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Originally Posted by GreenSmoke85
I just had the most akward conversation ever.
Set up a date with a girl for tomorrow she wanted me to call her and finalize details. I call her and tell her the plan I am busy till about 1:30 and will meet her for gelato and have until 3:00.
She: ohhhh I was planning on hanging out longer
me: lol how much ice cream do you think we were going to have
she: I just thought we'd do something else too like walk
me:well like I said I have an hour and a half I think thats more than enough time to hang out
she: I think i'd rather have more time than be so rushed. call me when you are able to hang out for longer, I don't think its long enough.
me: lol okay.
I think this interaction totally made me want nothing to do with this girl as she seems incredibly inflexible and really akward about everything. I'm mind blown she thinks and hour and a half isn't enough time for a first date of basically coffee. Anyone deal w someone wanting "more time" when setting up a first date.
Since it was a phone call I assume you are paraphrasing, but a phrase like "that's more than enough time to hang out" kind of makes it seem like you are just checking off a box. In her mind, that takes any sort of spontaneity/romance out of the equation. She's expecting a more traditional first date. You, I assume, are more interested in the quick meetup to make sure she is normal and matches her profile/you get along at least a bit.
The mind-blowing thing is you not realizing that other people have other expectations. She doesn't want to have a date that has a time limit on it. You are ok with that. To her, "ice cream" means we get an ice cream and chat, then if it goes well we do something else (walk, hang in the park, coffee, or whatever). Kind of like "let's get A drink" means we meet for a drink and if it goes well we have more drinks. Or "let's watch a movie at my place" probably means sex.