I'd be filthy if I found out my bf was on an online dating site. I can't think of any excuse that would make it acceptable. I thought initially you must have met her doing the online chatting to improve your Spanish/her English or whatever.

F that. Tough to travel the world with a kid. Birth control FTW

I got married at 34 and we had our first when I was 37. As a dad, I don’t feel old at all.

Yah, it seems to be a pretty big red flag. Sucks b/c I like her a lot otherwise.

Yah, don't really understand the comment. I take pretty good care of myself so even if I had a kid at 40 I wouldn't feel too old or anything.

Was finally able to meet this girl! Our first date planned for last week was derailed by an earthquake. Met tonight for a coffee and it went about as well as a date could go with no kino. Unfortunately, it was a bit chilly tonight and we were under a heater, so I didn't really want to start walking around.

She looked slightly worse than her pics, but whereas I would've rated her a 9, now I'd say 8, so she's still quite attractive (definitely much moreso than myself). The convo flowed really well for 2.5 hours, she has a great job in finance and really seemed intrigued by poker. We have tons in common like yoga, travel, healthier living in general and our personalities seem to mesh quite well. So I'm the hoping the fact that nothing physical happened won't hurt me too much as long as things progress on date 2.

She seemed pretty interested in seeing me again, so I'm hoping it's possible Sunday. I don't have too much time left here so I probably need to move things along with her quickly so she doesn't forget me when I leave.

Definitely the girl I'm most interested in for now (the fact that she doesn't currently have a bf is a huge plus).

I had my first kid at 39 but life with my ex wife damn near killed me. Literally.

Team Fossil

Lol men should NOT be having kids before they have turned 30 at least

Keep the updates coming Fossil, its entertaining stuff and you seem to have a great outlook on life in general

This thread is almost your blog at this point lol

What is "kino"? Context seems to mean "kissing", but that would be a weird typo.

Thanks!

I hate to monopolize the thread, but I guess it'd probably just fall to page 2 otherwise. As long as people find my babbling interesting I'll continue.

Kino is just the physical contact that makes a girl more comfortable with an eventual kiss. Starting with innocent touches on the arm or shoulder, progressing to the small of the back or maybe putting an arm around her.

It didn't happen on this first date due to the way we were seated, but I don't think she'll hold it against me. Next date I will definitely attempt a kiss at some point.

If it's a little chilly out then walking around gives you a perfect opportunity to "keep her warm"

I mean, he lives in Europe and neither want to move for each other. Her actions are far more understandable and less whorish than you guys are making it out to be.

Do you really want to be in a relationship with a girl who will meet other guys if you live thousands of miles away from her with neither short nor long term plans to see each other? Whore.

You didn’t try to kiss her at all? Crazy talk!

Would've been awkward with no physical contact to set it up. We might meet up tomorrow (or next weekend), so I will go for it next time.

Yah, I kinda don't think it's all that bad either. Sounds like the guy kinda led her to think he'd be sticking around in CDMX and then decided to head back to Portugal. Maybe in her mind it was basically over at that point and she just hasn't had the guts to officially break it off and she's been waiting to see if he'll change his mind while also seeing guys to see if some guy comes around who gives her a reason to end it.


As for tonight:

Had a first date with a new girl in an awesome neighborhood I'd never been to called Coyoacán. She was cute, but a little less attractive than her photos. The date went terribly (at least in my view), b/c all the options for grabbing a beer were loud as ****. The combo of my mediocre Spanish, her Spanish being a bit less clear than other girls I've been on dates with, and the loud background noise meant that I was constantly asking her to repeat herself. I just felt super awkward the entire time.

She seems interesting enough and someone I'd like to get to know better, but I was just in my own head the whole time and couldn't really have fun. Surprisingly, I think she actually wants to see me again. Possibly she expected my Spanish to be mediocre and gave me some leeway, or maybe it was a lot worse in my head. Might just cut my losses though and not contact her again b/c I only have 1 more weekend here this go round.

Went to a soccer match with the 33-year old virgin. It was really cool seeing Estadio Azteca and even though the match was a fairly boring scoreless draw, I had a great time. I had told her last time I was only interested in being friends, but she asked if she could hold my hand walking to the stadium so I said yes. Then on the light rail we were huddled close together and I put my face close to hers and she intiated a kiss. So we made out for about 20-30 minutes, but she kept asking me stuff like "so are we still friends or more?". So it seems obvious that I'd have to commit to some type of relationship before she'll go further, and I don't see a LTR with her, so I'm not gonna lead her on. I asked her again if she's a virgin and she swears by it, so who knows. She's a really great kisser and I have a good time with her, so it's a shame she's so traditional and wouldn't be down for some casual fan.

Plans for tomorrow:

I wanted to set up something with sunglasses girl for tomorrow, but I was preoccupied by the 2 dates tonight and texted her too late tonight to get a response.

Girl with Portuguese boyfriend wants to meet up tomorrow afternoon so I agreed. I'm super curious how she acts and what she tells me about the boyfriend situation.

The 40-something MILF and I had a tentative museum date set up tomorrow, but I last contacted her on like Wednesday and now I'm not really that interested in going. It looks like she has a kid in her WhatsApp photo and I'd be meeting her with 0 intentions of a LTR, so I'd rather devote my time to girls I'd possibly have a future with in my remaining week+ here.

Lol, you defend her you’re worthless. Yeah, he probably bangs other people. She probably does too. They’re both dumb, awful, and dishonest. And you want to defend them. You win the award for finding a way to be worse. Congrats.

We all know this goes on both ways, but defending it is foolishness. And not a person you should be eager to get behind.

There are some burned out guy's in their 20s that don't take care of themselves, imagine they feel 50, so gotta get it done early.

I think this is hell to wayyyy more people than admit it, women included.

Hey quit ragging on the dog

Aw, don't be so hard about it,Mal.

Sure, she could break up and then find a more available man, but at least she's mentioned the other boyfriend and hasn't done anything really bad yet.

I am old school, but nowadays certain things aren't seen as bad or unacceptable in modern relationships.Which I'm not condoning, but realize times are changing.

Maybe he's ok with her hanging out with other dudes as long as he's not around, or having sex, as long as it's with a condom or in the butt.

It's relative I guess, I'd much rather have this woman tell me what she told Fossil, rather than lie about it and rawdog on the first date.....

This is a person I would never consider trusting in a relationship. You already know she goes on dates with other guys...no my bad, I wouldn’t really trust her about anything. No reason to. I would be surprised if there wasn’t a lot more to all her stories than she lets on. But maybe that’s just me. I walk through life with my eyes open, and when people show me who they are, I understand it and react accordingly.

I freakin' love this city! Every time I go out I find a new pocket of the city with something interesting to do or see, and I feel like I've barely even scratched the surface.

And stuff is so damn cheap! Yesterday I had to take Uber 3 different times for about 30 minutes each and it ended up being $10 total. Needed to take a light rail to Estadio Azteca and saw the price at $3 and thought (that's weird, why do they list it in USD?) Nope, 3 pesos (about 15 cents). It's basically free to take the light rail to Estadio Azteca, usually they fleece the hell out of you on that type of thing.

Anyway, today was a really good day. Sunglasses girl (aka my top prospect since I matched with her about 10 days ago) was available so we agreed to meet up in the park. This was our 2nd date, our 1st was Friday and it was a coffee date with no contact or a kiss at the end. After about 15 minutes, we were stopped watching some street performer and reacted well and moved closer when I tried putting my arm around her. Then a couple minutes later she grabbed my hand while we were walking, so shortly after I stopped her and kissed her. Her reaction was kinda funny she said "that was good". She's a decent kisser but funnily enough, the 33-year old virgin is better.

So the pretty bland first date didn't seem to hurt me at all. This girl is definitely more westernized than some of the other girls. She lives in a great neighborhood, works for Adidas, speaks perfect English, etc. and personality wise she's a great match and are interests align pretty well. She wore a short skirt and has amazing legs. Apparently she works out almost daily and it shows. Only negative is she seems to wear a lot of makeup and isn't quite as cute as I thought during the coffee date, but I'm really interested to see where this goes with her. There is some lower hanging fruit on Tinder if you want to get laid quickly, but these days I'm not as interested in casual sex with someone I don't like or know. These upper class girls seem like they probably take a bit longer to get in bad, but I'm hoping to sleep with her before I leave so it's easier to pick up where we left off when I come back.

Girl w/Portuguese boyfriend didn't seem to mind rescheduling our 2nd date for mid-week.

Nice work Fossil. I feel like so many women in general wear just so much makeup. It’s gross.

sooo i am gonna start following this thread because I just joined Tinder last night after going through a long drought with the ladies.

im in my early 30s and consider myself to be attractive enough that I shouldnt really be single unless well, I want to be single(which was fine for a while).

ok so first things first, any tips for the profile? for example, i do not drink alcohol much, if at all...is this something you would put in your profile?

also as far as the girl being on a dating app while in a LTR....my own experiences in life over the last few years have found this scenario INCREASINGLY common, especially among attractive females. I've met like 3 girls in the last couple years that told everyone they have a BF, have in a relationship set on their facebook profile etc but are def not exclusive or faithful to their LTR boyfriend.

I think a lot of these so-called boyfriends would of been considered flings 15-20 years ago but thats changed because its so easy to stay in touch with people who live far away and even continue to communicate throughout the day. Usually one person is way more invested emotionally, and they push for a doomed LTR relationship.

With social media, internet, smartphones etc...its so easy to keep parts of your life separate from each other. Literally some people go around telling people they are in a full LTR relationship...but its basically just an elaborate side piece with some additional benefits.

Maybe it's the newest version of "well, if we don't meet someone by the time we are 40, we'll get married"

yup lol

although from my experience, it does seem like usually one person is having the wool pulled over their eyes(willingly at times...but hey, they'll figure it out eventually).