I think I will play with fire (and her tits) a bit longer. I change apartments often in Bogotá and will be leaving the city for a little while in 2 weeks. So it's easy enough to disappear if she gets too crazy.

I'll try to manage her expectations, but obviously won't lie to her just to have a bit more fun

On ColombiaCupid you can filter for "wants kids", "not sure", and "doesn't want kids".

I did a quick search in Bogotá for 26-34 year olds and out of 926 women got the following results:

Yes - 198
Not Sure - 256
No - 129

Some of the "No"s already have kids, so there are probably ~100 immediate candidates and probably 100 more if you're willing to do some digging around among those who either left it unanswered or are in the "Not Sure" group.

I suspect that Bogotá is probably much more family oriented than LA although I could be wrong on that. Unfortunately it doesn't look like there's a site/app that can easily filter for it to find out.

Fossil enjoys playing with fire it seems.

But And Tits tho

If I was staying here permanently then I’d probably reconsider, but I can disappear easily if necessary. I think I’ll be able to manage, but we’ll see. She already knows I’ve been seeing other girls so hopefully she’s not expecting too much.

1 in 500, good lord.

1 in 5, maybe?

FK,

I think the rational part of your brain already knows this, but "hopefully she's not expecting too much" isn't a very solid argument.

Hopefully it's worth it though.

Yah, i probably worded it wrong. Obviously she already has some expectations, but I think maybe she already suspects I’m not too interested in anything serious and won’t be too letdown if I decide to move on. If I feel she’s getting in way too deep then I’d cut it off. I don’t want to lie to her or lead her on or anything like that.

do i have this wrong or did you just not meet this girl/have seen her only this one time? or is this the girl you practiced language with online?

It's a girl I only met 1 time and didn't know before. So I don't think it's bad or anything to keep seeing her while knowing I'll probably have to end it soon. I mean there's a slight chance I might even consider seeing her seriously (although her already showing signs of being super clingy probably precludes that possibility).

Knowing and accepting are two different things.

Even if this were true, I paid for a preferred membership on Hinge so that I could set my preferences for the women they show me to not want kids. So there’s either only 1 out of the entire Hinge female seeking male membership within 50 miles of LA or Hinge preferred preferences are BS. Maybe I need to move to Colombia.

Anyone finding the quality on hinge pretty damn good? Not complaining at all as I’m getting some good matches too.

Ssshhh

Instagram DMs are the online poker boom of dating, especially in quality.

Pretty high barrier to entry though. You're pretty much drawing dead if you don't have a good account. If you're rich/well-traveled/artistic compared to your looks and good at signalling that in your profile I could see it ending up better than blending in with the pack on the dating apps. If you're like me and have 50 pics of food you ate and a couple at bars with friends not so much.

I'd be curious to hear TRs from people who slide into DMs regularly and have success.

I agree with this barrier to entry. My IG is mostly poker and travel exploits, so my life looks way more boss than it really is. This 25 y/o Hooters waitress DM'ed me a couple weeks ago and at first I thought it was either an escort or fake account. Turned out to be real and not an escort. Not giving the juicy deets, although this is 3/3 in 2018 out of the IG DMs.

Girls born in the 90s are waaaaay different with this online dating thing.

I never thought about using IG, but think it might be worthwhile in Colombia. I have a pretty big backlog of travel photos. Can I just throw like 50 photos on there at once or would that look stupid? Maybe it's something you have to slowly build up over time.

It's worth it...do it. No one will be checking for how long you've been a user.

I think I'm just gonna put up 5 photos a day for 2 weeks or so, and I also used one of those services to buy a few likes/followers. Probably not gonna link it to the dating apps until I have more content and followers.

Yes, I'm curious too.

Foatie, are you just searching girls in your area and just DMing them or checking IGs from Tinder profiles? How does it work exactly?

LOL at buying likes/followers. Maybe I'm old.

Agreed, it's pretty lol. But I need to get up to speed and have a non pathetic looking account ASAP!

BTW Foatie, that girl you posted has the same body type as like 80% of paisas. You should definitely hit up Medellín some time if you haven't.

You don't have to buy followers. Being aware of trending hashtags and hashtaging the F out of every post will get you relevant in strangers feeds. I have about 1400 something organic followers from being on IG since 2011 but I did temporarily have a dropshipping/advertising account where I bought something like 1000 followers for $7.99 or something in order to add some "credibility" to the business account. It didn't move the needle much as Instagram eventually scrubbed the purchased followers, and the purchased followers never interacted or liked any of the posts. You're better off buying likes than followers if you're going to do that because the algorithm will push your posts higher up in the explore feed.

The girl I posted and the first one that I met this summer from IG both initiated the convo first and were pretty direct about what they wanted. The one chick I DM'ed from Instagram I happened to be in Planet Hollywood at the same time as her. I was playing poker and exploring IG at the same time. I hashtag searched "#Vegasbaby" or something like that and noticed hundreds of posts taken within the past hour with the location at various casinos on the strip. After searching through and asking about 30 girls if they wanted to hang out/or get a drink, only 5 or 6 responded that day. One didn't flake on going all the way.

If I was 100% single, I'd be a freaking ANIMAL on all of the apps. But you know.... things are complicated

In my 20s, I wanted to goto Medellin for all of the wrong reasons. Thank you so much for giving me an excuse to go for the right reasons!!

Went out with this girl (on the right in 2nd photo) and whoever said she could look like Kermit the Frog was spot on. It's kinda crazy, she even has a face shot on her WhatsApp and she looked 2-3 points worse in person. Incredible body though.

It was a really interesting convo. She's been to like 60 countries and had a lot of good insight on Colombia and other regions. I tend to wear my emotions on my face, so I think she could probably tell I wasn't too interested.

I don't think there was much interest on either end beyond just trading travel stories. She has a really cool life though and is visiting Brazil/Cuba for a month starting this week, so I think it would have been too difficult logistically even if we wanted to continue seeing each other.

In a shocking turn of events, the girl who was telling me she was already falling in love with me didn't even message me either yesterday or today.

We met Saturday afternoon, she stayed over until Sunday morning and then texted me at 7PM on Sunday evening to see what I was up to. Then nothing on either Monday or Tuesday.

Is she:
A) Showing a bit of awareness and realizing that I don't like to text all the time, so she's toning it back b/c she realizes she came on way too strong.
B) Realizing that I'm not interested in anything too serious at the moment so she cut communications b/c she knows she can't handle a FWB thing.
C) Has some other guy(s) that she's turned her focus to who are giving her the attention she craves?

I would like to see her again b/c I enjoyed her staying over beyond just the sex. I think if she wasn't acting really creepy and telling me she loved me on the first night that I might even be interested in pursuing something serious, but I think acting like that probably sets the chance at 0. Anyway, if she found another guy or is cutting communications b/c she doesn't want something casual, then good for her.

Maybe she decided she needs to get her leche from another source.