amazin were you adopted by white people? black men usually have a strong pimp hand.

Then you could always ask her why she was logging into OKC which you know she did since she was able to see that you were logged in. I don't think you change anything there until a conversation's been had.

I get this, Im just unsure what to fill in thats playfull and quirky and to be honest on my first day of OKC it didnt trigger me as bad but I still somewhat agree with you. From the 7 girls I msged Ive got conversations with 5 of them going on, all around the 3rd message mark so next move should probably be asking for numbers/setting up dates for the week. Ive even had a girl cold msg me !

The typos are really not such a big deal in the profiles, everyone is aware that were not typing our profiles up in our native language, as long as the conversation is typed out well all is pretty much good.

@PC, I cant imagine going 'exclusive' that way is going to bring you anything good. I'd go with the wait till she starts about it camp tbh.

i love almond butter but it makes my ass feel like a volcano for like 16 hours. damn you god.

This has been a point of interest to me for a while now. I came out of a long-distance, long-term (4 1/2 year) relationship in November, and all the way through the relationship I hardly thought about her at all when she wasn't there, which she wasn't most of the time (out of sight, out of mind?) yet I was too lazy/didn't really think about whether I really loved her or not and should ditch her (I told her in Rome two years in that I loved her, who knows if I really meant it, but maybe I convinced myself that I did).

Basically in hindsight I can't believe I wasted half of my twenties with this girl who I really didn't have much in common with.

Now I have realised that I don't really think about any girl I'm dating when I'm not with them, UNTIL now with this nurse girl, which is really exciting. Even the girl I went on four dates with in February who was an 8 I didn't think about when I wasn't with her but then it hit me really hard when she said she couldn't see me any more, like I had just assumed we would end up together as things were going so well.

I've come to the conclusion that what makes me really excited about girls and specifically gets me thinking about them, as well as the idea of screwing them, is imagining myself doing certain activities with them in the future. For example earlier in the year I went on a date with a girl who said she plays competitive football (soccer) and I thought that was hot and was imagining her in little shorts running around and falling in mud and going to see her play every week. lol.

Cliffs: Do you think about a specific girl in the early stages of dating a lot when you're not with her? If you do, is it a sign you're REALLY into her? If not, isn't that just normal?

I think the ones you REALLY like, you'll think about a lot when they're not around.

I met a woman at a event in DC last night called Jazz In The Garden. The place was crawling with attractive femininas. I saw her walking around by herself and she looked smokin' in a blue dress. I had some sangria in me so I went up to her and said "Are you here alone?" and she told me that she was admiring the sculptures and she told me she does paintings so I pretended to be interested while she showed me photos of them on her phone. Then I asked her for her number and if she wanted to get together on Sunday or Monday and she asked me if I'm into running. So apparently we're running a few miles together on Monday evening and getting a drink afterwards. Not sure if she wants me to lay the pipe or if she is just looking for a running buddy. We'll see I guess. She's in her mid to late 30s I think.

I had two dates from Hinge this past week and have a second date with one of them on Tuesday.

No. However, both my parents are well educated and in my younger years I attended majority white schools.

We're back now. She's about to go to sleep on the couch again. She also has not paidme the 100 bucks, although she did mention she owed it. At this point I just want to be out from under this girl. When I she was talking to my cousin I heard her mention that she had a girlfriend in Bradenton (50 minutes south of Tampa). Tomorrow I am planning to say something unexpected came up, why don't you go stay with your friend? Oh, and I need that 100 bucks.

After that, seeyalater, bye


I have a hunch that this girl's on her period too, but that's no excuse.

So date last night with this girl went extremely well. Dinner for a first date actually went surprisingly well and we really hit it off. Ended up following up dinner with a few drinks at another bar, lots of touching and close talking. Walked her back to her car and we proceeded to talk for another hour, felt like 10min lol.

As has been the case for my last couple of first dates, we already made rough plans to see each other again. I definitely see potential in this girl.

Now this afternoon I've got a 3rd date with a med student I've mentioned before. Going to definitely build off of last night and finally breaking through the physical escalation issues I've been having, should be a good day!

OOOkay, I concede. Forget focusing too much on main girl because it might make you overthink. Also, thought you wanted to be exclusive and I probably skipped over that part. Keep dating around and build that confidence! My bad ( -_-)

HAHHAa @ wild stallion impreggo talk

That's like 10 minutes from where I am right now. Bradenton is the trashy city all neighboring cities drop their bums off at after leaving the police station. Too bad I'm leaving for Gainesville later today, I could've crashed your date for some amazing liveupdate action. Or should I say Amazinmets action!

This 27 year old with two kids from 2 different baby daddy's really needs to be treated like ****, bc well, she is ****, or socially ******ed. trashy girls like to be treated as such.

Ya, that'll seal the deal. Either she is a user or amazin is terrible with girls. I'm going to assume it's the former.

Went and rated everyone's OkCupid profile 5 stars to make them more attractive on the site. If you get a "someone chose you" message, one of them is from me.

My profile was so bad that you had to travel and berate me in person?

As much as I like to be a white knight for ****ed up girls, I'll have to somewhat agree.

If this girl is consciously taking advantage like this, which it seems like for whatever reason, to hell with it. It's not cool and you better not pay for a single drink/meal for her more IMO, she doesn't deserve it, not even much attention at this point. I also agree with Yowsa that you shouldn't be spending money on a girl unless you're already having sex/relationship and genuinely want to.

who was the guy that PMed me on OKC to rate each other 5 stars ? First reflex when I see a male watching my profile, OMAGADD WHYYYYOOooohh nevermind 2+2ers. Have been chatting with a girl who opened on me, I can ask her out on a 3rd message or I wait for her to do something ?

Android notifications not working anymore.

I reset my phone which probably has something to do with it but even uninstalling/reinstalling didn't help. Push notifications are set to on.

E-mail notification still works but f that s.

Yea, that was me lol. I noticed a few attractive girls that disappeared from my search results the next day, but I know their profiles still exist. So I'm going around begging for 5 star ratings, lol. The profiles that had disappeared are back now.

ask her out on 3rd message she obviously wants to if she opened you and has responded more than once.

Anyone have experience using this app called what's app?

Everyone uses it here (NL), its a chat app, just instead of txt messaging and for free as its through your web/data package. I dont know anyone with a smartphone that doesnt use it tbh.

Been talking to this chick on it.
She is Jamaican but lives here and is there for a few more weeks.

If the last online time and online aren't showing that means she blocked me?

Nah its a setting on iphones or could be bad reception. 1 check mark = send to server, 2nd check mark = delivered to recipient by server, it does not mean read! I couldnt live without it these days.

I got both
1 check mark and its not showing when she was last online. Was also taking to my friend on there. Getting one check mark and his last online time.

I'm freaking out. We really hit it off and it's my only way to reach her

If they block you then you can't see their profile logged in. Deep breath. Now release