Well, if you are messaging any woman who catchs your eye without regard to any common interests or life experiences (age, education, religion, whatever), then you're not going to get a lot of responses. After all, they're probably going to look at your profile and think "Why the **** did this guy message me?" If you swing at every pitch, you're going to have a low batting average.

Good God, your analogy sucks. This isn't baseball. It's not, "three stikes and you're out". In this game, you swing at every pitch until you "hit it" (pun intended).

Are you ever right about anything?

On the attack now:
me
You seem adventurous. I'm taking you to Rome in a hot air balloon.

her
12/9/2012 6:20:58 PM
Lol oooo sounds like fun!!


me
12/9/2012 7:11:01 PM
Once we get to Rome, we're going to explore the city together. visit the Colosseum, Roman Forum, and the Palatine Hill and fall madly in love with each other.

Here's my number 917-XXX-XXX. Text me, and we'll discuss our trip over drinks.


me
12/9/2012 5:48:32 PM
You seem adventurous. I'm taking you to Rome in a hot air balloon.

her
12/9/2012 6:25:31 PM
that would be a very long ride in a hot air balloon! lol


me
12/9/2012 7:06:00 PM
Not if we're together. I'll tell you what, I'll give you my #, text me, and we'll discuss our trip over drinks.
XXX-XXXX

Here's an OKC example from back in May when I first started using this:




ME: After a rigorous brief review of your profile it seems that we both enjoy running marathons daily and swimming with polar bears, looking forward to our trip to Paris in a hot air balloon.

Her: U so need to share whatever your on bc that plan frickin rocks

Me: I'm in the parking lot testing the balloon right now,pack your bags although you don't need much,flip flops and a hat for the sun.

her: Flip flops it is, heels wouldnt work, should I grab the beer.. Btw will we have phone service? Sent from the OkCupid app

me: no phones,cant you live without facebook for a few weeks? lol YES grab the beer,I like Stella,I'll get m&ms and icecream.

her: Wasnt worried bout FB, I have peeps who would call fbi, u know.. No m&m's gotta grab skittles, then we're set... Lets get it...Sent from the OkCupid app

me: You seem cool I'm glad we started talking. Hopefully you're not actually a serial killer in real life but if you are I'm fast so I'll just run

her: You can run, but im an excellent shot.. I might give ya a head start..lol.. Dont think they let serial killers do what I do, but u never know.. Hahaha u have a great sense of humor, im sarcastic like crazy, so its refreshing.. Sent from the OkCupid app

me: what do you do...let me guess,you repair cigarette lighters,either that or hand model lol

her: Omg your dead on, how did u know? I work for a major deffense contractor.. Sent from the OkCupid app

me: it must be cool working with Iron Man and Capt. America. I work in the gambling industry,set up and test slots machines.

her: Ahhh fun.. Yeah I get to wrk w the engineers who develop the cool ****.. And I get to shoot.. Slot machines are evil lil bastards, I can now blame u for all tge money I have lost, awesome now I have face to throw my anger at..Sent from the OkCupid app

me: Sure,I'll bring you 16x20" poster of me,you can throw darts at it lol. Seriously now,i agree,they are evil,thats how they build Vegas. I used to play poker online for a living so I'm pretty good with nrs,odds etc.

her: I stay far away from casinos.. They love me.. Haha damnit I have to go cook, im starving..Sent from the OkCupid app

me: So listen,let's meet up sometimes ,have a couple cocktails with cute little umbrellas and we can talk more about the evil casinos conspiracy.

her: Cute umbrellas? Hmmm sounds fun.. Lol.. Will u be the one who takes up half the parking lot w ur hot air balloon? Sent from the OkCupid app

me: hahaha I'm driving my car this time, what's your phone nr,I just got a new plan,I can text you 1762 times/month.

her: Wow stalker, hahaha unlimited txt r awesome right.. My number is xxx-xxx-xxxx..Sent from the OkCupid app
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me: haha yes, I'm Bad_Lieutenant btw.

i don't see what other people are saying. your message game is pretty strong.

FYP

Next time I lock up a date or at least a long convo I will post here. I can say right now they'll be the complete opposite of what OP and BL are doing. Then again, I'm not looking for the types of girls they are either. The grammar makes me want to stick a sickle in my eyes.

Also looks like OP posted his phone # by accident, send in the clowns!

In my experience, this girl would have given you her number after two messages. I'm not sure what the point of the next eight messages is.

whoops...

Can a mod delete my phone #? I can't edit the message.

despite your aforementioned overuse of played out pua schtick, this is actually a very, very good conversation. excellent job of opening, transitioning off of the opener, having fun/playful conversation, building comfort by sprinkling in some 'real' conversation about your life, then getting the number. perfectly done imo.

this type of conversation is soooooo different from what all the other toolbags on the site who are messaging her on there are saying that shes just naturally gonna be interested in you and wanna find out more about you.

wtf is wrong with you?

The point is that randomly messaging any woman you find remotely attractive without regard for anything else is going to lead to a lower percentage of responses (contact) than being selective and messaging people who actually interest you.

I think the point is that percentage of responses is a lot less important than the absolute number of responses. Getting a response from 10 out of 100 people is better than getting a response from 5 out of 10 people.

Sure, but the poster was wondering why he was getting so few (almost none) responses. Sending messages to very young women who are 10 years younger than you and have nothing in common with you is one very plausible explanation.

This is stupid.

Exactly.

Yes, his main problem is he is not completely comfortable with lying yet. So he will still be eclipsed by other guys who tell bolder lies, which are make them more attractive.

ME
12/9/2012 7:47:01 PM
So I see you and I both enjoy working, eating, and cheerleaders. Looking forward to our trip to Rome on a hot air balloon

her
12/9/2012 8:02:59 PM
Haha very clever sir! I like your style...how are you doing today?


me
12/9/2012 8:13:05 PM
How am I doing? Well, let's change that to what I'm doing. I just came back inside to get a drink of water. Bout to head back out in a second to continue inflating the balloon. Go ahead and start packing your bags, you won't need much, flip flops, a hat for the sun, and if you have any cheer leading outfits, make sure to bring those.

her
12/9/2012 8:18:06 PM
Well Im going to have reschedule this hot air ballon flight until spring break bc i'm in the process of making my midterm tests for my students next week lol


me
12/9/2012 8:29:03 PM
Don't worry, I mean, does it really matter if we fall madly in love with each other during our trip, or before our trip? We're splitting hairs here.

her
12/9/2012 8:32:54 PM
No falling madly in-love lol

Don't know how to follow that one up.

Roundguy, are you disagreeing that if you message any woman, you will get a lower percentage of responses? It seems like you are saying that instead, the absolute number of responses is more important.

So instead of "This is stupid", what you meant was "This is correct."

Garcia, the history is that this is like a baseball game, three strikes, you're out. It's not.

Swing at every pitch. Percentage of hits is irrelevant.

Yea, you guys are both agreeing with each other, but for some reason you think your arguing.

me
12/7/2012 3:56:41 PM
How could you look at my profile and not drop me a line? Talk about playing games, I don't see how it would ever work out between the two of us.

her
12/9/2012 8:15:05 PM
You're probably right... as I am a die hard Mets fan and I'd hate to be the bane of anyones existance! ;p


me
12/9/2012 8:17:48 PM
Haha, another Mets fan. Well, now I know you make poor life decisions. How about you change that. Let's go on a hot air balloon trip to Rome

her
12/9/2012 8:25:06 PM
Ha! Actually I live life quite nicely not being a sell out. Lemme guess, you love the Nets now and hate the Knicks? It's OK boo... you're still young.


me
12/9/2012 8:32:15 PM
Now you just made the cardinal sin.. I'm from New York City, not that trash heap 2 miles to the left. New Yorkers care about the Knicks, we don't care if the Nets play in Jersey, Brooklyn or the Moon, this is a Knicks town.

her
12/9/2012 8:41:33 PM
Oh thats right ur a harlem head....*sigh* lol go do sumthin wit yaself besides harrassing nice young women on POF. Not having much luck in Tampa w the ladies? My name is Dee and im from Long Island btw...

I don't send messages to females I don't seem to share at least one similar thing in common with. I mean usually its that one interest I hit em with in the first message. Also I'm not only sending to 22yo's. My search criteria is quite wide if you ask me, 22-50. But I'm not gonna be sending messages to 30 somethings with graduate degrees. I'm still in my 20s in my head and have the baby face to match. Have you seen the average 30 something female on POF?

RoundGuy is just trolling me at this point.

Don't remind me...

amazin,

Rooting for you, this is great! When do you expect to be able to drive again?