Important scenario to debate in bottom two paragraphs!!
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Originally Posted by krunic
I don't understand how the simple "still on for tonight" line sounds pathetically hopeful to you, but a line in which you tell her you're counting down the hours to the date is going to come off as super cool and easygoing.
It's not cool and easygoing, it's acknowledging that online dating is flaky in a[n arguably] humorous way.
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Originally Posted by Elrazor
If she flakes, she flakes.
Usually after I'd set a date up I'm trying to keep the flow of the conversation going. I don't think there is anything wrong with being straightforward with a "are we still good for tonight?" You don't have to try to be "funny" with every message, I can imagine it would soon get annoying.
I don't do that; in this case I was concerned if anything that there hadn't been enough humor and we'd had a dry back-and-forth.
Anyway, I still went ahead with it essentially as I wrote, adding "they're texting me to 'confirm my reservation'" to it so there's more of a surface-level reason to do the flake check. She responded with "haha yep, still in!" etc.
Went well, we wound up having 5 (!) cocktails and she said I was way cuter that my pictures (this is true) etc. I proposed a spontaneous Vegas weekend which very well may have wound up happening if she didn't have a work function. She came back to "see my roof" and eventually left without us going all the way.
Today she drunk-texted me after the work thing wanting me to come over, which I wasn't that interested in doing since I was sober (I didn't). I'll probably see her again, but drunk-texting is off-putting.
Scenario came up where a medium-sized group came in next to us (had previously been quiet) and were being a little obnoxious taking their seats. One guy wound up bumping our table and splashing my drink all over me (not a significant loss of drink, won't stain, but sticky and embarrassing). I was annoyed, guy apologized and offered a drink but I said no no don't worry about it. He ordered me one secretly so when it came I put my hand on his shoulder (he was essentially next to me in half-booth seating), shook his hand, brief friendly chat. We wound up talking to the group a bit more later, I made a joke about spilling his when I got up for the bathroom, etc.
So this turns out fine and makes everyone look good, but my initial reaction was definitely bad. The question is, how do you react to that situation in the moment (and what would Clooney do)? Do you make some joke like "hey man if I wanted to take a shower with you, I would have...!"? And what if the drink spilled on your date instead of you? What if the dude wants to be a punk about it, unlike this guy?