Basically what happened is last year in Feb/Mar I visited Mexico for the first time and loved it. So I decided to return in May for 6 months. I still loved it, but in November my relationship of 5 months ended as well as my apartment lease, so I decided to travel to Colombia/Peru for 3 months. I was open to the idea that maybe I would find a place I liked more than CDMX and want to live there, but nope, my travels here have just reinforced how much I love CDMX and I'm super excited to go back.

So I return to CDMX this Thursday and will be staying for at least 6 months, but I'm eyeing it as a permanent destination. I love the city, culture, food, weather, and women, and it's a great spot to continue doing little travels to LatAm or Europe as well as convenient to visiting family in the USA.

I've been pretty nomadic since 2011, and it's been great living in a ton of different places, but now I'd prefer to have somewhere I can call home and hopefully find a great girl who shares my interest in the world and wants to join me on some of my adventures.

We'll see each other again most likely. It was generally a better date than prior ones; maybe we've both grown as people, maybe last time around I was more shook about potentially messing it up. Much more chill and light teasing.

The mutual ghosting did not come up, the mutual IG story viewings did not come up, the boyfriend did not come up. I knew she was single from seeing her profile on Tinder. (I swiped right, not Super Like.) This also did not come up and I'd guess my profile never popped up for her, or if she swiped left it clearly wasn't that big a left.

What do you want Balti? You seem very blasé about the whole thing. I could be reading it wrong, but that’s my interpretation.

Welcome, Borat.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7vWi8sosg4

Partly my tone was to try to defuse your attack dog questions.

I'm usually not looking for more than very casual dating. I'm not about that relationship life, making compromises on my usual Balti leisure/activism time schedule. I could see seeing her a bunch more times which is saying a lot for me.

Yeah Maluc, what's the deal with asking so many questions about someone's vague status update?

Cool, just wondering pal. Good luck with everything.

I'm back in CDMX. I started swiping on Tinder again, but will probably hold off on dates for a week and get settled back in. I felt a bit crappy the last 10 days in Perú so I would like to rest up a bit.

Really strange though. I matched with a 6 years younger doppelganger of my ex. When I saw the thumbnail I actually thought it was my ex for a second. They both have a master's in science and both have a stud in their nose. Naturally, I asked for her # and will ask her out for a coffee eventually.






Maybe not clear from the pics, but when my ex isn't smiling she looks extremely similar.

I recently deleted both Tinder and Bumble as they’re just huge wastes of time, I did meet and still see one girl from this Bumble run, but still such a colossal time dump, and the profiles kinda skew my view of women as a whole in a negative way.

So back to meeting people in person which I feel is just way better in all ways anyway. I’ll try and get some content for all of us soon.

I'm so with brother Malucci.

No maybe about it. They don't look like the same person at all.

Good luck ... hope it works out better this time.

I guess it's highly dependent on the location, but Bumble/Tinder are amazing in some places in Latin America and I couldn't imagine not using them while single. Obviously there are always a handful of girls with no intention of dating and just trying to build their social media followers, but in CDMX I've met tons of very smart, well traveled, attractive girls that I would have no way of meeting otherwise. As a poker player in a brand new country with a small social circle, the apps have been a godsend.

That being said, I did use Bumble/Tinder for a month or 2 in Omaha, and felt like Tinder was beyond useless and Bumble looked a bit promising, so I can understand giving up on them and focusing on different ways of meeting women depending on the location.

Honestly Fossil, you are probably an outlier when it comes to online dating.

Maybe in part due to where you are located, your age and flexibility of job status.

If I was single, 34 again and traveled the world, I would like to think my dating history would be so very much different.

Probably would be famous for discovering a new herpes strain too.

Not knocking you at all, just admire your ernestness and sense of self.

And in regards to the new lady, she doesn't really look identical to your ex ol lady, imo.

Similar, sure. Younger, you bet .

I'm curious to hear the thoughts of the fine chaps here. This is the first wave of some of the upper echelon girls I've matched and had a bit of back and forth with. I'd say they're all cute, but not many, save 1 or 2, that I feel like "damn I really need to see this girl ASAP", mostly I've been a bit indifferent. Maybe I'm just being way too picky b/c there's always a new batch of like 150 girls on Tinder each day.

They're all 30-34 (except 1 who is 28), so maybe my window for dating mid-20s girls has closed now that I've hit 35. Oddly there are quite a few 18-20 year olds who match me, but I get the sense they're more in it for the "thrill" of talking to an older guy rather than actually wanting to act on it.

Man if your getting that much attention on the apps, I don't know whether to fly down to Mexico and collect the ones that fall off your plate or just punch you in the throat out of jealousy.

But I kinda do get what your talking about, at some point the looks aren't the main thing, you want some connections on a deeper level.

Why not do both?

I think it goes back to what a few people have said about the apps that if you have too much choice, then it's difficult to commit to any 1 person b/c you always feel like there's something better around the corner.

The problem I guess is that a few of the girls I chatted with and had more in common with were average looking, and the above girls, while cute, haven't been quite as interesting. I guess I just need to get out there and date, although hopefully not at the insane frequency as last time I was in México.

I suppose to be fair, my ex is less attractive than these girls, but I gave her a chance b/c I loved her optimistic messaging style and we had a ton in common, and then on the date it was just instant 1 in 100 chemistry. So you never truly know until you meet.

Fossil -

1. That girl you think looks like your ex does not.

2. Here is the advanced analysis of the latest group:

You x'd out all of my top 3! I'm really into morenas though and not as much girls with more Euro features, so I subconsiously tack on a point or 2 to darker girls with jet black hair.

The ? is a definite yes when you consider she has a great rack on a skinny frame.

The girl on the top left I really wanted to meet, personality and interests wise she's a very good match, but she gave me her full name and I was able to find a few more pics from 1-2 years ago and she didn't look near as good. She dropped some weight and styles her hair different and looks good now, but I'm pretty shallow when it comes to looks and think maybe I'll pass on seeing her.

Imo the bottom right checkmark is the most attractive of the group

How on gods green earth does bottom left get a green check mark and girl to her right get an x?

smh

pic or she is flat chested

^^I can get behind that hot take. Think second from the left on the top gets at least a question mark, but I’m a hair guy so ymmv

Also adding cdmx to my destination should this year.

Upper right and bottom two on the left are the only ones that do not earn the checkmark from me.

The one in the green shirt shoots to the top for me due to the fact it’s the only straight on zero angle face shot in the history of tinder.