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Originally Posted by Burdzthewurd
Most of the 90% not having success with online dating are likely not trying very hard, whether it's crappy messages, bad pics, dull profile, unrealistic expectations, or weird in-person behavior.
If you're the type to give up easily without trying to get better at it, correct your mistakes and accept that you'll inevitably run into some crazies, online dating (and most things in life) isn't for you.
I know guys who did all the right things - good profile picture, well written profile with a good amount of interests and hobbies, they take time to read the girl's profile and send a well thought out (but not too long) message, and they got almost no replies. And the very few replies they did get, the girl only wanted a friendly chat and never wanted to take it further.
It seems only the best looking/tallest/richest guys stand a reasonable chance. The rest of the guys (i.e. 90%) have to fight over what's left.
Obviously other people might have different experiences with it, but to me this is what online dating appears to be like.
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Originally Posted by capone0
where are you getting these stats? out of your ass? i think success depends on a lot of factors including where you live but no way it's 90% aren't having success. it's really not that hard if you work hard at it.
pictures
looks
job/success
chemistry
awkwardness or lack there of
season
opposite sexes options
your work ethic when it comes to dating
a bunch of other factors as well. you need patience and you need to play the numbers game. i married my wife from OKC, and I know a few others who have met their spouse or significant others on the site. it's not that hard here in Philly and i know a bunch of others who have had success in NYC.
No they're not made up, I remember those statistics (or very similar ones) from the OKCupid blog. There were a number of interesting entries on that blog, with statistics on various different areas of dating. For example, there were statistics on how race, height, income, your photo, your profile description, message length, message content etc. all affected your chances of getting a response from a girl, and likewise the types of girls who guys tended to message most frequently. Very interesting stuff.