommended earlier ITT.

Probably the latter, although that will surely thin out the pool.

I just feel a bit confused by your outlook and approach. On the one hand you say you don't want to make sacrifices. But then you say you're aware you have to change. Are you going to make these changes or not?

Anyway. I think you have to address your weight, not just to get a partner but for your own wellbeing. In this case you do win friends with salad. Subway? Meh, it definitely could be worse. If you were just eating deep fried carbs all day for instance.

Well, why don't you start by just reducing your portion size for everything? You're not going to be doing much exercise just yet, would be bad for your joints. You want to reduce calorie intake and shift that weight. If you're sedentary you don't need tons of calories anyway.

And hygiene. Did you say you shower once every 5 days or something? You must stink. Do you actually feel comfortable like that? Wallowing in your own filth? Get showering every day man, seriously. It's not difficult. Not sure why you need telling this but it seems you do

That gulf is bridged by the word LAZINESS. I have it in spades.

Happy to try this, although I don't really know the size of my current portions. I just eat until I'm full, I don't really measure it or whatever.

The doctor said I needed to fill my information into this dieting app, and it says I need a 2300 calorie/day diet. I'm sure I can eat that in one meal! So it's gonna be rough.

Not only do I feel comfortable about it, I kinda like being dirty, sitting here by myself. Dunno why. But yeah, this is at least more easily correctable.

Probably the middle ground. If you completely bare your soul you will come off as pathetic, if you go with the typical profile it's unlikely to attract the niche group of girls you are after.

I'd just be up front with your lifestyle and what you are looking for, no need to get into facts about having zero experience, not showering for days etc...