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Originally Posted by PointlessWords
If youre sexy, use tinder. If youre not, use bumble. If youre hip and sexy, use hinge. Use premium. Get great photos. Do not text too much. The less you text the best. Literally flirt for like 3-4 lines then ask them if they wanna get a drink in next 3-5 days.
do not text them too much, do not discuss your divorce, and do not start swiping until wife moves out. Most women will despise you for dating while wife lives with you
this is all actually pretty much accurate IMO
I am only on tinder. I don't know if this is a lot, but I got a load of likes - I think like 150 in the first week or sth. Enough anyway that I paid for a month subscription so I could see them all A load of them weren't great - I'd say there was a 25% 'wood' factor in terms of women I would have been prepared to meet and talk to sober. And some of them I felt downright insulted that they thought they had a chance
I filtered a lot of the decent ones out for distance - I live near a big city but I'm about 25 miles north of it in quite a niche location and I just know there's no point connecting with women more than 10-15 miles away because I just can't be bothered. And it's not like I can have them to mine yet anyway, given I'm sole parent to 3 kids
There were quite a few who would have been happy to hook up, but they were skanky and the combination of that plus the distance/having to drive to them and therefore be sober made me 'meh' them out.
And then the ones who seemed both nice looking and sane either wanted to text a ton or it all seemed to get quite difficult when they found out I still had my ex in the same house (albeit she's in rehab for 4 weeks right now). Some of them were out immediately with that info, others weren't but they were generally nice women/lonely/wanting a partner and I just don't have the heart to start dating them, then **** them and then it fizzled out. Some lonely people out there...lots who just want to have someone to text with
So...net, net. It's really way too early for me to be on there and I definitely won't go on bumble and hinge til I'm living separately to the wife and have some free evenings. I'll probably stay on tinder just in case there's a 7+ who is local and good to go. There was one who was both hot and very keen but she's also just split and is living with her parents. So literally nowhere to go unless we book a hotel
it's quite addictive though, just jumping on each night and seeing what's there/who has liked me.