I have two first dates today. One at 6:30 and one at 9:30. The first is at the beer garden (standard) and the second is in DC. Both from OKC. Should be an interesting evening.

Feel like you're allowed a couple no commitment bangs without being a dick as long as you don't lie or disappear afterwards

Was (no)bangladeshi girl from okc? What was her answer to the sex date question?

Ha, that's a good nickname. She didn't answer that question.

Did the pint glass hit you?

TR with Girl Next Door. Not super interesting but here goes.

She wound up looking like one of her pics and I was attracted to her, though she isn't quite as fit as I'd prefer. She only plays social sports and runs occasionally. Still she has a really cute face and a kind demeanor I like. She probably only makes one out of 12 her 12 pics a full body shot because she has what a white girl would consider a big ass, but to Bobbo it's "Game On"

We were born in the same suburb and she knew my cousins from high school. She lives in my neighborhood now too.

She seems like she parties a good amount. The only energy drinks she's had are some shots I never heard of and

She has a lot of weird stories about dudes she met from internet dating. One guy insisted on playing her in Trivial pursuit and freaked out as he got his ass kicked.

I have 3 beers to her two and we both got food. She throws in 20 for her part over my inssitence and I put in 40 on $46.

I walk her a few blocks closer to home. Put my arm around her and go for an awkward hand hold. Joking about the awkwardness makes it ok(maybe that would work for sex as Sly Caveat suggested) Consider for a kiss on the way but don't. At an intersection where waiting to cross the street is a good time imo. We hug goodbye and she doesn't really linger so I don't go for the transition to kiss.

She says "See you again?" I'm not sure whether she isn't sure I want to or she just isn't sure what to say at the end and blurts it out

Common theme with the last two girls where we connect a lot and I do feel attraction but there's an inner superficial/2+2 voice saying I could prob get hotter girls. Sandra syndrome perhaps? She seems to work a lot and be really busy and I don't have so much time myself. We'll see.

What is Sandra syndrome?

Although I know those voices about being able to get hotter, happens to me on the daylee on campus.

You insisted she throw up $20?

That insistence would be quite bold. Most girls wouldn't even swallow a $20 bill.

Joking about awkward first time sex can be fun. Especially when drunk

I imagine him going "$46 tab, huh? You should throw up a $20...I.......insist." while lifting up his shirt to reveal a holstered glock or something.

ATF has made you really self-conscious about this, hasn't he?

Guys I think he meant she threw in $20 even though he insisted that she not pay anything at all.

I read it the other way, like she did it over him insisting she not do it.


Edit: slow ponied

My version is funnier though.

Ya my usual line is go to pay, they usually reach or offer. I say "I've got it" confidently. if they still go for money after that I accept the help. that's always been my standard. In this case she just kept getting the $$ out of her purse.

ATF hasn't made me self conscious. My payment habits have always been the same on dates. Usually I get a bit distracted when barking to think about pay rounds and ATF puts em back even faster than I do so we're rarely synched up. He's just ****ing with me, I hope

I believe Sanda(posts ITT) always used to post about dating 6-7s he wasn't crazy about who were really into him and 8s and 9s he could get a date with but never hang on to. Couldn't find the specific post I was looking for in a brief search. He's been wifed up for a while so maybe he finally lfound a coveted 8+ who was into him

IIRC he was like over 6' good looking with a cool job and crazy adventure pics so his blah girls are prob my hotties.

lol this would be awesome

I see, yeah that makes sense and Im sure those 6-7s would be my 8-9+s as well. I think its hard for a lot of guys to not want or think they can do better.

Texted Girl Next Door about an inside joke and she responded. Crossfit Girl and I have been texting; I sent her a video of one of my morning squat sets and she liked it. Have a first date set up with Passover Girl(new OKC slut) on the first day she's allowed to drink(Monday night)

2 of the 3 deadlift and 2 of the three have pretty much the exact same job(some kind of corporate onsite event planner. Hopefully I don't get the backstories too confused.

I lol'ed hard though

Joined OKC today and already have a date and a couple other convos going. All the girls are real solid. Is this typical upon joining, to see better than average results as there's a larger pool of quality girls you haven't talked to? Not really sure what to expect in general as I've only ever done Tinder up to this point.

Depends on your city. It's typical for any large city where OKC is the dominate dating site and you are a decent looking dude with a good profile that knows how to write.

Not to mention you are likely not even seeing the best girls yet, as you should get an email about 2 weeks after joining saying you are "hot" if you get a few 5 star ratings. Majority of people eventually get this email so it's nothing special, but it does allow you to see all the best profiles, which you don't get to see when first joining.

Best of luck

Thanks for the info man. Good to know there's more quality on the horizon. Never too many.

It's tough to settle when you have a million options. Between tinder, okcupid, match, hinge, etc.... there are really strong choices. I think the reality is that with online dating, you tend to pull a huge amount of the lower end of your "ya I'd date that" scale, and the girls that you are really interested in (looks wise) are so inundated with messages/date opportunities that they'll have a hard time giving you a shot. And when you're getting opportunities to shoot for the 8s or 9s, and can get a date or two a week with them... a 6 or 7 that you would date if she were cool, would have to come across as super awesome really quickly.

The girls I really want to date, I really would have to meet offline. A combination of attractive, fun, and smart just don't bother to give online dating a shot. And if they are, they'll probably go for the super good looking dudes with good jobs, that sound interesting.. (or at least as they portray themselves as such). Like I went on a date with a really attractive, and cool 24 year old on okcupid a few days after she joined a year or so ago. She showed me her okcupid app, and in 3 days had 500+ messages (which I think had filled up her inbox). How is she going to bother putting up with that for long?

I literally got 89 emails, favorites, winks, likes on match.com when I changed my location back to Boston in about 3 days (it was in my "weekly summary"). It's tough to mentally settle on anyone with that kind of choice.

Which is why I have been on a million dates and the only people I end up dating long term I meet in person. I just suck at not setting up dates out of boredom.

I realize this sounds like a one %er problem (I'm 30, 6'2" and fit). My friends that have less success finding dates have had more success dating because they're excited about finding someone new to go out with, and it tends to work. I just have crippling dating ADD (which stems from my real life ADD).

Not complaining, but online dating is tough for anyone.

Good post. I think I agree with all of it. I don't know how I'm going to meet a long-term relationship partner through online dating when there are thousands to choose from.