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Originally Posted by Bluegrassplayer
If the other couple were your friends I'd say tell her, but since they seem just like acquaintances because your kids are friends it'd be pretty out of place to say anything.
I'm glad Monte asked that, because I had the same thoughts: from the op on the subject it didn't sound like he'd done anything wrong. He still might not be.
Yeah it’s a no brainer for me, I am barely even an acquaintance but my wife is a little trickier. When my daughter exclaimed that she spotted him my first thought was dreading the possibility of making small talk with someone who I couldn’t remember how much I talked to previously, how many times I met them, or anything about them. When it was clear I was spared that because my wife said he was not with his family I stopped thinking about it. She assumed platonic friend or sister or coworker at that point. She was facing him, though, I never once saw either of them. They didn’t come up again in my consciousness until after we got home and she told me it was clearly a date.
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Originally Posted by Howard Treesong
JT,
I would STFU but not lie if I were directly asked about the situation.
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Originally Posted by DrChesspain
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Agree. This is where we landed but I guess it was more of a line check to see if the dude’s privacy/business vs the wife’s potential humiliation of having us know while she (probably) doesn’t was voided by his carelessness. I absolutely have no intention of getting involved but I know my wife is concerned about their future interactions being tainted and will be pretty sad if it seems like the wife doesn’t know. It’s a bit of a humiliation. And let’s be honest, the secret open marriage edge case posits are unlikely compared to what was probably happening.
It really doesn’t pass the golden rule test.
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Is the cheated-on wife attractive?
Yes. Unqualified.
Last edited by Johnny Truant; 07-28-2018 at 12:47 PM.