Does OKC have a way you can set it so people can't tell when you were last online? I guess not eh?

I know whenever I have been in a LTR, I realized that I didnt do much, but the girl basically traps you.

Also Cannabusto, are you planning on the sex slave stuff on the 1st date or is that something you save for later..

haha...that is not something that is introduced on the first date, no.

Stop serial dating and go in with a mentality of finding a long-term relationship. Bam

That is good advice. Thanks.

The 35 year-old with a kid sent me a text on Wednesday saying that she thinks we have run our course. I was not surprised.

N: pretty much agree. For guys who are in like the 6-8 range of attractiveness, they are likely to get 1-2 point more attractive girls irl than online.

Tyler: do you think you would have put more effort into that relationship if you didn't have other online options, or was she the one to slow things down?

N very good post, that's pretty incredible that girls get that many messages that fast, but it really shouldn't be very surprising.

Being tall and fit and in a large city definitely helps. Im semi tall (between 6'and 6'1" and fit but live in a small Uni town 200k people) so the talent is right about how you said it is and that most girls who are very attractive won't be online because of the college connect.

I've seen this girl a few times at a friends now I see she's on a dating site and I'm not a member of any. I'm not likely to see her in person, what's the best play?

How come you won't see her in person if you already have a few times?

I think after going on a quite a few dates with various types of people you should have a good idea of what you're looking for. Serial dating is better suited to people who need the experience. Cut down on the people you're willing to date based on what you want. Then maybe date one or two at a time. When you find one or two, stop searching for others until you figure out these opportunities first. The grass is always greener online and the new, shiny object always gets picked.

This is all assuming you're actually looking for a LTR. Meeting a lot of people is fun too, but if you're serious just make some subtle changes to your dating habits.

Nah it wasn't really an issue of effort. She had her kid half of the time so she was really limited in how often she could hang out. I think I saw her six or seven times during the five weeks of dating. I last hung out with her last Friday when we ran a 5k together and we hung out briefly before and after. I had asked her before then if she wanted to go to a bar to hang out with my college friends and their husbands and she was cool with going but then she cancelled b/c she had to watch her daughter that weekend. I sort of wonder if the idea of meeting my friends and their husbands freaked her out b/c it was sort of clear that she wasn't looking for anything serious/real. And it seemed that anything serious was not feasible with her anyway b/c of how limited her time was.

Called up Crossfit Girl. She is going to a friends birthday party that's gonna be mostly gay dudes but she hit me up later tonight. I'll prob hit a bar tonight and do some barking either way

[QUOTE=El Diablo;42945916]N: pretty much agree. For guys who are in like the 6-8 range of attractiveness, they are likely to get 1-2 point more attractive girls irl than online.

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I feel like Im right on the edge. I'm attracted to the middle of the road online girls but the 7+ have been more difficult to come by. I don't think it would be as far fetched to pull one in person. But if she's hot enough to give me a boner, it really shouldn't matter.

You think I'm a 6 El D?

Its possible just unlikely, only seen her a few times in a couple years. and no real way to put myself in position to make it likely.

Ask her out last time you were together?

But seriously, did you have any connection when you did see her the first few times? Are you facebook friends, or do you have good mutual friends? Could your friend get you in the same place if you asked him for a favor?

If no... make a profile on the dating site and just send her a message. My experience with tinder/hinge is that you have a way higher response rate when you have a mutual friend (i.e. you're vetted), or particularly if you know each other. No point in not trying.

Um, ask your mutual friend for her information or something and have them hook you guys up. "Chief Pot thinks you're cute" would work.

Bobbo/atf, do you guys call it barking because you never actually bite?


chief pot: How do you know shes on online dating sites if you dont have them. Seems creepy bro.

Are people interested in random TRs of me going out? Guess it's quasi relevant because pretty much 100% of my game has been built from online experiences. Also due to the "debate" over how good my game is and the ATF saga. Don't want to get too bloggy in the wrong thread, especially now that movieman doesn't like me anymore.

Teaser: Had myself a good old fashioned barkoff with a random dude over the hottest girl in the bar.

Your bff 3 bet calls it barking at bitches, and brought the lexicion to the thread, you dick

They're not very interesting so I for one would not. But thread has pretty much move on from it's original goal anyway so fk it, do what you want. BUt mostly they're just you slowly turning into ATF while he puts your down constantly, here and IRL it seems.

Some good news though... I signed up to match as a result of this thread. Guys here helped with my pics (thanks) and learned a few vital lessons from posts ITT. Got opened by a girl I'd consider out of my league a little, just a little though. After a first date when I thought I hadn't a chance, we went out again, and again, and again and now we are dating happily and have disabled our Match accounts etc.

I always had plenty of success IRL but would never have approached a girl like this, so this has really worked our for me. so thanks guys.

Bobbo,

Post away!

Interesting. Was your success more with average looking girls or you just don't do a lot of random approaches? Did you TR the first date? Did that feeling actually affect your game or was it all up in your head?

I did get that feeling on one Match date. She had a combo That+the fact that I got lost and was late definitely threw me off a step and she didn't respond to my text afterwards