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Originally Posted by poppunk
I like the concept of online dating, it's so easy. No wondering if that girl across the bar has a boyfriend, or if that girl at the grocery store will be offended if you try to initiate something. I've toyed a few times with okcupid and tinder and had zero success. It's so disheartening to write well thought out messages and feel like you're throwing a bottle into the sea because any girl who is halfway attractive has a flooded inbox. I'm probably slightly above average looking and can write sort of decent, I still feel like I have no shot on those sites and it's a waste of time. It's a rather small population in my area though, probably about 200 girls on OKcupid at any given time within 5 years of my age either way within 25 miles, and I'm attracted to maybe 70 of them.
You like the idea but not the practice?
I don't really like the idea, probably because I always had to do it old school ("nice shoes, wanna ****?), cause no Tinder back then.
But it's most likely a necessary part of living today to have some social media part of the dating process.
Even if you meet in real life they want to Facebook, Instagram,etc.
I used to do like you, write something specific for the person I was reaching out to on a dating site, only to have nothing come from that.
My suggestion is to hone down a witty line or two and just use them, because quite frankly, most people are just looking at the pictures.
If they don't like what they see, they move on.
At least in real life you have a better shot of injecting your personality and creating interest.
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