Gaddy, you’re being a complete knob about this whole thing. Just get on bumble and start swiping like a normal person.

Maybe if you were looking for a long-term partner who didn't want to have kids, you would think differently.

I'd just be using OKC, Bumble, and Tinder like usual, but ask them fairly early on about kids (like a little before arranging 1st date, not right away).

Alternatively you could also just put in your profile that you don't want to have kids.

How many of them do you think would answer that they don't want kids? You'll start up conversations with 100 women to find each one that doesn't want kids.

On OKC and Bumble you will know beforehand for a lot of them.

I wouldn't invest too much time in the convo until I know she doesn't want kids, but maybe not lead with it.

If you put it clearly in your profile then I think it will do most of the filtering for you.

This is a good idea.

There's a girl who I met on one of the language exchange sites in Bogotá at the end of 2017 who I've been keeping in touch with and have Skyped with maybe 5 times. She's cute and seems really cool and has a similar sense of humor. She wanted to meet me at the airport but I told her 7AM is too early and we're gonna meet for lunch instead. I also wanted to rest a bit before meeting her so I didn't look too haggard.

We've been pretty flirty in our conversation and she wished me a good flight and said "don't forget your toothbrush!" and I replied that I'm bringing 2, 1 for her, and she reacted very well. So hopefully day 1 will be a very nice introduction to Colombia.

My brother says you can filter on Hinge. He sent me a picture with age, maximum distance height, ethnicity, religion, and then if you pay extra there are preferred preferences of children, family plans, education, politics, drinking, smoking, marijuana.

Oh yes, there are filters, but you still don't really do a search. The filters determine who it shows you, one at a time.

What do you mean one at a time? Like it shows you one profile a day or like you swipe through a bunch of profiles that it shows you one at a time?

You swipe like bumble and tinder.

Ok, thanks. So it's basically filtering, it's just not listing a bunch of pics to click on all on one page like Match because it does the app thing. Is one or the other more profile oriented between Hinge and Bumble?

Both of those are very picture oriented imo.

Btw, if anyone was curious, I have only gotten one match that seemed to be a real person since switching my profile picture, and she ghosted me out of nowhere after a few messages.

I don’t know probably I was stoned and using one hand :shrug: but yea they are freaky deeky

On Bumble, if I put in my profile that I don't want kids, what's the likelihood of women viewing that before they swipe and not just swiping on pics?

Yes, some will swipe just on pics but then a lot will read the profile and elect not to message you within 24 hours (which will end the match) once they read your line if they are adamant about having kids.

I suppose that could be effective, and filtering profiles on Hinge could be effective. But I really like the old-school online dating, pre-dating app method of looking at whole profiles. I want to read what a woman puts in her profile and, as a writer, I want my writing to co-star with my pics. Tell me about OKC again. That's where I met my ex more than five years ago. I've been writing it off because I heard about negative changes, but it seems like it's still one of the more profile-based options and that you can still filter out matches.

Fossil - I have completed my re-evaluation and can confirm that you are indeed an idiot. You are correct re: the assessment of which of those photos is the best one. You are incorrect in your analysis of the others.

All of her photos are natural without excessive posing or bull****. That's a good thing, it indicates high self-confidence and being comfortable with herself. It also means that what you see is very likely exactly what you are going to get.

The absolute most negative thing I can come up with, and it's a stretch to do so, is that she may possibly be a fivehead. Even then, it's more of a fourandahalfhead situation at worst. Given she's so smart, this is understandable as that big brain gotta fit in there somehow. In truth, she's just a hot girl who doesn't know how hot she is and has more important things to do than spend all her time trying to look good for randoms on the internet by jutting her breasts out or making duckfaces.

Don't forget my wedding invitation.

Yeah pretty much all the "not hot" aspects of her pics just make her hotter

When I was younger I worried about following the guy with a bigger dick. It's actually worse to follow the guy with a bigger wallet. As Chris Rock said, men can't go backwards sexually, women can't go backwards in lifestyle

Put a picture of you holding a baby, then Photoshop in a giant red x over him(or something similar)

The one on the right in the set of pics you quoted is almost definitely enhanced and the arm looks unnaturally skinny like she tried to trim it down. If he likes the way she looks in the other two pics, that probably is pretty close to what he is going to get. I say meet the girl with the best personality anyway, but depending on how much he values looks, he may end up disappointed.

Why would she trim her arm down when in all her photos her arms are extremely skinny and she looks like she should eat a cookie? You guys are the same people who look for pointy elbows when you look at some super model.

She's definitely attractive. So to me it's a 1/0 scale, she's a 1. Which is definitely good enough to go on a first date with. If she isn't what she says, either just have one date or leave the first date early. I'm starting to understand why some of you guys are still single.

LOL

Already come to terms with that fact my friend.

Correct on something. Maybe that means I'm not a massive idiot and possibly salvageable?

Yah, that's actually a pretty good point regarding her pics all being more natural where as the other girls are posing.

But wait, bobbo senses some editing. So who knows?

The fivehead I noticed early on, and now it's the first thing I see, but in reality it's not a big deal. And if it houses a massive brain then it's a fair tradeoff.

I just need to avoid pulling one of these: